Well, today I am NOT in the wedding I was supposed to be.

[smbolisnch]

I started feeling bad about it yesterday, like I am an awful friend. I don't know. I just can't excuse what happened, not to mention her fiance is a horrid POS.

And Mavis. I don't doubt that she cares about the dog, and she is not known for her wise choices, but to let that dirtball tell her to get rid of her dog?!?! And then actually do it? To me, that's not loving her nearly enough. :(

*sigh*

I guess I am just feeling badly about the whole thing today. Oh well, what's done is done. At least I don't have to worry about wearing my strapless dress with this damned rosea. I look like a freak. :cry:

*off to pout*

[livetohike]

1. I sympathize with you smbolisnch

:hug:

Many years ago, my "best friend" asked me not to be in her wedding party. Thank God, I didn't buy the dress yet. Her husband didn't want me in the bridal party because I was a "hippie". Needless to say, it affected our friendship. I didn't go to the wedding either, I went camping :-).

We just reconnected this year after 30 years and we haven't talked about this incident, but it really hurt my feelings and I won't ever forget it. I just don't hold a grudge anymore.

[smbolisnch]

8. Well, I am glad that you have reconnected with your friend.

I hope that one day we can sort through our differences as well. We'll see. Thanks livetohike :hug::hug:

[CrispyQ]

2. I didn't realize she got rid of Mavis.

I hope she took enough care to make sure Mavis got a good home. :cry:

And I hope the dress is one that you will wear again sometime. Bridesmaids dresses can be atrocious. I've only been in one wedding -- my cousin, who I can't stand. My grandmother insisted I be in the wedding even though the bride & I both didn't want that. The dresses were awful. Very little girl like fashion - all frilly & poofy & just gross. Nothing I would ever wear again. After the wedding, I changed in the church bathroom & left it there.

Treat yourself to something fun today. A delish vegan treat of maybe a good flame war in the lounge? ;) Hugs to you! You'll feel better soon & the rosea will clear up.

[smbolisnch]

9. As far as I know, she still has Mavis.

I meant when I had her. She was just going to have her PTS.

As for the dress, it is actually, cute, black and white vertical stripes, long and strapless. I don't think I am going to have anywhere else to wear it! Oh well :)

[shockra]

3. It's better this way.

You'd feel worse about yourself if you went, I think. And keep regretting it later.

Yes, try and do something fun today. Like go see a penguin movie. :)

Hugs. :hug:

[smbolisnch]

10. You are so right.

I would have regretted not following my heart. I know that, it just sucks that it turned out so badly. :(

[livinginphotographs]

4. I didn't realize she'd given Mavis away.

I hope he's okay (or was he a she?)

And shouldn't you be on vacation? Stop worrying about this person - she's already proven she's not much of a friend.

[Piperay]

6. I didn't know that either

I guess somehow I missed the follow-up. I hope that Mavis ended up with a good home, better a new home than one where she isn't wanted. :-(

[smbolisnch]

11. I don't think she did, I meant initially when she was going to have her

PTS.

I know, I know. I am atually leaving at 6am :) Believe it or not, my rosea is MUCH better today. I am not worried about only leaving the hotel in the cover of night now :)

[Piperay]

5. Twenty years ago

I didn't go to my cousin's wedding cause I felt 'abused' by him. In the end it didn't matter because a short few years later they were divorced. We have a civil relationship which is about as good as I can expect given the fact that he is repub but interestly enough also a vegetarian. :shrug:

Smbolisnch ... :hug: ... :grouphug:

[smbolisnch]

12. Thank you for the hugs...

I am pretty sure I did the right thing, I just feel that guilt. I actually drove past the church today to see if I could see her in her gown, but there was no wedding going on. I must have gotten the time wrong, unless she wised up and kicked him out. :hug:

[Catchawave]

7. Please don't feel bad....

...you're listening to your heart, and that's a good thing :) Like I used to tell my kids when friends let them down, "you need a friends check"....:loveya:

[smbolisnch]

13. I know it is.

I guess I just have a bad habit of second guessing my instincts :P Thanks catchawave.... :hug: