My daughter is getting married.

[hamsterjill]

Next weekend! I'm so happy that she's found a nice guy, who will treat her well. I really like him. I think they will be very happy. They've dated a reasonable amount of time, moved in together about a year ago, and they are solid financially, etc.

But I'm having a full blown range of emotions. I go from being elated, to being sappy, to being scared to death that something is going to go wrong.

DU parents and others, please give me your sage wisdom.

[WinkyDink]

1. Sounds like they are well-suited! Hey---he'll have a cool MIL! :-)

Mazel tov to all!

[hamsterjill]

4. Why, thank you very much!

I hope I can be a cool MIL. Don't wanna be one of those overbearing kind! Yuck!

[Moondog]

2. Congrats.

And butt out. It's up to them, now.

[hamsterjill]

3. Yes, I agree.

Although I'm involved with the wedding planning, my daughter has been on her own, making her own decisions, etc. for some time. I don't intend to be an overactive MIL.

[Moondog]

5. Good for you. You've broken the code.

Best wishes for you, for her, and for the event.

[trof]

6. Nothing can go wrong.

OK, of course 'something' can go wrong.
Do you mean with the ceremony/reception?
Or their relationship?

As far as the actual ceremony goes, there are almost always glitches.
We had a few when my daughter was married, but we dealt with them and they weren't such a big deal.

We were just very happy for them.
We'd already been through the 'empty nest' thing when she left for college.
That's the last time she really lived at home 'full time'.

They've been married for 14 years and we have a delightful 9 year old grandson and a beautiful 4 year old granddaughter.

Life is good.
Don't worry.
:-)

[hamsterjill]

8. Yes, the worry is with the ceremony/reception

Because, of course, I want it to be perfect for them. But as you so wisely point out, it will NOT be without glitches. We'll try to do the best we can with whatever isn't perfect, and concentrate on the day itself.

Same situation with me. The empty nest syndrome is long over with.

Sounds like you have a beautiful family. I'll bet that Christmas (or whatever you may celebrate) is a lot of fun around your house!!!

[kimi]

7. Oh, congratulations to you all!

It's a wonderful event, to expand a family. And I truly do believe that when a child marries, you don't lose your child, you gain another son or daughter. None of my 5 boys has married yet, although one has found a great gal who I expect will be my daughter(in-law) one day.

You have it under control, sounds like. You're aware of your emotions, you know what to look out for, and you care. THAT, more than anything, says it all.

Enjoy the fantastic day!! Cheers!!