I hope you decide to move to the North Coast. Lifelong resident, here - I love Cleveland! In all honesty, I've been to Europe a few times, been around the country a bit - and have yet to find a place I'd rather live (except London, LOL - must admit that).
I live in a suburb just east of Cleveland. If you're considering the Cleveland metro area, you will love the cultural offerings (as mentioned above - great posts), and if your husband is a sports fan, we've got the Browns, Cavaliers and Indians. I'm unable to compare housing costs, but I do know that every type of home is available, from new to old to semi-rural - Cleveland Heights in particular has some fantastic affordable housing (older homes with that undefinable "character" label).
Things I love about Cleveland: The Cleveland Museum of Art; sunsets over the lake; summer nights; immense cultural diversity; the conveniences of having anything you need within a 15 min drive from anywhere in the area; most importantly to me, the Cleveland Clinic - even if I wanted to move, which I don't, my family must be near the CC (the CC has some of the most respected heart specialists in the world); the feel of a big city while retaining a small-town outlook; the celebration of food: during the summer, if you like to eat, every weekend there's some food festival somewhere where you can stuff yourself comatose; fall in Ohio is gorgeous!
Things I hate about Cleveland: the month of January; the month of February; the cultural divide between the East side and the West side of Cleveland (this is disappearing); the month of January; rush hour into or leaving downtown Cleveland (I know, it's probably not nearly as bad as other major cities, but I hate it nonetheless); the month of January; no championships for any major league sports team since 1964 (recently voted by ESPN as the nations Most Tortured Sports City:
http://sports.espn.go.com/espn/page2/story?page=tortured/cleveland); the lack of "city self-esteem" longtime residents may still have from being the butt of national jokes that, apparently, live forever; did I mention the month of January?
Things visitors I know have said about Cleveland:
"It's so GREEN!" - transplanted New Yorker.
"Everybody's so friendly - I've NEVER met people so friendly!" - visiting Mississipian (this was, really, truly amazing to her).
"It's so small!" - visiting Chicagoan.
Like any major city, the metro Cleveland area sprawls from east to west - and south too - like a huge octopus (though, yes, the downtown area is small compared to Chicago, LOL!). You have an enormous choice in types of neighborhoods to choose from. Don't know much about Ashtabula except to say that I spent a summer there as a teen, and it's a beautiful, quiet, small-town area - you'd love it there too!
Places I'd recommend: Chagrin Falls, Cleveland Heights, Lakewood, Mayfield Hts / Lyndhurst / Highland Hts. area.
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