Question: Regarding Marriage

[TNOE]

Last Friday night, I saw about the 20th psychic I've seen in my life - and I've been seeing psychics for about the past 20 years. Every single one - even the ones I thought was AWESOME - have always said - you'll meet the man your going to marry in 2 years - 2 years, 2 years - well this has been going on for 20 years and I have NEVER met the man I'm supposed to be falling in love with or marrying. Friday night this guy tells me - in 4 years!! God, what is the deal? I'm to the point now where I don't believe it will EVER happen. I'm 47 years old.

Looks like I got nothing in my 7th house, although I was in a loveless marriage 25 years ago which produced my daughter. Any help? Are they just bullshitting me?

Here is my stuff:

Planetary positionsplanet sign degree motion
Sun Leo 0°10'19 in house 9 direct
Moon Pisces 16°47'09 in house 4 direct
Mercury Leo 19°20'03 end of house 9 stationary (R)
Venus Virgo 10°37'05 in house 10 direct
Mars Virgo 2°04'03 in house 10 direct
Jupiter Scorpio 22°08'34 in house 1 stationary (D)
Saturn Capricorn 1°51'39 in house 2 retrograde
Uranus Leo 15°37'30 in house 9 direct
Neptune Scorpio 4°11'58 in house 12 direct
Pluto Virgo 2°48'33 in house 10 direct
True Node Libra 6°08'44 in house 11 retrograde
Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.

House positions (Placidus)Ascendant Scorpio 11°55'28
2nd House Sagittarius 11°08'35
3rd House Capricorn 14°27'30
Imum Coeli Aquarius 19°45'21
5th House Pisces 22°21'06
6th House Aries 19°34'37
Descendant Taurus 11°55'28
8th House Gemini 11°08'35
9th House Cancer 14°27'30
Medium Coeli Leo 19°45'21
11th House Virgo 22°21'06
12th House Libra 19°34'37

Major aspectsSun Quincunx Saturn 1°41
Sun Square Neptune 4°02
Moon Quincunx Mercury 2°33
Moon Opposition Venus 6°10
Moon Trine Jupiter 5°21
Moon Quincunx Uranus 1°10
Moon Trine Ascendant 4°52
Mercury Square Jupiter 2°49
Mercury Conjunction Uranus 3°43
Venus Sextile Ascendant 1°18
Mars Trine Saturn 0°12
Mars Sextile Neptune 2°08
Mars Conjunction Pluto 0°45
Saturn Sextile Neptune 2°20
Saturn Trine Pluto 0°57
Uranus Square Ascendant 3°42
Neptune Sextile Pluto 1°23
Numbers indicate orb (deviation from the exact aspect angle).


P.S. - We are expecting a major snowstorm in here tonight, so may not be able to get back to this thread for a couple of days - however, ANY INSIGHT would be GREATLY appreciated.

[cassiepriam]

1. My advice: (everyone is gonna hate me for saying this, but)

Forget the psychics.

God helps those who help themselves.

If you want a man, go for it!
God is most likely not going to drop a husband on your front door step, no matter how much we pray. :)

Free will is the most powerful energy on the planet, Edgar Cayce said that.
And I agree.

Decide what kind of man you want, and then figure out where those kind of men hang out.
Then go there. Take classes, join clubs, do volunteer work, etc.
You have to go where there are eligible men. And then start flirting. :)

(Small hint: The research shows that men are very very visual in terms of sexual arousal, so
make sure you wear something that catches their eye.) (and some of the research shows
that men like vanilla based scents the most, are the most arousing to them, etc.)

Times awasting, get going! And good luck.

[Sanity Claws]

2. Great advice!

I know I'm going to take your advice. No wonder you have so many hearts!

[PinkTiger]

3. And, don't hate me, but try the online dating services.

My sister, who is drop-dead gorgeous and could have her choice in my opinion, used this method to choose the man she is currently dating. She was able to choose a man who suited her tastes and had the qualities she wanted. Also, she said being able to articulate her wishes helped her to focus more on what she really wanted in a man.

At least try it and look -- most allow free memberships for looking -- and see what is out there. If I were single, I would! Good luck!!!

[cassiepriam]

5. I agree, they can be good. Like shopping for a man. I wish they had had them when I was young!

You get to pick out the exact kind of guy you want.
I would have gone crazy when I was dating years ago.

Just use common sense and be careful.
Screen out the ones who aren't safe!

People are using Match.com and Yahoo personals.

[Grateful for Hope]

9. This is very good advice

I know there is a relatively new online dating service (EHarmony) which actually tries to match people based on many different psychological aspects. From what I have heard, it is pretty good.

[cassiepriam]

6. Women put more energy into buying a sweater than picking out a husband.

Think about how much time women spend picking out the color to paint their living room. They should spend at least as much time as that to find the best husband.

Make finding a partner a project, make it a priority.
And put all your energy and resources into it.
Decide that this is the year you are going to find a partner.
A good one, not just anyone! Make a list of what you want and try to stick to it.
Decide what kind of man you want, then go where they are.
Let everyone know you are looking.
Join as many target rich environments as you can.
Join online dating services to see what is out there.

As I say, men are very visual in terms of arousal, so spruce up
your looks the best you can. When it comes to men, packaging is important.

Most people using this system can find a partner.

[Why Syzygy]

4. Another way to meet people

are through the meetup.com events. When you attend a group that strikes your interests, then you will meet others who share the same ideas. There might not be someone right there, but people who know people who know people .. network.

An LOA friend told me about meetin.org. It's for singles, and I joined tonight. She has done three activities with the group since last Thursday! Participate as little or as much as you want.

Rather than assuming "it will never happen", how about realizing the psychics will never pin point the situation accurately. It seems like string along. What do you do when they tell you two years? Do you assume during that two year time span that you might as well give up for the time being? That would be ineffective. Spend the two - four years meeting and dating as many men as possible. It helps define what you really want and don't want. There are plenty of men who want to get married but just have not found a woman who clicks with them. Do you understand men? Do you know what they are looking for? Examine the information you have about men in general. Does it need updating?

Last but not least, James Ray (and others) teach that we won't find someone who loves us deeply until we love ourselves deeply. Do the things you would do if you were part of a 'couple'. Treat yourself how you would like someone else to treat you. You then have a better chance of meeting the 'One'. And he will already be tuned into how to honor you and you him. Best wishes.

[latebloomer]

7. Great advice!

This is what I did-

I went to lots of political and holistic-type events, dances, seminars etc. And dragged myself out even when I would have rather stayed home, cozily reading a good book.

I visualized, visualized, visualized the type of man I wanted and what our life together would be like.

I went into therapy and learned to like myself more, figured out why I was always drawn to unavailable men, started opening my eyes to the other men out there. And began to feel a sense of joie de vivre, even on my own.

Since it was the late 80s and I didn't have an Internet, I placed a couple of personal ads and joined "Concerned Singles", a personal-ad based dating service for left-wing singles.

And voila!-- one of the ads panned out and I met my wonderful husband. Who, oddly enough, knew several of my friends and acquaintances and the very afternnon we met was going on to a party at my neighbor's house. Yet we had never crossed paths.

Hope this helps.

[tanyev]

8. If you frequent this forum, you are probably well aware of the principles

of feng shui. I got a book a few years ago called Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life. It's basically Feng Shui 101, with simple, practical ideas and very fun to read. It helped me focus on shoring up all areas of my life, not just romance. Eventually, in the course of trying something new (community theater) just for my own fun, without any expectations of meeting anyone, I did meet a wonderful guy. In June, we will have been happily married for 5 years.

Best wishes :hug:

[Sweet Freedom]

10. Get rid of any other bad man-energy

My mother couldn't meet a man to save her life, but she was subconsciously hanging on to another man. About a month ago, she threw out everything that belonged to this other man (he had left some personal possessions at her house). As soon as she cleared that energy out of her life, she instantly had FOUR new men beating down her door.

And yes, check your feng shui. My mother had an analysis done of a house she used to live in and was told that all the men were floating out a window in her house. She put a beautiful glass bowl on the sill to "catch" them and "poof!", men.

Also feng shui related. Get rid of anything dead in your house (plants, potpourri, etc.) and keep your relationship corner clean and filled with romantic items: blooming flowers, two candlesticks, etc.

Finally, are you subconsciously sending this marriage away? You said "I'm to the point now where I don't believe it will EVER happen." You just placed an order! :) You also mentioned a loveless marriage. Have you moved on and forgiven your ex? Are you holding on to past fears and disappointments? Be sure to let all of that go and welcome this new marriage into your life. Believe it will happen.