Ladies--any issues w/dating guys who are shorter than you are?

[Bicoastal]

Last night, I met a girl at a friend's birthday party. We hit it off immediately and spent most of the evening in conversation--the last ones to leave, as a matter of fact. We're both huge liberals, both very into the arts, both enjoy similar movies, etc...and yes, she's single.

I've asked her out--on Facebook, natch--but while I wait on her response, one thing bugs me...

I'm 5 ft 6, and last night she had at least one or two inches over me. I forgot to check if she was wearing heels, but even so, that'd make me barely her hight, if not still half an inch or so smaller. And I've never dated a girl who wasn't a "petite" before-not because I'm intimidated or find them unattractive, mind you. I just don't see a lot of couples where the guy is the smaller one, and I guess I just decided not to waste my time going after them...

Do you have any problems dating men shorter than yourself? Have you ever actually DONE it? How about the other short dudes in here--any success?

[LeftyFingerPop]

1. I'm not a lady, but here is my opinion...

It is not like she is 6 1 and you are 5 feet.

It really should not matter...at least, I hope it would not matter to her.

[crim son]

5. Dude, you're totally a lady.

Don't sell yourself short. :P

[LeftyFingerPop]

7. crim son, that is the nicest thing anyone ever said to me.

[crim son]

8. I know it. n/t

[Dystopian]

12. !

:rofl:



peace~

[crim son]

14. Right back atcha!

:)

[newcriminal]

2. That is the one thing that I'm so irrational about.

I just am totally not attracted to short men. That is a very bitchy thing to say, and I know it. I wish I wasn't like that, but I can't help myself. I'm the first one to jump on men who won't date the "fat" chick, yet I discriminate myself. I know what a hypocrite. I believe it is because my father is short, and I'm not very fond of him. At least that's how I justify it to myself. If I really liked the guy and then he stood up and he was short could I deal with it? Maybe, but I know if I saw how short he was I wouldn't approach him first.


I should add this isn't about the op. I'm only 5 foot 4 inches so, he would be taller than me anyway.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear Bicoastal...

I dated a number of guys back in the day, and all of them were either shorter or just my height. I was 5'8" then...

I didn't mind it enough to have it be a deal breaker...

But I was happy when my husband turned out to be 6' tall.

Still, I nearly married a guy who was several inches shorter, and no, it wasn't his height that broke us up...

Don't let your height stop you from dating her!

And good luck!

Personalities are waaaay more important!

:hug:

[crim son]

4. It depends on the woman.

I'm female and have always felt huge and unfeminine, even when I was petite and skeletal. I could not date even very eligible guys because I felt ugly next to them, really like a monstrous troll. Maybe other women feel that way. I've also known a number of women in very happy relationships with men who are not as tall as they are, so again, I think it depends on the woman. And the man, but you are willing so I'd give it a shot.

I rather wish the shorter gentleman, those years ago, had eased my concerns. In the long run, height means nothing.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

6. Not too many men are shorter than me...

I'm 5'3". But back when I was a young thing, I dated a couple who were shorter. Never bothered me.

[pitohui]

9. same here, damn few are shorter than i, and yet i found one -- no problems or issues

he was asian and the issues we had were not about height (we're both short, he just happened to be shorter) but about class, race, and the fact that his parents had already "arranged" a marriage for him to a more appropriate woman, so i was just his low status bit of fun on the side

as a practical matter most adults are taller than me, but i would prefer a man not be MUCH taller than me, it would seem ridiculous, sort of mutt and jeff

if the guy is kinky enough to suit me, he can be shorter, he can be taller, who cares, we're all the same height lying down, right? :-)

[cherish44]

10. I'm slightly taller than my guy

I'm noticably taller than him when I wear certain shoes. Doesn't bother me in the least. I'm tall (5ft 7ish) and I do notice height just because I seem to be taller than most guys (I don't buy for a second that the average height for men is 5ft 9). But height has never been a deal breaker for me (now excessive back hair, yeah that's a little off-putting to me :))

[Flaxbee]

11. Ever hear of Nicholas Sarkozy and Carla Bruni?

:)

I have dated a few guys shorter than I am (I'm 5'7") but ended up married to someone who's 6'4".

One of my sisters is 5'9" and her husband is 5'6". They are blissfully happy.

Height difference of a few inches where the female is taller doesn't seem to be a big deal.

I think Julia Child was 4-5 inches taller than her husband, and they were very happy together.

[flvegan]

13. In college, I briefly dated whom I swear was Naomi Campbell's twin.

I'm 5'11" and she was the same NOT in heels. Because I'm so wide and she so slim, she looked even taller. When we went out, she appeared much taller than I.

No problems, though.

[Sultana]

15. I don't mind

but it irks me that I never get asked out by guys taller than me :/

I'm about 5'10''

[travelingtypist]

16. I'm shallow. I like tall men.

But if a guy was nice to me and treated me right and found my kinks and was happy to kink them, I wouldn't have a problem with it. My current guy isn't tall. He's only about 5'8". But he knows what he's doing.

[Bunny]

23. I'm shallow as well. I like them tall.

If a guy is short it wouldn't be a dealbreaker, but I definitely prefer taller men.

[elleng]

17. Not if they've got a brain.

[XemaSab]

18. A little shorter

if the guy had it all together other than that. :shrug:

[LeftyMom]

19. Statistical improbability.

I'm 5'2". There aren't many societies that routinely produce men below that mark and I don't happen to live in one that does. I can count on one hand the number of adult males I've ever *met* who were shorter than me.

[Drunken Irishman]

21. But would you date them...

:p

[LeftyMom]

22. If I were single and they were otherwise appealing?

Sure, I can't see why not.

[pitohui]

25. improbable as it is, it happened to me

it didn't last, not because of the height, but because of all our other differences and distances

height/appearance wasn't a problem at all, he was a cute muscular smooth-bodied asian type, just yummy

if only physical attraction were all we had to worry about in this life...being short is definitely not a deal breaker

i also learned that a guy can be short and still be, um, very well-developed, ok, no more about that!

[rcrush]

20. I'm a sexy midget

Named Timmy.

[Chan790]

24. I'm not a lady, but...

it seems the question is irrelevant. If she spent most of the evening talking to you and you had a connection (It seems unlikely that she would allow that you would monopolize her time if she didn't feel a connection.), then seemingly she doesn't have an issue with it.