What is it with some people?

[Highway61]

A bit of a rant, maybe to get some input or just to get this off my chest. A little background. My husband (second marriage for both of us)is really (IMO) an all around great person. He overcame a lot of obstacles when he was young. Was on his own since 17. His mother became ill with cancer when he was 8 and his father (if you want to call him that) ran off and left the family behind with a nurse (who was taking care of his mother at the time). To make a long story short, his mom passed away nine years later at age 43.
He worked two jobs, married a little too young and worked his way through school. They had a son together but a few years later they divorced for whatever. He was in constant contact with his boy, supported him and to this day they have a great relationship. Anyway, his son (now, my stepson) finished college and taught a year in CA. He decided to pursue a law degree in got accepted in San Diego. He finished his first year and came in 11th in his class. He applied to Boston College, NYU, Georgetown, Columbia University etc. He got accepted at all of the above and decided a transfer to Columbia. We moved him in his dorm last Sunday.
Now, we are NOT wealthy people. We come from humble backgrounds. I am a nurse and my hubby is a credit analyst. We both paid for our own schooling and busted to get where we are now. Although we helped out a lot with our children's college education, they have major loans that they are still paying off...and after Columbia there will be a LOT of money owed...but that is neither here nor there.
Here's the kicker. My husband was SO proud when his son finished 11th in his class and got accepted at Columbia (He was literally on cloud 9). He emailed his brother and his closest friend (2 weeks ago now)and neither one ever responded (and yes they got the email). He told his coworkers and not ONE said congratulations. (One did say, "you do know Columbia is in a rough section of NY") I can't tell you how I can see the hurt behind his eyes. My heart just broke for him. WTF is wrong with some people?
My dad used to have a saying..."ya buy a new car and no one will say it's nice etc, but put a big DENT into it and they will go out of their way to say something..."Jeez, what happened to your new car?"
Oh, by the way...his "friend" called last night and left a voice mail asking for my key lime pie recipe! That was it.

Sorry if I got long winded; like I said, I needed to get this off my chest.

[Bucky]

1. No matter what a woman says, if she ends it with "I wanted to get this off my chest..."

my mind wanders and I completely forget what she was talking about.

I am a bad person.



PS, major congratulations are in order here. I just sent one off to college, too. Give your fella a pat on the back from a stranger from Houston.



 

[Highway61]

5. Your not a bad person

a bit demented, but not bad :)
Thank you and congrats to you as well.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

2. "some people" just do not know how to give and/or receive compliments

there may be a bit of jealousy behind it all in this case :shrug:

eta: Major congrats to the kid and you two :toast:

[peekaloo]

3. well

I'll say congratulations to your stepson and best wishes.

:hi:

p.s. because I'm an ass I'd throw in a bogus ingredient for that Key Lime Pie. }(

[Highway61]

8. I thought of that as well

But I can't do that. He just won't get a reply from me nor the recipe. Sometimes silence speaks volumes.

[a kennedy]

4. I believe it's called the green with envy monster.......

:hug: and congrats to your step son.

[Highway61]

9. thank you

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. Wow! ivy league!!! go kid!!

sorry about assy friends/relatives

[Highway61]

7. My goodness

Thank you all for the congratulations.
However, I posted this for the purpose of getting my anger of the thoughtlessness out of the way. I just can't get past that type of behavior. Maybe because I am so NOT like that.

I am very proud of him as well. I can't take any of the credit though, I have only been in this young man's life for the past 10 years. He is a fine young man and is way politically cool :)

[yellowdogintexas]

10. may I add my congratulations and gratitude for another fine young person

going out to do great things?

you know, sometimes I think the worst thing about the 1960's and 1970's (my coming of age years) is the abandonment of etiquette and just plain good manners.

I see it so often in the younger people I work with.

thus endeth my rant.

all the best to you, your husband and your stepson!

[LibDemAlways]

11. My nephew just recently graduated from NYU, so I certainly

understand your pride and I offer my congratulations. People get so damn jealous of the accomplishments of others, they just can't find it within themselves to offer a kind word of support. It's a shame.

I'm going through something sort of similar. My dad passed away two weeks ago. I wrote notes to or called and left messages for several people I considered good friends. Haven't heard a word from most of them. This is one time where a friendly "I care" would mean a lot, but people are apparently too busy or too self-centered to think of anybody else.

Anyhow excuse the tangent. I do wish your stepson all the best!