Anyone else fight with sig. other about room temperature at night?

[closeupready]

I need a cool room in which to sleep, but my partner argues it gets too cold for him. In the summer when we all agree it's hot, we have no arguments, but when cold weather comes, we fight all the time about turning the fan on/turning the fan off.

I'm really at wit's end how to resolve this. Anybody else in the same boat?

[Lars39]

1. Are you running a humidifier?

That helps the house feel warmer, even though you have the temp a little low.

[closeupready]

3. No, that's a good idea, though.

n/t

[kentauros]

2. Not any more!

But, when I was married, I was married to a Canadian. What she called "cool" was freezing to me (Native Houstonian.) To keep the peace, I just had to put up with it. wear long sleeves and have a blanket or two on me throughout the year. Had I kept things at the warmer temps I liked, it would have been a much shorter marriage...

[closeupready]

4. It feels like after last night, ours is over.

I mean, he is also from a warmer climate, me from a cooler one. I literally can not sleep unless it's cool. He is just the opposite.

[kentauros]

7. Specialty beds then.

No need to sleep in separate rooms, unless it's also the ambient air temp that's bothersome. Still, someone is going to have to compromise.

I hope you two can work it out somehow. Sleeping together is important, in my opinion :)

[kiva]

5. Knew a guy who swore his marriage succeeded

because he and his wife had separate bedrooms. When someone asked about the lack of romance, he replied that they had signals when either was feeling amorous which he found more interesting. Don't know if I entirely agree, but worth a thought.

[closeupready]

6. LOL - love it!

:rofl: Might be something to that. ;)

[david13]

12. Absolutely true. It will help your marriage. Romance, you can do

anytime you 2 feel like it. But peaceful uninterrupted sleep, separate bedrooms can work wonders in a marriage.
Same thing with temperature.
dc

[mike_c]

8. you and I were meant for one another....

LOL. I sleep with the bedroom windows open all winter long. I don't like being COLD, really-- I use a down blanket and throw extra cats on the bed as necessary-- but I like the room cold and the air I breathe positively icy. The SO, not so much. She tolerates it-- we've only been together for a year or so, so even though we live together, we're still being respectful of one another's foibles, but I KNOW she wants to close those windows! I'd probably have to switch bedrooms in the event, though-- I just can't stand sleeping in a stuffy room, and my definition of stuffy pretty much means "not outdoors." If I had shelter for a bed, I'd happily sleep in the backyard all year 'round.

[trof]

9. Yeah. Pistols at dawn.

I missed her entirely, this time.
She winged me.
So she wins.
We settle most of our arguments this way.
Cuts down on the bickering, which is tiresome for both of us.

But anyway, that's why I now sleep in thermal underwear in the winter.
:-)

[hippywife]

10. Nope.

We agree on turning the thermostat way down at night and bundling up. We throw on lots of blankets when the temp really gets down low. I tend to run a little warm so I give him most of the blankets.

:hi:

[noamnety]

11. We can't agree on temperature.

It probably doesn't help that the waterbed heater is on his side, so he's already too warm and has the butt-heater all night.

I finally gave up on compromise. I remade the bed one day with one set of blankets on his side, and an entirely different more robust set on mine, sometimes sleeping in a winterized sleeping bag over on my side, with a hat. I would be okay with that but when my legs are confined in the bag it's harder to kick him when he snores, so now I'm back to a thick stack of blankets and on especially cold nights sometimes sweatpants or sweatshirts. My sister has made me a couple of comfy knit hats, having the warm ears helps a huge amount.

I figure it's on the person who's too cold to find a way to resolve it because you can bundle up if you're cold, but if you're too warm you're kind of screwed.

[av8rdave]

13. No, not at night....

All the *&%$ing time!

[Flaxbee]

14. yup. I like cooler, even cold, so long as I have blankets to

cuddle under. He likes it warmer (probably comes from growing up in South Carolina and being used to humid, warm nights). I can't sleep if it's too warm, though.

The temp. doesn't always come up, but when it does, I don't know how to resolve it, either.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

15. Ladies, if you are cold all the time....

PLEASE go get your thyroid checked. It might be dead.
Your temp will probably be subnormal as well. Mine was a degree and a half below normal when I was not taking enough thyroid, and my BP was 90 over 60.

This applies to men as well, but it's more common in females who may get it as preadolescents (like me) or near menopause.

More info: www.stopthethyroidmadness.com

[rcrush]

19. Is that why women are always cold?

Every girl I've ever met shivers like a chihuahua.

[cleveramerican]

16. my crazy wife wants the fucking window open a half inch...

even in the winter... even when the heat is on...some crazy bullshit about how it helped her grandmother live to 100 years old.

I just see hundreds of dollars of heat flying out the damn window!!!!


I'm sorry this is a touchy subject.... you can't win this.... agree to disagree.... you once loved him for his quirks. keep thinking about that!

[pokerfan]

20. Well that's just silly

A friend of mine discovered that his nephew had been opening his window at night because it was too hot in his room. His brother couldn't figure out why their fuel usage had skyrocketed. I told him that story would have made a pretty good Calvin and Hobbes cartoon.

I turn the furnace down to 50 at night because the sound of it kicking on tends to wake me up. Also because I like sleeping in a cold room under a bunch of covers.

[seabeyond]

17. i have three blankets on my side and hubby warms my hands and feet

he wants it cold, he has to keep me warm.

[tigereye]

18. nope, just about the covers...

:D