What do you think of people getting married after dating for 3 months?

[Cali_Democrat]

So these two people I know just got hitched and they only started dating 3 months ago.

I'm a little shocked myself. Your thoughts?

[abq e streeter]

1. My dad proposed to my mom after 6 weeks.They were still in love when she died

27 years later. Sometimes, you just know.

[frogmarch]

2. Mr. froggy and I

knew each other for about a month before we got married. We celebrated our 46th wedding anniversary this month.

We were lucky, I guess. I think it's good to get to know someone well before getting married. Maybe three months is long enough in some cases. I wish your friends well.

[struggle4progress]

3. Everybody's different. I know a couple that agreed to wed, on their second date.

They've been together over 50 years

[WinkyDink]

4. 1st date: 11/25/72. Proposal: 12/25/72. Marriage: 4/14/73. Still married!

[Brigid]

5. I know that some whirlwind romances . . .

Turn into long-lasting marriages, but I don't see the need to rush things. I'd feel much more comfortable if we took more time and got better acquainted first.

[Rob H.]

6. My parents met in June, 1965

were engaged in July, and got married in November. They're still happily married. :)

[BiggJawn]

7. Didn't work for me. Either time.

OK, so maybe it was because my first marriage proposal was "We ARE???" and the second time the wrong head was doing the thinking.

[Zephie]

8. My husband proposed to me after a month of dating

We're still happy as ever after two years of marriage. I was a bit surprised at the speed myself but when you know, you know. :)

[Chan790]

9. How old?

And yeah, that makes all the difference in the world. I've been told and seen it work perfectly well with old people and never well with people under 30. First marriages or hopefully last marriages?

[Cali_Democrat]

12. The female is 27 and her hubby is 38. n/t

[dimbear]

10. C'est la vie, say the old folks. It goes to show you never can tell. n/t

[hamsterjill]

35. Love that song!!!

It was a teenage wedding and the old folks wished 'em well....

[Generic Brad]

11. I proposed to my wife 18 days after we met

We are currently on our 26th year of marriage. Take that for what it's worth.

[Silver Swan]

13. My sister

and her husband married after only three months.

They will have been married 45 years in October.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

14. My parents did that...

They've been married since 1942...It'll be 69 years this September.

They've had their battles, but on the whole, they're happy.

[Solly Mack]

15. For some people it works out beautifully.

You just really never know.

I've known people that've dated years then married, only to divorce shortly after.

Personally, it seems a little rushed.

[BlueJazz]

16. I wish them all the best.

[Bombero1956]

17. asked my wife to marry me 2 weeks after meeting her

This October 20th will be our 32nd anniversary. I went with my heart and the rest is history.

[Withywindle]

18. My parents did that

It was kind of an Immigration shotgun wedding, there were student visa problems, they had to elope to the nearest state without a mandatory waiting period, they were 24 and 20.


43 years later, still together and happy!

[Tallulah]

19. Life is short

Why the hell not. :)

I wouldn't do it if kids were involved on either side. That would not be fair to them.

But single and free ? Yep.

[Cali_Democrat]

20. Thanks for all your replies!

Much appreciated and eye opening!

[nomorenomore08]

21. What. the. hell. are. they. thinking.

would be my likely reaction, and in 90% of cases it's probably justified. But then there is that other 10%...

[kedrys]

22. Sort of dated for 3 months, engaged 9 days, married 15+ years now

We were both 35, both never married, no kids. It's been weird in spots, but it looks like we're going to stick it out.

[distantearlywarning]

23. Sometimes when you meet the right one, you just know.

My dad proposed to my mom on their third date. She accepted, and they were married 6 months later. Been together over 40 years now, still very happy. Both of them had dated a number of different people before they met one another - they say they just knew right away that the other one was "the one".

I had a similar experience with my own husband. I knew within about 2 months of our first date that we would get married. I'd had at least 10 boyfriends and a dating history of a decade before we met, and I never felt that way about anyone else I went out with. It took us 3 years after that to actually get married, but the delay wasn't due to being unsure - it was that we were living in a place I hated and I didn't want to have a wedding until we were able to move to another state. But had the outside circumstances been right, I would have married him within 6 months of our first date and been very confident about the decision. It's been great so far - we're going on 7 years now and I'm still very happy.

I think marriage is actually one of the few things in life you should go with your gut about, rather than intellectualizing things too much.

[Recovered Repug]

24. How long is long enough?

I know a couple that group up together, dated thru high school & college and then got married. Within 2 years they were divorced. I know another couple where the guy proposed on the first date and they're still married 15 years later. Caveat: They had been friends for a couple of years before officially dating.

[seabeyond]

25. hubby was a customer for a couple years, but we hung out/dated for 3 months and got married

eloped. worked for us. we were older. knew what we wanted.

[kick-ass-bob]

26. Everyone's different.

My wife and I were engaged 3 months after meeting, but got married about a year and a half later. We are still together.
My one friend met her husband over spring break, got engaged that same week and were married in June. They are still together.
My other friend dated for 3 months, got married 3 months later, and were divorced within 18 month.

Who can know?

[RedCloud]

27. They are better people than I!

[hack89]

28. I proposed after 3 months - still married 20 years later. nt

[One_Life_To_Give]

29. In their 70's no problem at all

Under 60 it's rushing things IMHO.

[Taverner]

30. I totally understand if the couple is in their 30s or 40s

For many of them, life is half over

Looking at that kind of timeline, its easy to see why

[raccoon]

31. I disagree--I can see younger people doing it, if things don't work out, they have less to lose

--USUALLY.

OTOH, if you've accumulated some assets why take the risk of somebody else whom you barely know getting their hands on your assets? Especially in a community property state? Yikes!

[davsand]

32. "Marry in haste, repent at your leisure." So sayest Davsand's Mom.

Some people can make a quick decision like that, and everything goes great. I gotta envy them that level of self knowledge.

When it came to my own life, I was reluctant to get married after my childhood sweetheart ended up (luckily, before we got married!) being capable of domestic violence. I realized, as I was standing back up, that I had ZERO business ever marrying anybody without knowing them and myself really well. As a result, kevsand and I dated for a while, lived with each other for a longer while, THEN made the decision to get engaged.

My own experiences pretty much confirmed my agreement with my Mom's maxim about not being in any hurry to get married--screw it up and you got a lifetime to be sorry you did it.



Laura

[fizzgig]

33. my husband and i got engaged after six weeks

we didn't say anything about it for close to a year, though, because we saw no reason to rush. we'll be married two years in september and i never have once questioned that marrying him was the right thing to do.

[REP]

34. Knee-jerk reaction is: bad idea. My knee may be wrong.

We've been together since our first date, 19 years ago last week. We didn't file the paperwork until about 5 years ago, but if we'd done it that day, it would've been okay.

So my final answer is: it depends.

[fishwax]

36. depends on the people

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