I think getting divorced is one of the smartest things I've done.

[Bucky]

If you haven't ever gotten divorced, I strongly encourage you to try it a time or two. You just learn so much.

[Inchworm]

1. True dat!

Now, there are many times I wish I'd have done it sooner :)

:hi:

[alphafemale]

2. lol! yeah amazing what cutting loose from 275lbs of dead weight...

can do to refreshen your outlook on life.

[lunatica]

3. I've been happily divorced for 16 years.

It was one of the smartest things I ever did.

[Pool Hall Ace]

4. I am looking forward to doing it someday!

:woohoo:

[kedrys]

5. I've been pondering it for a while now

I figure, if I keep pondering long enough, I might get around to doing something about it.

[Chan790]

6. This post makes me feel conflicted.

I'm not married, so no, it's not "that".

I think getting divorced from an albatross can be such a great liberating thing, but...

I'm disappointed to see so many people in this thread unhappy in their marriages.

A big part of why I'm 31 and unmarried is that I only want to do it once.

[mythology]

7. Agreed.

I've seen too many divorces to ever think that having to get one would be an entirely good thing.

Of course I'm so screwed up that the last time a woman I'm interested in hugged me, I actually recoiled; so perhaps I've got other reasons for not being married. :P

[Philippine expat]

8. Didn't think so at the time

but in the 38 years since I have thanked the gods many times

[provis99]

9. I wish my sister would get divorced.

Would save the entire extended family a lot of grief with dealing with her stupid redneck husband.

[dawg]

10. Part of me really doesn't want to get divorced.

But we've been separated over a year, and she's shown me in many different ways that she isn't interested in trying to win me back.

I'm pretty clueless, when it comes to relationships. I wanted my marriage to be forever. I did everything I knew how to do. It wasn't enough.

That makes me feel like *I'm* not enough. I'm going to have problems with that, going forward.

Part of me wants to believe that I deserve better. But I don't know if it's ever going to happen for me. Right now, it seems so unlikely. But what else can I do?

I hope I can be like some of the other posters on this thread, and look back someday and know it was all for the best.

[Tripod]

25. Rarely is it for the best,

My Wife, 18 years ago forced me into a divorce, and I took it. I even had to sign my name to emotional abuse. I did some of that, so I signed her wish. But then the torture came. Sharing our one and only child. Fuck! For 16 more years. And even though she is 22 now, and has her BS degree, and going for a PHD, this hasn't been easy. Her Mom and I shared custody, and held it together for her. I never saw a court room to dictate all of this, but it could have happened. Any way I feel you... dawg, This is hard! :(

[RedCloud]

11. I actually thanked my ex for having been married to me and went away.

We grew in different ways over time. I -up. She- not so much.

[LynneSin]

12. That would require me to get married first, which I'm not exactly keen about doing

So now what do you suggest?

[Gold Metal Flake]

13. You are not the cowbell this thread is looking for.

[Bucky]

14. Lynne, will you marry me?

I'm sorry, I've met someone else.


--See, was that so hard?


 

[pitohui]

15. that would make you a very unusual person

divorce is, hands down, one of the most destructive things a person can do for their family finances

with so little money they're miserable and fighting when together, then they can split it up into trying to maintain two households and have even less money and more misery

sure, sometimes it's necessary to get away from the abuser, addict, sociopath etc. but i'm going to suggest that it would have been better not to have married the abuser, addict, sociopath in the first place and saved onself a fortune in both dollars and anxiety

it isn't so much a case of the divorce being smart, as the original marriage being incredibly stupid

admittedly things happen, for instance, a woman in my town her husband had a brain injury and lost his judgement, that couldn't have been foreseen...but most of the time you should pretty well know who you're marrying

[Macoy]

16. The Family Never Recovers

While I understand some people being happy over a divorce….however, in a lot of cases, it is a tragedy that the family never recovers from.

In addition to the financial costs mentioned earlier, there is also the emotional costs on the children. When my ex left me and our three kids, what do you think that did to my kids emotional development? You think maybe they have a few abandonment issues? I am still trying to deal with my youngest son’s anger issues with women.

So yes, occasionally, divorce is the greatest thing in the world for you, but for the love of <insert Deity/ Deities/belief system of your choice here> think long and hard about what you are doing.



Macoy

[nyson13]

17. My parents are divorced

And it has worked out very nicely for both of them. If something isn't meant to be then don't force it to continue. IMO

[Bucky]

21. Thank you. Sometimes families never recover from staying together.

Humans spent a million years being nomads. It doesn't make sense thinking all of us will quit wanting to move along in life just because we've learned how to domesticate crops over the past thousand generations.

[Bake]

18. I did it once. It was necessary but nasty.

Don't want to do it again. Why? Easy. I love my wife.

:hi:

Bake

[Boojatta]

19. This would be a copycat thread if Henry VIII had had internet access.

[Pool Hall Ace]

20. genuine LOL

:rofl:

[WillParkinson]

22. I could never divorce Paul....

He rubs my feet to help me sleep and we'd have to go to Vermont to do it and it's just soooo far away.

[dawg]

28. I'm jealous of you two.

Although, now that I think about it, you might actually be the cause of my heterosexual marriage falling apart. Pat Robertson told me that could happen. :hi:

[WillParkinson]

29. I can understand that...

Most women wouldn't want to touch a man's feet.

[Rochester]

23. Can't be divorced without being married, and...

...I will not get married.

[kimi]

24. Oh, you learn stuff

but I'm not always sure that it's worth the price you pay. Hell no.

I had this long answer all typed out, but decided to delete it.

You learn, alright. It's just not a kind lesson.

[Tikki]

26. Does getting divorced from a totally dysfunctional....

family and marrying into a great family count?


Tikki

[LuckyTheDog]

27. My step brother...

Got married for the FOURTH time at around age 35. I am not sure he learned much. Maybe one more divorce will do the trick. And, oh yes... it'll happen.