When you went Veg* what was it like for your Spouse/BF-GF/Other?

[bertha katzenengel]

If you have one, of course. Or, what was it like for the people close to you, with whom you frequently shared meals?

Did they do it with you? Did they bolt? Did they make fun? Did they flaunt their carnivorous lifestyle and try to shove it back down your throat? Were they completely supportive? Etc???? thank you.

[flvegan]

1. Mine was already vegetarian.

Helped me out a lot. We went vegan together. I've never looked back. I don't think she has either.

It's much easier when you have support, especially if it's in-kind support (they go/are veg, too).

As for our friends, they were very supportive. Most of my friends are very open minded. I probably could have told them that I was an alien sent to take over the world, and they'd have been like, "cool. can you pass me a beer, please?"

[Elad]

2. I went veg when I was still together with my ex

and she waited and watched (and was supportive) for about 3 months before deciding she was going to make the change as well. A year and a half later, we both went vegan at the same time.

[flamingyouth]

3. He was and is supportive

And after cleaning out his freezer that had liquified rotten chicken in it when the power got shut off, he hasn't eaten any meat. :puke:

[livinginphotographs]

4. My now ex-girlfriend was typically obtuse about it.

I've argued the death penalty with her and gotten similar results.

She kept telling me "I'm just trying to understand it" until it became so irritating I told her never to ask me about it again. Of course, when arguing the death penalty with her, she resorted to "I don't care what the facts are, that's just how I believe." :eyes:

If someone can't respect your beliefs enough to understand why you went veg in the first place, they either weren't paying good enough attention beforehand to know you all that well, or they're just an asshole (male or female) and were pretty enough to cover it up all that time.

[Catchawave]

5. No problems here......

...hope this helps. Guess it has alot to do with family/friend communications and the way I express myself. Which is not threatening :)

[livetohike]

6. My husband and I were young and hippies 30+ years ago

and we were into making our own granola, yogurt, growing sprouts, etc. We are not vegans, but I do make vegan meals. I do all of the cooking, so he eats whatever I make :-).

[LeftyMom]

7. He's mostly okay with it

He's not a veg*n but he's perfectly willing to eat what I prepare at home. The original agreement was that he'd do that and eat whatever he wanted while out. He decided on his own that was uncomfortable with eating beef. When we're out he generally gets meals with little meat (b/c his gastrointestinal system isn't used to the stuff anymore, and it makes him sick to eat a lot) or veg dishes.

He does occasionally take a heat and eat meal with meat in it or some lunchmeat and cheese for sandwiches to work, more as a matter of convenience than anything else.

[Piperay]

8. I've been a vegetarian since I was

9 yrs. old so I was one already when I met my boyfriend. I kind of held it back so I wouldn't freak him out but one evening he was going to make me dinner (pork chops :puke: ) so I had to tell him. BF was a bit 'taken aback' but recovered quickly and asked what I could eat then we went out and bought stuff and fixed it together. BF hasn't become a total vegetarian but he seldom eats meat anymore and never around me.

[CrispyQ]

9. My man was veg many years before we got together.

I was never a big meat eater -- never liked meat much & was raised on a farm. I knew where it came from -- not some sterilized package from the grocery store.

Sometimes, a mother cow would not recognize her own calf & not let it suckle. If it reached that point, Mom would separate the cow & calf & then soak the mom cow with my step-fathers Aqua Velva after shave. Then we would do the same with the calf. After a bit of time, we would put the two together, & I swear, 8 out of 10 times, the cow would recognize the calf as her own & let it suckle -- no kidding!

But in the few times where that didn't work, if we had another cow who was suckling a calf, we would simply put the three together & that usually worked! Yes, the mother cow with one calf would let the calf that wasn't hers suckle. But on those few occasions where neither 'trick' worked, we would hand feed the baby calf. We had a big bucket with a big nipple at the bottom. We would mix up the 'baby formula' & take it out & pet & talk the little guy to suckle up the whole bucket of goodness. (I have incredibly fond memories of this!)

Oh, the heartache when those JJ Shaffer trucks pulled up to take our cows to auction. I KNEW WHAT WAS GOING TO HAPPEN TO THEM!

So when the man I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with asked if I would give the veg life 'an honest try' it was NO CONTEST.

I haven't looked back since. I am one lucky chica!

[Dastard Stepchild]

10. Actually... it is a dating requirement for me.....

I went looking for a vegetarian, and I found one. I was nearing veganism when we met. He was always a vegetarian, and when I went vegan, he decided to make the switch as well.