Decided to come out of the solo

[Why Syzygy]

I've been a solo for 6 years. Never one to 'fit in' anywhere.
Shunned circles until recently. And they are such a joy.

What I'm looking for now is a coven. I want to join. To be a part of. It might not work out because I am so solo and maverick. But I feel I am ready. Any hints? Do I dare?

[suziedemocrat]

1. Good Luck! I'm a bit of a soloist myself, so I don't have any suggestions.

I've always been a bit of a loner, and then after the last election I was so angry, I decided to avoid being around Republicans as much as possible. Well, I live in Indiana, so avoiding Republicans meant avoiding people. Plus I was going through a lot of personal and family issues and I felt I needed to avoid hearing advice from others so it would be easier for me to hear my own inner voice. But now, I also want to get back out there. Let me know how you do and maybe I'll follow your lead.

[Why Syzygy]

3. More specifically ..

I have recently joined a few groups. One is the Intenders Circle. We have another circle today, but I am feeling under the weather and don't know if I will get out. I participate in online chats with women who are working a healing program. There are women from all over the world, and it's pretty neat. In fact it was in talking to one of them that this desire materialized. I also have gone to a Reiki Circle. These are always small groups with a single focus.

After reading your reply, and Crickett's, now I'm not sure what I want! I've been in a very strange funk since Thursday. I was certain I would have one of the jobs I applied for last week, but have heard nothing. I really hate when people say they will call and never do.

I threw a Tarot reading for this issue and my part is the Tower. That is so typical for me. I used to dread the Tower, but these days, it's just the way things are. :shrug:

I wanted to avoid Republicans so much that I moved to a more liberal city. Easy to do here. Sorry you have to face them. Maybe they are a little more rational these days. Who knows.

[suziedemocrat]

6. The funk might? be the full moon. I've been in a funk too.

Did you see lildreamer316's post called "Update and/or something serendipitous..." I especially liked I Have a Dream's Response. God's time. Sometimes bad things happen to prevent really bad things. Her's was a very wise post that seems to fit all of our lives.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=245&topic_id=29978&mesg_id=29978

[SouthernBelle82]

8. Try meditation

You should try meditation to figure out what you want. Ask your guides or whomever you'd like for advice on what to do and where to go and where you would fit in comfortably. Every once in a while I'll get this moving bug that I want to leave and be out on my own. I love my city but I'd at least like to be on my own. I've been trying to find a job but it seems nobody will hire me. :(

[Love Bug]

10. Since you're in an Intender's Circle,

are you making attracting the right coven group an intention? I've been stating my intentions daily for over a month, now, and I can't believe the positive things that are happening for me!

I apologize if I'm stating the obvious!

Namaste

[Why Syzygy]

11. I would love to hear more

about how that is working out for you. Inspire me!

I had a meeting with a spiritual counselor late this afternoon. All I came up with was that I need more joy. And something about joy scares me.

It seemed rather disappointing because I have been building this up in my mind for several weeks.

Please do tell more about your intention manifestions?

[crikkett]

2. when you say coven

do you really mean *coven* or are you using the term to describe social clubs in general? Does 'a solo' mean you're an introvert? I bet I'm completely missing the boat on something...

It seems to me that you can have both companionship and solitude -- you know, drop in when you feel like it but otherwise maintain your independent, maverick life. Especially easy when you first join a group -- most groups anyway. Some demand your immediate and full attention - and that's a big giant red flag, isn't it?

Maybe you can find what you're looking for by perusing the bulletin boards at um, ...shops where you'd buy the stuff you'd use.

[Why Syzygy]

4. I really meant

'coven'. My spiritual journey took a big turn six years ago. At that time, I decided not to associate myself with any single group or belief system. aka 'solo'. The only family I have is my son, who lives 1300 miles away. I guess I feel a need for 'family'. Need to adopt some. Just having the desire is the first step.

I had to do something Thursday that I really didn't want to do. Hold someone accountable. Everyone said I was very brave, etc. yada. I didn't expect it to knock me for such a loop. In time, I'm sure it will turn out alright. It just feels very creepy right now.

Your suggestion is a good one. I'll look for that.

[davsand]

5. Exercise caution?

I guess that would be my only advice on the subject...

:shrug:

Sorry to be a downer, but I have been in a couple of different "groups" over the years and each time it ended up being WAY more painful than anything I've ever done as a solo practitioner.

One group ended up being WAAAAAY out there and doing high ritual stuff that used various body fluids and threats. The "dress code" by itself should have tipped me off, but I was young and dumb back then, I guess.

The other coven ended up with a High Priestess that was an absolute basket case who was so needy and clingy it was like working in a circle with Saran Wrap. (Did I mention that she had an obnoxious little dog that would try and copulate with my leg while we were in Circle? THAT was a nice bonus,too.)

I've been solo for a long time. I doubt I'll EVER be able to change that with any comfort given my past experiences. I work with my kitchen supplies,candles, and herbs and that seems to suit me just fine.

Best of luck. I hope you find what you seek.


Laura

[Why Syzygy]

9. yeah .. I have heard some real horror stories

I am definitely not into having a control freak issue with anyone. This came up suddenly for me last night when I was just chit chatting with someone about these topics and she seemed to indicate that there was something more I could do. I did't get any specifics. Maybe I need to explore what her experience is a little deeper. She doesn't live locally. There was another online group I was pretty active in for awhile. But over time, my priorities changed and I just don't need that level any more. Just changing I guess. Growing pains.

[stellanoir]

7. On one level

as prosaic as it sounds I feel it's "different strokes for different folks" at different times.

I was one of the more social creatures on the planet. I was always puttng on huge gatherings for people of all ages at nominal expense. They were a blast.

Then I drew in one who was more competitive than collaborative and my network got nuked.

I've always been extremely private about my spiritual rituals (LOL aside from posting them repeatedly on the net.)

Tomorrow I intend to finally post my affirmation for the elections in GD and I'm hoping for some support in this effort.

As for your journey. . .I hope you widen your world, keep your instincts about you, and watch for those who are more competitive than collaborative.

best wishes

[Why Syzygy]

12. Stella . .

please do let us know about your post. You will have as much support as I can give. We are all with you.

Thanks for putting so much into this path.