It's been a year and a half and I can't get this girl out of my head.

[Paradoxical]

We "dated" briefly during the winter of 2009. I say "dated" with quotations because she apparently did not think that us going out to dinner and to see movies was dating.

One evening after several weeks of this, I told her that I was interested in more than just going out to movies and having dinner. I actually wanted to be in a committed relationship.

Long story short, she told me she wasn't ready for such a relationship because she was a freshman in college (and I a sophomore). We awkwardly agreed to still be friends. And came to the conclusion that things could change in the future.

I then went home and had a bit of an emotional break down . Nothing particularly atypical. I got over it quickly and moved on with my life. Or so I thought. In fact, I haven't gone more than a month without thinking of her. Which may not sound like a lot. But it comes at even intervals so perfect so that my brain cannot let it go.

And what's worse is that I see her quite often. And every time we are around each other, that chemistry that we briefly had seems to come back alive. In fact, I actually thought she was interested in me a few weeks ago. But then I found out she is dating someone else.

So now all of the rawness of the wound from so long ago has been rehashed. And I'm having difficulty letting things go. Every time I see her or see anything related to her, I get this deep urge to throw up.

[ohheckyeah]

1. If it's meant to be

it will come back around. It did for me and we've been married for 14 years today.

I wish you the best.

[Maine-ah]

9. same here :)

on again - off again....in high school. Hubbie and I "found" each other again sixteen years ago.

congrats and happy anniversary! :toast:

[ohheckyeah]

15. Thank you very much. n/t

[dawg]

2. Relationship pain sucks.

Sometimes, I wish I had lived in a culture where my Dad would have just bought me a wife when I turned 21. He would probably have picked a better one than I did.

[dawg]

3. Gee dawg, that sounds kinda mean.

Why insult your stbx like that? After all, you were happy together for many years.

[dawg]

4. You're right, dude.

I'm just feeling a little pissy today. She's a great girl in many ways, and I'll always love her. She's just decided that she wants something different from me, and who am I to argue with that?

[raccoon]

5. Good going, dawg. Sometimes I feel like, Why doesn't anybody respond to me?

Next time, I'll think, "What Would Dawg Do?"

[dawg]

6. WWdD?

I'm printing up the bumper stickers right now!

[dawg]

7. Don't you think that sounds a little sacrilegious?

n/t

[dawg]

8. Right again, dawg.

I was thinking more about all the people who just blindly wore all those WWJD bracelets because they were popular.

In reality, I think the world would be a fabulously wonderful place is people really did try to do what Jesus would do. dawg, not so much.

[snooper2]

12. Are you talking to yourself

Come on, we talked about that

[MilesColtrane]

10. I don't know what to tell you.

I was in a similar situation.

After receiving the "let's just be friends" line, I tried to do that for about a month.

It became increasingly painful to be around her and pretend that I was just her buddy. (She was a co-worker.)

I made the decision to completely cut myself off from her-cold turkey, and did so after explaining to her why. (Going as far as quitting the job we were both on.)

I still thought of her and occasionally dreamed about her for years after.

It sucked, but the pain has become duller and smaller with time.

[Deep13]

11. You're obsessing.

I know because I've been there.

You need to convince yourself that it is over and move on. Trying to will someone's affections is like plowing the sea, a pointless waste of time and effort.

[Amaril]

13. I think we all have one person we can't quite forget

...........but while yours is bittersweet, mine verges on the ridiculous.

I met someone several years ago with whom I shared an intense attraction -- at least it seemed to be mutual, but I was married at the time (marriage was already in its death throes, but it would be another year before we separated for the last time and eventually divorced), so it wasn't pursued by either of us. We saw each other maybe 5 or 6 times at different parties and gatherings -- we had mutual friends -- and then I distanced myself from the friends we had in common (they were a seriously dysfunctional couple -- she was a bi-polar who refused to take her meds and he lacked the ability to keep his hands - and other body parts - off other women -- and I just couldn't handle their drama on top of my own). Shortly after that, my ex-husband and I separated and I moved to a different city.

I never saw him again, but even now -- 11 years later -- he still pops in my head from time to time. Through a series of curious events, I find myself living back in the area again. I won't intentionally look him up -- have no idea if he is still even in the area or what may have ever happened to him (my only connection to him was through the aforementioned dysfunctional couple and I have no interest in going "there" again) so I wouldn't even know where to begin to look. Like someone else said, if it was meant to be, then our paths will cross again.

Are you listening, Universe?

[bikebloke]

14. Kylie can relate to that.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IFx3WX4DES0