LostInAnomie
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Wed Aug-12-09 06:59 PM
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Poll question: When would be it ideal age to start having kids? (For the average person) |
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Edited on Wed Aug-12-09 07:01 PM by LostInAnomie
In general, what age should a person wait to start having kids? I'm talking about where there is no accidental conception, no psychological reasons to not have kids, and both parties are consistently and gainfully employed.
I would probably say somewhere around 30.
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annabanana
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Wed Aug-12-09 07:03 PM
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1. Whenever you're ready to provide a loving home.. . n/t |
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Wed Aug-12-09 07:16 PM
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You want to be young enough to chase them around when they are toddlers and young enough to relate when they are teens, you also want to be young enough to really enjoy life once they leave the nest. When our youngest is 18 my wife will be 40 and I'll be 43.
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Wed Aug-12-09 07:43 PM
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3. I can't agree that this would work for most people |
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I'm 24 and nowhere near ready to be a parent, emotionally, mentally, or financially. Maybe (if I've met the right person) in my late 20s or early 30s, but certainly not before then.
I'm glad it's worked out for you and your wife, though.
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Wed Aug-12-09 08:15 PM
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8. Some people are never ready to have kids. |
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I'm saying if you are planning on having them, the best time to do it is early.
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Thu Aug-13-09 12:25 AM
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9. I'm with you. I so wish my mom had waited until she was emotionally ready to be |
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a parent. What you lose in energy you more than make up for in maturity, patience and insight. Obviously that doesn't apply to everyone but it sure applies to me. The person I was in my early twenties wouldn't have made a good mom. It's only now that I feel that I can handle it, and I'm almost forty. I'm still on the fence, so we're pretty much going to stop trying to prevent pregnancy and see what happens. No fertility treatments or anything like that. We'll let nature decide.
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Thu Aug-13-09 03:12 PM
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16. i'm 28 and feel the same way |
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i have a hard enough time keeping my own stuff together and keeping myself afloat financially. hell, there are times i flake out and the cats have to yell at me to check the food bowl.
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Wed Aug-12-09 07:58 PM
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Also, the health risks are at their lowest and conception is easiest in one's early-mid twenties.
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Wed Aug-12-09 07:44 PM
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4. There is no average person. |
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Different people are ready at different ages. Physiologically it's probably easiest for women to have children in their 20s, but it's always best NOT to have children until you are ready psychologically.
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Wed Aug-12-09 07:49 PM
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5. when you are emotionally and financially stable enough to care for them for 20 years |
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Thu Aug-13-09 01:52 PM
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14. Nobody is ever emotinally and financially stable enough |
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I never thought I would be but it does mature you. I think most people wait too long. I know I did (but I didn't meet Mrs. AA until I was in my late 30s so...)
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Wed Aug-12-09 07:58 PM
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But that's just (get off my lawn!) me.
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Thu Aug-13-09 01:50 AM
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10. I'm interested to see if the Hispanic influx will bring back the extended family |
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If it did, then earlier might be better. Have kids, and while grandma, sis, and cousin are taking care of them, get a good education.
Later, when the kids are in school, you can work a solid job with some good pay and not have to take time off for babies. :shrug:
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Thu Aug-13-09 01:10 PM
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11. I had mine at 26 & 28. I am now almost 38 and can't imagine doing the |
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up all night and diapers thing again. Get tired just thinking about it. LOL
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Thu Aug-13-09 01:37 PM
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12. 20 years before you need your diapers changed |
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Old enough to take care of you and young enough to have the energy for it.
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Thu Aug-13-09 01:46 PM
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13. when you're pulling down |
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...a steady $75-100k or so. Trying to raise one on $40k is turning out to be a nightmare :(
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Thu Aug-13-09 02:07 PM
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15. What kind of question is that? |
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There's not one set formula for family planning.
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