Am I the oldest person here who has never married?

[Archae]

I'm 51, did get close to marrying, a couple decades ago.

But we broke it off.

Anyone here older, yet never married?
And are you happy?

I am, mainly due to my two cats.

[seabeyond]

1. glad you are happy with your choices.

i could have been single for life. i didnt marry until 32. but was always happy single.

[IcyPeas]

2. 54 and single here.

I would say I am content. It just never happened for me. Never wanted children so there is no regret there either.

[DFW]

3. I took a completely different route

(See "miracles" thread) but I say cheers to anyone who is happy with their situation.
Enough people aren't, and if you are happy as you are, well, then bravo. Different strokes
for different folks--truer words were never spoken.

[rrneck]

4. 54

Wouldn't have it any other way.

[MiddleFingerMom]

5. I got married and divorced pretty young -- from a high extreme to a LOW LOW LOW one.

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It didn't sour me on marriage, but it never really came up again.
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There IS "one who got away" around the late 80's/early 90's...
but that was my "blindness 'til it was too late" that stopped that.
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When I was married and it was GOOD... nothing in my life ever
better (making music with the band came pretty damn close).
But I've been IMMENSELY happy through most of my life.
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I DO get a little wistful sometimes when I see an older couple
just holding hands -- knowing I'll never experience the quiet
joy of having grown old with someone -- having shared much
or most of a life together through happiness and trials.
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Then again:
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I like to sleep until the crack of noon
midnight howlin' at the moon
goin' out when I wanto, comin' home when I please
I don't have to ask permission
if I want to go out fishing
and I never have to ask for the keys
(Tom Waits -- "Better Off Without a Wife")
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Of course, there are OTHER perks with the single life.
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[givemebackmycountry]

9. No matter what anyone says about you MFM, I will defend you for the Waits reference...

A few weeks ago I was with my Mom (79) and her sister (my aunt) who is 84, and my two female cousins who are 55 and 60, and my sister who is 50.
Everyone was remarking that even though I am 55, and I have a full head of brown hair, I have virtually no gray hair.
My aunt, who I love to death asked me if I "colored" my hair.
I laughed, and I responded that the reason I had no gray hair was that I also had no kids and no wife.

And then to their complete shock, I launched into a song...

"All my friends are married, every Tom and Dick and Harry, you must be strong if your to go it alone"

MFM, you rule.

[gimama]

35. Tom Waits fan? Looking for a song of his..

for about a yr., now..can't find a streaming version on the inner-nets,
(or even the lyrics), but I'm sure it's his..
"If even I
can find
someone..
there's HOPE
for us all.."!
Do You know the tune? Any suggestions where I can find it?
SOME days, I find m'Self singin' those lines, but I really want to hear HIM sing it again.

sorry to go off topic, I got excited :)

[Curmudgeoness]

6. I'm 57 and never married. Also came close a few times

but luckily didn't do it. I did live with a guy once for 4 years, which was enough to tell me I was much better off single.

I am happier than most of the married people who I know. I don't believe that I would be happy married, it is so much better to deal with only my problems instead of mine and his.

Am I pathetic? Or smart? I never can tell.

[RebelOne]

7. I'm 72 and was married once and divorced at 25 with 2 kids.

But never did it again. Have had many close calls, but I preferred to stay single and keep my sanity.

[applegrove]

8. I have always been single and like having so much time to myself. I'd make a horrible spouse. I'd

always be looking for ways to get away on my own.

[NV Whino]

10. I'm older than dirt

Never married and happy as a clam. Hmm, let's see if I can come up with any more cliches.

I like living alone. I'd make a terrible spouse. Ever so happy I never had children, too.

[The Doctor.]

12. Dirt? Well aren't you a whelp! Me, I'm older than hydrogen.

That fucking bastard stole my thunder with his 'One proton, One electron' gimmick! Fuck him!

Then, he went and fucked with oxygen (who I totally had a thing for), and the next thing I knew... I was all wet!

But at least I'm still good for dating!

(Who am I?)

[NV Whino]

18. Just because H20 got here first...

:P

[The Doctor.]

11. DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is all.

Oh, and I envy you. Deeply. I got married around the same time you 'might' have. I took the hit, you didn't. Be glad. I'm done with the notion entirely.

[Brigid]

13. dupe

[Brigid]

14. Almost 53 and never married.

Husbands are too hard to raise. Cats are much easier. :evingrin:

[doc03]

15. I am 63 and happily single, since I have gotten older I do

worry about what will happen to me if I become sick.

[Curmudgeoness]

34. I have begun to worry too (at 57), but I keep thinking

there must be a better way than finding a spouse to feel more secure. And I have 3 friends who hit that wall, and found men to live with or marry. All 3 have ended up having to be a caregiver to the man instead. Life can really suck.

[Kat45]

16. I'm 56 and never married, but I'm unhappy about it.

It's not so much marriage that I'm missing as it is falling in love. Though I've had relationships, including living together, I don't think I've ever been truly, deeply in love. I also believe that being in love, having a life partner who you're in love with, is probably the best thing one can experience while living on this planet and I'd like to experience it while I'm still here. From my observations, it also seems to be the quickest route to happiness.

I never really cared about marriage much when I was younger; I figured I'd probably do it "someday." Unfortunately, "someday" has been here for quite a while now. I'm thinking about marriage itself more in recent years because I want to have somebody who I know is there for me, somebody in my corner, when I get old. I have no siblings, have no family, and it scares me to not have a next-of-kin.

(I have a boyfriend currently, but it's more just enjoying doing things together at the present; he doesn't love me or want a future together. Just my luck that when I met someone, this is what I got.)

[seabeyond]

24. .

:hi:

:hug:

i want you to have it, too.

because that is what you want.

[Kat45]

27. Thank you, seabeyond.

I appreciate that. :hi: :hug:

[Skip Intro]

17. 50 coming soon for me, never married.

I'm fairly happy. Wish I had a few good friends to hang out with, hit a bar now and then, take a road trip, etc. Not sure why I don't have that, but it's ok.

I have one cat, and a changing two or three outside that I feed, but I really like having my inside cat around. She's a character.

I wouldn't trade it, though. I like my freedom too much. I like to be able to come and go as I please without explanation. I like the single lifestyle, even if it gets a bit boring and lonely now and then. Just need to find one or two like-minded souls with a sense of adventure.

No remorse. No regrets.

[hifiguy]

19. 54 now, 55 this September

Not even a date in my life, much less marriage.

Asperger DX six years ago explained everything :)

[Gidney N Cloyd]

20. 53 and came close several times but one or the other of us was never all in.

It hasn't bothered me much until the last couple years. The world is not made for single people over 35 or so.

[mucifer]

21. 45 years old I have friends but have had no serious

significant other type relationships. I'm a hospice nurse and I see people and how they die. My job gives me joy. But, I also know the importance of being married and having kids.
I've seen many people with very little money die at home surrounded by loved ones at the end of their lives. It really is beautiful. There is a certain amount of giving and receiving that married people and their kids have that we don't have and I believe it comes back to bite us at the end of life if we live a long life. I do get depressed about this.

[warrior1]

22. 55

never been married. But, hey I can't anyway because I'm gay.

[raccoon]

23. You're not. I'm late 50's, never married.

I did live with a guy for 5 1/2 years, though.

I live happily with my one cat. :hi:

[meow2u3]

25. I'm 50 and never married

The last time I had a boyfriend was 18 1/2 years ago, and he was emotionally abusive--a con man who turned out to be a serial wife beater. Thank God I didn't marry him; I would have been his next punching bag. And no one would have believed me, to boot, because he was popular in his occupation.

I learned from the mistake better known as my last ex-boyfriend/live-in not only never to shack up with someone before you marry him (he got the gravy and I got the shaft), but also not to belive any sweet-talker before you get to know him.

Well, I did end up with a car he put in my name, so I packed up my stuff and left for my mom's house back in 1992. I've sworn off American men and have been celibate ever since.

I have my mother-and-son cats, so I'm a little happy. I do miss the human companionship.

My last ex-BF was an attempt to try to get over the loss of the only man I ever really loved, who, sadly, returned to his home country. At least he was honest in that he suggested I needed medical care, which I'm getting right now. He wouldn't date me because he told it to me straight that he couldn't deal with a woman with an untreated psychiatric condition. I got treatment too late. :(

[LibertyLover]

26. I was 44 before I married - except for my darling little girl

I wish I had remained single.

[provis99]

28. 41 and single. And it blows.

But I do have 3 cats. I think I'm turning into a catman.

[Rowdyboy]

29. 57 and never wed but will be once my guy and I go to Provincetown....

We've been together 22 years but Mississippi won't let us get married. I needed a relationship to be happy but not everyone does. My best friend has been in a loveless marriage for 15 years and that is my nightmare. I can't imagine anything less tolerable.

[wysimdnwyg]

30. You all make me feel better :)

41 with no desire to get married, and certainly not have kids.

I did begin to approach the idea of a long term relationship once, but I was way too immature to maintain anything lasting at the time.

[Akoto]

31. If it helps, I'm 26, but I've long since decided to stay single.

I have a boatload of medical problems, on disability already, so on. I don't need to load another human down with daily healthfest. :P

Honestly, it doesn't bother me much. I'm happy alone (albeit with familial company).

[Iggo]

32. 49.

Never been. Never gonna.

(Almost did, and totally woulda, but she flaked. Luckiest day of my life...lol.)

[Iggo]

33. edit -- dupe.

[clixtox]

36. At 64 I've never made the same mistake once! N/T