Depressing tarot reading.

[BlueIris]

Basically, my reader, the one I like and trust, told me she doesn't see me finding love or serious relationships in my future.

[FreedomAngel82]

1. At all or at this point???

[BlueIris]

2. At all.

True, we were addressing a lot of different issues in this reading, so her judgment could have been the result of the fact that there were too many things up in the air for a good message to come through to my question about love and romance. Plus, she admitted to being in a bad mood, especially as regards the subject of relationships (apparently, what Venus is doing right now doesn't agree with her). Most of the rest of the reading was extremely positive--sort of--despite my fears that my novel isn't going to get done, she emphasized that the process will reach completion and that the book is the most important thing I've ever done. But still, to get to the end, ask about future romantic prospects and have her go, "well, I see a lot of flings, but no serious commitments"--that was very disappointing. Not because I have some crazy desire for A Committed Relationship, (I'm actually very hostile toward people who say that especially women should want this as their ideal kind of relationship) but because I wanted to believe that despite my relatively "picky" parameters for what would constitute a situation I'd want to experience love in, I would find a person with which to create that situation eventually. Casual flings don't and I doubt ever will work for me.

This person and I have done great work together, especially recently. And as I've posted here before, she's never really been wrong in her assessment about what's going to happen for me...exactly. Yes, I know free will plays a huge role in whether something will or will not come to pass, but--egh. I'm kinda upset right now. I want to believe that there are people in this world worth being loved by me in That Way, and that someday I might find one to be with. For my trusted reader to say that she does not see that happening for me--?? Not happy.

[thinkingwoman]

3. your reader...

"admitted to being in a bad mood, especially as regards the subject of relationships"?

:eyes: :eyes: :eyes:

Tell me you didn't pay money for this reading.

Why, exactly do you trust a reader that has "never really been wrong in her assessment about what's going to happen for me...exactly"?

Listen...some free advice. Get readings from a professional with a good track record or buy a deck and learn to do readings yourself.

[BlueIris]

6. Thanks.

She has an excellent track record and reputation in my state. And I have several decks, but I've only been learning about Tarot for a year, so I try to get some outside perspectives every once in a while.

[Dora]

5. I don't know a lot about tarot

but I used to read runes, and I also used to have a friend read tarot for me years ago. I am familiar with readings in general, and I think that they're as fallible as they are useful.

My initial reaction is that your reading was muddied. IMO: by her bias, by your novel (which was the primary focus of the reading, yes?), and by the hap-hazard asking the question of "relationships" (am I wrong in thinking this question was thrown in at the end?).

Perhaps a reading with a different card reader might help. A change of perspective could reveal things otherwise hidden. As well, you might want to examine your attachments - what is the source of your suffering? (you don't have to tell me; it's just food for reflection)

Casual flings don't "work" for anybody; that's why they're casual. I think it's prudent to avoid these relationships - they are draining and you need to direct your energy at your novel. Is your reader a psychic as well as a tarot reader? I don't understand on what grounds does she "see" only flings in your future? I don't see how a spread of cards centered on your creative work could be accurately applied to your question of love.

You say, "I want to believe that there are people in this world worth being loved by me in That Way, and that someday I might find one to be with." Believing there are people worth being loved by you in That Way, is but one bridge to cross, and relatively easy to do. Believing that you are worth being loved in That Way is much harder. You also don't have to take on all the responsibility of finding this person to love. You could perhaps, instead, try opening yourself to being found. You have enough work to do right now.

[BlueIris]

8. Aw, thanks.

Yes, the question about my relationship prospects was thrown in at the end of a longish session, mainly focused on my novel. That, to me, definitely set me up to get negligible information back. And my novel should be more important for the foreseeable future than any worries I have about finding love. Plus, it occurred to me last night that I have other priorities to juggle along with my book and romantic love isn't and shouldn't be on the list. But thanks for your thoughtful response. It was very sweet.

[Why Syzygy]

7. I don't read Tarot that way...

and do agree with the other posts in the thread. Do you know what card she used to base that assumption on? I would have to give a wild guess, Page of Cups. The Page doesn't amount to a commitment. He/She is an adventurer and learning the process. Trying new things. Perhaps instead of the wording she used with you, whether due to her current personal crisis or not, could have stated, you have an opportunity to find many and varied interests in the opposite sex. There may be someone in your life who shows you how to open up to real love. That may not be "the one", but it will influence you in such a way, that you will have a greater focus when "the one" does come along.

And again, any valid reader does not "predict" future events. We look at energies and forces surrounding your question. The rest is up to you.

The point you make that you are not even into the prospect of having a committed relationship says more than anything. I know that feeling well. So anyone who comes along with those intentions is not going to garner your attention for long. For now. Hopefully, no one is going to whack you on the head and drag you on back to the cave. Have fun. Casual relationships can be life sustaining, actually. Especially when that's what is in your best interest at the moment.

p.s. I know I could find a "committed relationship" at the drop of a hat. There are plenty of men out there looking for a decent (sexy) woman to clean up, etc. I'm not into that, grew out of it. So if/when they find me, they better be bringing presents. :D

[FreedomAngel82]

12. Remember you have freewill and can change things

I always remind that to people whenever someone asks me something. So remember that.

[Matariki]

4. that seems like a crappy reading

the future isn't set in stone like that. honestly. a good reading has a certain amount of problem solving in it - what you need to do to change things.

if you have the money for it, a good vedic astrology reading is helpful. it includes 'cures' for difficult aspects in your life.

[Cleita]

9. The future isn't immutable.

It could be that the way you follow your path right now could make this future possible. I don't know what the cards were, but I might assume that you need some changes in your life, a different path perhaps.

Remember that you are in charge, not the cards. All they do is present a possible future and a warning.

[BlueIris]

10. I know, I know. I'm feeling a little better about this today.

The truth is, I'm not even in a place in which I could work a relationship into my life at this time. I need to do a lot of revision in my life before I would be in a place in which I would even be interested in finding love. So, I shouldn't be obsessing about what the cards indicate will happen if I stay in the mindset I'm in now, I know. Also, I did set myself up to get a limited response from the divine entities by asking what I did at the time I did. Bad Iris.

[Shine]

11. Bummer, but it doesn't have to be.

It's just one person's opinion.

Water off a duck's back....

Don't give it any energy. We create our own reality by choosing what we give value to.

My two cents.

[medeak]

13. no worries.

was told my Dad was going to die 2 years ago....he's 90 and kicking ass.

[BlueIris]

14. This reminds me; another interesting thing about the reading

which has me wondering how effective it was--my reader says that nothing in the cards indicates a death in my immediate family within the next two years. I will be very surprised if my mother is still with us in two years. Almost all readers I've worked with during the last few months have found something in their assessments of my future to indicate the coming of this unfortunate event, (which makes me sad, but since it will be the direct result of my mother's own unwise health choices, I'm just resigned to it at this point) including some psychic/precient members of this forum. To have my reader say it won't happen? Well. Okay. I really doubt she'll survive beyond 2008. Just one more reason for me not to be worried that I won't find love again.

[Desertrose]

15. Why create that?

I mean, why buy into someone else's version of your future?
It's not stamped in stone.

I used to have readers who read at my shop ages ago and they'd jokingly get mad at some of us saying that because we didn't like the readings, we'd go out and change them- create things differently , which threw off their accuracy rate!

If you want love again, visualize it, imagine it, feel it. Feel the way you'd want to feel if it was a reality in your life at this moment.....and most of all be OPEN to it.

You have the power to create & manifest what you want in life. Don't ever forget it or let some one tell you you can't.

:hug:DR