:(

[dawg]

She's stopped wearing her wedding ring.

She was wearing some silver-looking thing on her ring finger today. Probably something someone gave her.

Good God, this is painful.

:cry:

[siligut]

1. Consider that it was a painful reminder for her?

:hug:

[dawg]

2. We haven't even filed papers yet ...

I was hoping ...

Well, I'm an idiot.

[siligut]

3. Not an idiot at all

Splitting up is a very painful thing, wanting to avoid pain is every sentient being's goal and right. :hug: Go for a walk, see a distracting film, make your favorite food, listen to your old favorite music, anything that doesn't remind you of her.

[seabeyond]

4. .

:hug:

[dawg]

5. At this point, it isn't just about losing her ...

I mean, it does hurt losing her. I still love her, and for literally most of my adult life, I was madly *in-love* with her and could not even imagine myself with someone else.

So losing her does hurt ... lots.

But I'm just so damned confused.

I thought I was special to her. All the years, all the shared experiences.

I thought we were *family*.

I guess I'm just plain vanilla, and she wants to try other flavors. But wouldn't it suck to never be able to have vanilla again? (It's popular for a reason, you know.)

Oh well.

[seabeyond]

7. the thing

why dont you know you deserve better and more. and why are you seeing yourself as not good enough when reality is... it is her failure, not yours.

[Flaxbee]

6. I'm sorry, dawg

:hug:

I have no comfort to offer other than it has happened to others, and they got through it given enough time.

Meanwhile, if you can, be kind to yourself. Be with friends, and try not to see it that something is wrong with you, but that she has just changed. It does happen, and unfortunately people do grow apart - sometimes it's just one person who changes.

[kimi]

8. I'm sorry

Not many words here. I've gone through a painful split recently, so I empathize. It does hurt. I feel for you, friend. They say that time will make it better.

Here's a hug. :hug:

Take care, really.

[dj_open]

9. With time

With time your focus will change, but for now, life's a bitch.

Take an early morning boot-camp class so at least you can start the day without thinking about her. Grab some guys, drink some beers. Your life is most certainly not over, and you can find smart, kind, and beautiful women to share it with.

I also recommend watching some James Bond films and staying as far away from her as possible.

is there a bro-hug smiley?