He was Gay, but I don't think that was a factor in his death.
This is part of what his Sister sent me regarding how he died:
Dear ---,
It is with an incredibly sad and heavy heart that I write to tell you
my brother, Randall Atwater passed away last night at 6:22 p.m. at
Elkhart General Hospital. The doctors say that he basically developed an
overwhelming blood infection, which ultimately destroyed his kidneys and
liver. While it probably took some time to manifest the devastating
shutdown of the organs, the disease itself probably manifested over quite a
long period of time. By the time he reached the hospital for his two and a
half day stay, he was already in a coma out of which he never came. The
only blessing is that he didn't suffer for an extremely long period of time.
I am ever so grateful that I could be with him toward and up to the end,
as we were extremely close. I shall miss him terribly....
His Obituary.
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Truth is, he was pretty much my only REAL friend, so now I don't really know what to do, so I thought I'd post something here. I'm not really sure why, I guess because a lot of you folks have dealt with the death of some of your friends over the years and could maybe give me some advice or just let me vent some of my confusion.
BTW, I'm 100% hetero, but was always a little socially retarded as a kid, due to a brain injury as a baby, which made me "different," and him being obviously Gay to everyone in our small Indiana town except me, we pretty much just had each other growing up.
We were friends for 32 years and we kept in touch for 20 years after we both left our small Indiana town, but lost touch about 5 1/2 years ago when he moved back to Indiana, and I bought a "fixer-upper" house down here in Georgia and couldn't keep up with all the e-mails he was sending me.
I wasn't the first time we lost touch for a time, he stopped talking to me without explanation for 3 1/2 years during High School, but we ran into each other in a McDonald's parking lot in Kokomo, Indiana, when we were both heading back to Collage after Christmas break, so I didn't think much of this break in communication, though it was getting a bit long.
I had been thinking about giving him a call for the last few months, but I guess now it's just too late. During the time I knew him, he told me he never practiced any "high risk behavior," but as I said, we lost touch about 5 1/2 years ago, so I can't speak for the last few years.
He never was one that who paid too much attention to a Doctors instructions and was not too happy about his diagnosis, in about 1999, of Manic/Depression (mostly Manic) after his suicide attempt. He didn't like taking his medication, as they took away the highs.
Sorry, I'm starting to ramble, I'm just not sure if I should try to go to the funeral on Wednesday. I don't currently have a job or any money, though I do have enough Delta Frequent Flier miles for a free ticket and don't really have anyone else to visit now.
I know some Airlines sometimes wave ticket rules for funerals, but this would be my first time trying that. Anyone know if Delta ever makes that kind of exception for frequent flier tickets? :shrug: