my mum died

[Skittles]

diagnosed with stomach cancer April 13, she passed away in a hospice between the royal wedding (she was unconscious but I hope she heard it on the TV in her room) and the death of Osama (DAMN I was sorry she missed that)......an indomitable Brit to the end, one of her last declarations voiced her pride at living longer than Elizabeth Taylor. Mum was 80.

[bluesbassman]

1. So sorry to hear that Skittles.

Big hug for you. :hug:

[JohnnyLib2]

2. My sympathies.

Hugs at a sad time.

[Ptah]

3. saddened to hear this

[txwhitedove]

4. Oh Skittles, if she was your mum, she must have been wonderful

It's hard loosing your mom, no matter what their age or yours.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

5. I'm sorry to hear that, Skittles

She looks like one of those cheerful yet no-nonsense English women.

I lost my mother in February, and it's truly a bereft feeling.

[MiddleFingerMom]

6. I'm sorry for your loss, Skittles.

.
.
.
My mom also died at 80 in hospice... the day after 9/11 (I'm NOT sorry she missed that).
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.
.
She had led a long full life and was ready, even eager... as she knew that "life" didn't
mean much for her anymore -- and her belief system told her that all those who had
passed before her that she missed so much would be waiting for her with open arms...
no matter what she found on the other side.
.
.
.Your mum is at peace now. I hope you find (or have already found) the same.
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:hug:
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[BarenakedLady]

7. *hugs*

:hug:

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

[siligut]

8. That is a wonderful picture

My condolences

[femmocrat]

9. My deepest sympathy, Skittles.

:hug:

[Lars39]

10. I'm so sorry for your loss, Skittles.

:hug:

[LaurenG]

11. I am so sorry Skittles.

:hug:

[underpants]

12. I'm so sorry to hear that

our thoughts are with you Skittles.

[CrownPrinceBandar]

13. Sorry for your loss, Skittles.

[warrior1]

14. I'm so sorry for your loss.

xo

[av8rdave]

15. I am so sorry for your loss

My condolences to you and yours at this difficult time.

[Lucinda]

16. Her friends and your family are in my thoughts

That's a great picture. :)

[ornotna]

17. My sympathies Skittles

Lovely picture. :hug:

[applegrove]

18. So sorry Skittles.

[one_voice]

19. I'm sorry for your loss Skittles...

:hug:

[nolabear]

20. Ah, Skittles, I'm sorry. Peace to you both.

[grasswire]

21. So sorry, dear

When I looked at that picture, I could only think that nothing is more sweet than to have mother's arm around you. You both look so happy that day. May your memories of the good times comfort you in the days ahead. And remember to practice good self care.

Peace and love.

[some guy]

22. I'm so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

23. I'm so very sorry, hon! *hugest of hugs*

[hamsterjill]

24. I'm so sorry.

Sounds like she was a very special lady, a good mum. My sympathies.

[Zorra]

25. So sorry, sweetie.

:hug:

[kwassa]

26. Sorry for your loss.

[Luciferous]

27. I'm sorry for your loss.

[struggle4progress]

28. Sorry to hear it

[WillyT]

29. I'm So Sorry Skittles...

:cry:

:grouphug:

Peace...

[Kat45]

30. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I lost my mother three years ago, and I know how difficult it is. That's a beautiful photo you posted, quite heartwarming.

[TuxedoKat]

31. I'm so sorry

for the loss of your beloved mum. Are you that cute little girl in the photo? That is such a loving photo -- you had a beautiful mum.

[Swede]

32. Sorry to hear this,Skittles.

Condolences to you and yours.

[emilyg]

33. My condolences.

[bigwillq]

34. I am very sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[hedgehog]

35. So sorry to hear this

[Chellee]

36. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[woo me with science]

37. My deepest sympathy, Skittles.

Peace to you.

[SOteric]

38. My deepest sympathies, Skittles.

:hug: I lost my own dear Mom a few years back. Mothers are a particular loss for any daughter. She raised a damn fine individual in you and we're proud to know you around here.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

39. I am so sorry to hear this, my dear Skittles...

She looks like a great mum too...

I'm sure she heard the wedding! Hearing is the last sense to go...

I hope she went easy...

Safe passage to her...

I hope your memories will sustain you in your time of loss...

:hug:

[Skittles]

72. the hospice was a nice, simple place

she could have opted for home hospice but she was afraid my autistic brother would not understand

[MilesColtrane]

40. Aww, Skittles.

My Dad died of cancer six years ago.

I can tell you that, while it will always hurt, after a while the good memories overtake the bad.

I wish we could kick this damned disease's ass...yes indeed.

:hug:

[snagglepuss]

41. I am so sorry.

:(

[Name removed]

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[blondeatlast]

43. I'm so very sorry, Skittles.

Take care of yourself. :hug:

[Flaxbee]

44. I'm sorry, Skittles

I hope you're alright. I lost my dad recently, too. :hug:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

45. I'm very sorry for your loss, Skittles.

:hug: :hug:

[Lil Missy]

46. Aww, I'm sorry Skittles.

:hug:

[Amerigo Vespucci]

47. Sorry for your loss Skittles...

:grouphug:

[Rowdyboy]

48. Mine loved me most, longest, hardest and even when I fought it....She still keeps me warm

even though she's been gone a dozen years.

I'm so sorry.

[marzipanni]

49. I'm sorry Skittles

You, me, and all the people whose mothers are no longer with us... :grouphug:
In a month it will have been a year since my mom died, and I still think of things to talk about with her. She lived across the country but we talked on the phone a lot.
It must be especially hard because your mum didn't live long after the diagnosis was made. I hope you got to spend time with her in recent years.

[Withywindle]

50. I'm so, so sorry, Skittles.

:hug:

[Kaleva]

51. Very sorry to hear that.

[denbot]

52. I'm sorry for your loss.

Peace

[MissHoneychurch]

53. My condolences Skittles

:hug:

May she rest in peace.

[AllenVanAllen]

54. I'm sorry Skittles.

My heart goes out to you and your loved ones. :hug:

[sarge43]

55. Sincere condolences, Skittles

I know how it hurts to lose Mom. "I'm nobody's baby anymore."

Strength and peace

[rurallib]

56. deepest sympathies, Skittles.

[Bake]

57. So sorry for your loss, Skittles!

:hug:

Bake

[WillParkinson]

58. Very sorry for your loss...

And much <3 for your family.

[redwitch]

59. I am sorry Skittles.

:hug:

[trof]

60. I am so sorry, dear Skittles.

:hug:

[raccoon]

61. I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mother 7 years ago.

:hug:

[peekaloo]

62. Condolences.

:hug:

[Bertha Venation]

63. Oh, Skittles

I am so sorry. :cry:

[Richardo]

64. My condolences, Skittles

Peace and strength to your and your family.

[progressoid]

65. Oh Skittles.

So terribly sorry. :hug:

[Call Me Wesley]

66. Safe passage to your mum.

May she be free from suffering. Peace and comfort to you and yours, Skittles. :hug:

[kentauros]

67. I'm so very sorry to hear that, Skittles

I know it's rough, and I still haven't gone through that myself. Here's some hugs for you :hug:

[fizzgig]

68. i'm so sorry, skittles

:hug:

[Demonaut]

69. I'm so sorry Skittles...

great picture of her

[Tripper11]

70. my condolences Skittles....n/t

[Iggo]

71. Aw.

:hug:

[Skittles]

73. thanking you all

I'm always kicking ass but life has a way of kicking ass too - the trick is to remember the good times, be good to each other (and ourselves) and carry on. Yup.

[Tikki]

74. We are saddened at this news....

You and your family are in our thoughts.


The Tikkis

[Maine-ah]

75. I'm sorry for your loss, Skittles

:grouphug:

[One_Life_To_Give]

76. Sorry for your loss

:hug:

[GoCubsGo]

77. I'm so sorry.

Big hug.

[csziggy]

78. Condolences to you and your family

:hug:

[LiberalLoner]

79. I am so sorry for your loss. n/t

[Phentex]

80. I'm sorry, Skittles...

I'll be thinking of you.

:hug:

[geardaddy]

81. So sorry Skittles

Sorry for your loss.

[texanwitch]

82. I am so sorry Skittles.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[OhioChick]

83. I'm so sorry, Skittles

:hug:

[ChromeFoundry]

84. Deepest condolences, Skittles

:hug:

[BlueIris]

85. ((((( Skittles & Mum of Skittles ))))) nt

[Forkboy]

86. I'm really sorry to hear that.

:hug:

[Moondog]

87. My condolences, Ms Skittles.

[DainBramaged]

88. I am so so sorry

peace for both of you


:hug: :cry:

[Yavin4]

89. I am very sorry for your loss

My condolences

[CherokeeDem]

90. So sorry for your loss...

may you find solace and joy in her memory.

[WilliamPitt]

91. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[undeterred]

92. I'm so sorry for your loss.

:hug: :hug:

[Gidney N Cloyd]

93. Sympathies and best thoughts out to your family.

[krispos42]

94. I echo the others here. Sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[rug]

95. So sorry.

When I'm gone I hope you see how happy
she made me
For I'll be there
In my daughter's eyes

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLS0Y40WwlA

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

96. You have my sympathy, Skittles

On the plus side, she lived a long time, and raised a great daughter.

:hi:

[Bossy Monkey]

97. So sorry.

Awesome picture, though. :hug:

[Dr Fate]

98. Thinking of you. You will get through this.

My mom died when I was 21, so I have an idea of what you are going through. Try focusing on all the positive memories.

Cool- she beat Liz- she sounds like she was a great gal!

[smokey nj]

99. I'm sorry Skittles.

:hug:

[WinkyDink]

100. {{{Skittles}}}. Bless you and your Mum.

[Brickbat]

101. It's clear where you learned your ass-kicking ways.

A different style, perhaps, but a definite resemblance. You're in my thoughts.

[KG]

102. sorry to hear this...

[mike_c]

103. deepest sympathies, Skittles....

:hug:

[MrScorpio]

104. My condolences

She did a wonderful job raising you. I'm sure that you're very proud of her.

:hug:

[Skittles]

105. she had cut a pic of our prez and Michelle with the queen out of the newspaper

it was magneted on her fridge - that made me smile :)

[Kali]

106. aww such a sweet picture

I'm so sorry - this is one of those life events that can be really hard. My Mom has been gone 15 years and I still come across little things that I want to ask or tell her.

My condolences to you and any other family.

[Lasher]

107. I am so sorry.

Try to focus on how lucky you were to have had her while you did. Think about the good times. A smile and a tear, Skittles, a smile and a tear.

[kimi]

108. Oh Skittles

My deepest sympathy.

Peace to you and yours. Hugs.

[lifesbeautifulmagic]

109. my deepest sympathies

just know she raised up one awesome daughter. Take care.

[SoCalDem]

110. Awww, I'm so sorry Skittles

:hug:

[Vidar]

111. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[Dystopian]

112. Heartfelt condolences

Dear Skittles~

My heart goes out to you and your family.
Thank you for sharing the beautiful photo.

Love is forever ....



peace~

[blogslut]

113. I'm sorry, Skittles

May the love you shared live forever.

[RedCloud]

114. deepest sympathy Skittles.

My mom died at age 80 too last year on the date when her hero met a bullet in Dallas, Texas.

[pink-o]

115. My Canadian mum Joan was born on Xmas day, 1924

...consequently sharing a b'day with Rod Serling, creator of "Twilight Zone". Believe me, both scared me equally when I was a little kid!

But later on, when I returned home after living in London for awhile, Mum and I became great friends. She had me at age 30, but sometimes I got on with her better than people my own age. I always told her if we'd been peers, we'd've been calling my Dad for bail money at least once in our lives.

I used to hear girls go on about how their Mums drove them crazy, how they criticized and undermined them, and I appreciated even more how lucky I was to have Joan for a mother. She never judged my Boho lifestyle, never told me I should be married with kids. I think a part of her always enjoyed she had a free-spirited daughter. When I started working for the airline industry, she and Dad took full advantage of my travel benefits, and went all over the world. Many times during the 90s, I'd meet my parents in Italy, Spain or France and get tipsy on good European wine in sidewalk trattorias. Great times.

I lost Joan at the beginning of 2007, just after the holidays and her 82nd b'day. Like your mum, she was diagnosed, then went quickly, leaving us all the poorer for it. I can tell you, it does get less painful, but you will never stop missing your mother. Joan and I watched Charles and Diana get married in 1981; so sorry she couldn't see Diana's son do the same. She never saw Obama win the election either, which would have delighted her.

What got me through the worst of my grief was knowing my mother wouldn't want me to be sad--she'd expect me to live my own life to its fullest and not waste time mourning. Also, knowing we had done our best to put aside any stupid issues, shared such rich experiences during her life, and that she'd been pretty content with what life had given her helped a lot. I know you'll find your own ways of getting through it, but I hope some of this can soothe a bit. Take care, remember her fondly and look after yourself--cuz that's what Mum would want!

[abbeyco]

116. My condolences and sympathies to you, Skittles

I hope you bathe in the wonderful memories of your Mum; your description made me smile - she sounded like a wonderful woman.

[senseandsensibility]

117. My sympathies

I am so sorry, Skittles. She sounds as if she was a wonderful woman.

[flvegan]

118. I'm so sorry Skittles.

Just seeing this now. My heart goes out to you.

[Curmudgeoness]

119. My condolences. It was ten years ago this week that I lost my mom,

and I still miss her every day. I hope you have a good support group/family to lean on. This is one of the hardest things to go through, even if we know it will happen one day.

:hug:

[tech9413]

120. Sorry I missed that, I usually just follow news topics

My Dad died back in February but he made it to 90. His last days were comfortable and he was alert and interested until hours before he passed. I think he just decided it was time. He couldn't be the active, engaged person he had always been. I think he decided it was better to pass than be so crippled that he couldn't do what he loved.

I hope you have the support to help you deal with the loss. For me, I'm pretty sure it will be years before I adjust even with family support. My Dad and I never had a really close relationship because we were so similar. Stubborn and not vocal about feelings. It wasn't until his last days that I was able to express how much he meant to me and what I had done in my life.

There is never a wrong time to tell those in your life how much they mean and have affected you.

We are with you Skittles

[Cass]

121. I'm so sorry, Skittles.

There's not much I can say so I will simply say this

The Little Ship

I stood watching as the little ship sailed out to sea. The setting sun tinted his white sails with a golden light, and as he disappeared from sight a voice at my side whispered, “He is gone”.

But the sea was a narrow one. On the farther shore a little band of friends had gathered to watch and wait in happy expectation. Suddenly they caught sight of the tiny sail and, at the very moment when my companion had whispered, “He is gone” a glad shout went up in joyous welcome, “Here he comes!”

[davsand]

122. I am sorry to hear about your loss.

Deepest sympathies to you and your family in this time of loss. Your mom must have been an amazing lady. She raised a pretty cool daughter in you, and from what I recall you've mentioned having been an Air Force kid which means your mom probably moved a few times over the years with your dad. THAT by itself speaks volumes to me about the indomitable spirit she must have been.

Again, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.




Laura

[merh]

123. Safe passage Mother Skittles

I am sorry for your loss Skittles and I hope your memories will bring you comfort tomorrow and during the years to come.

[cherokeeprogressive]

124. Aw damn...

You are my absolute favorite DU'er. I can only imagine your pain...

Skittles, I can only offer a point of view offered by my Grandpa's Pastor that at first really pissed me off but when I contemplated it later, made perfect sense:

When my Grandpa died, and I got private time with him (His Pastor), he told me that grief was a wholly selfish emotion. I sat there, tears streaming down my face, wondering who the fuck this guy was, telling me I was selfish for grieving over my Grandfather's death.

When I was finally able to think rationally again, after we put Him in the ground, I reflected on what His Pastor said. After a while, his words made sense. I wasn't grieving for the death of my Grandfather, but for his absence in MY life.

He was spot on. He also told me that I should never miss an opportunity to celebrate my Grandfather's life. I don't.

I'm so sorry for your loss. As I said, you are my favorite DU'er, INDEED.

Regale us with stories about your Mom.

You are awesome, and I bet it's the influence your Mom had on your life that makes you that way.

Much Love
Chris

[Kurovski]

125. Skittles sweetie, I'm very sorry for your loss.

I've been fortunate to see other pics of your happy family, and now I see the lovely matriarch who made it all possible. Thank you for sharing this with us, and for being here at DU.

She lives here in you and in the humor and bright revelation of self you share with us.

I lost my dad in 2002, and after the sorrow passed, I found he grew greater and nearer to me in my heart as time passed. That is what their lifetime of love does for us.

Condolences to you and your family, she raised a beautiful person, and that is how we know of her own beauty. :hug:

[donheld]

126. So sorry for your loss

[MorningGlow]

127. ...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[SalmonChantedEvening]

128. Aww Skittles, Sweetie

:cry:

Bless her memory and your heart. May she sing with angels always. :loveya:

[blue neen]

129. I am so very sorry for your loss.

Safe passage to your mom.

God bless.

[Arugula Latte]

130. I'm very sorry.

:hug:

[lunatica]

131. Hospice care is wonderful

My mom had it at home when she died last year.

[Taverner]

132. I am so sorry...

Hugs and sympathy to you :hug:

[alphafemale]

133. Hugs to you this Mother's Day.

So sorry.

:hug:

[fortyfeetunder]

134. My condolences to you and your family, Skittles

:hug:

[Blue Diadem]

135. I'm sorry Skittles.

Sending hugs and my sympathy.

I love the picture of your Mom and you.

[dixiegrrrrl]

136. Deepest condolences, skittles. Very sorry for your loss.

:-(

[TK421]

137. Skittles, I am so sorry to hear this

if you ever want to talk, please send me a PM....:(

[abq e streeter]

138. My deepest sympathies to you, and to all who loved her.

[cordelia]

139. Deepest condolences, Skittles.