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One, it could be a power play. He's just doing it because she tells him to stop. It's his way of staking his claim to an identity separate from her. That's a good thing, though maybe an annoying way to do it.
Two, he's laying the groundwork for more. She could catch him cheating, and he would argue it's just who he is, she should have seen the signs... sort of a way to keep her backpedaling on her expectations.
Three, it could be a sign from him that he doesn't want a committment, or it could be the leftover habit of that sign. If he got into this not wanting a permanent relationship, that could have been his way of keeping a distance and reminding her of who he is. Now it could be just a habit he hasn't stopped, or it could be that he still doesn't want a committment and is sabotaging it, or it could be that it's become my second point--since she put up with it, he figures she'll put up with it forevermore.
Four, it's just a stage he's in, and he'll grow out of it.
Five, it could be him trying to be honest, as in "Yeah, see, I like looking, but it means nothing, and to prove it, I'm sharing that part of me with you." I'm a little like that, actually. If I don't say what I'm thinking, I feel like I'm being dishonest by hiding it.
Probably more options, but it basically boils down to this: look for warning signs that he's not really committing or that he wants to play around after marriage, and if there aren't any of those, consider it a personality quirk or a sign of individuality. They will both do things that annoy the other, and I'm sure there are things that will bother him that she won't change either. Being able to love someone for who they are rather than for someone you can turn them into is the real sign of a relationship that works.
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