Light and my husband - he might be shifting

[get the red out]

I have a question about the “shift” or consciousness change, or even consciousness changes in general because something is happening to my husband all of a sudden. It is like his compassion has suddenly increased tremendously. He was a good guy before but something has changed. Once instance is that a friend of mine has had a lot of problems and is finally doing a little better, is out of her bad relationship and in her own apartment but didn’t have much furniture. Mr. Red (I will call him because he is a Republican and I am “get the red out”, LOL) gets very concerned and goes out and gets her a bunch of used furniture (he’s a great wheeler-dealer) and calls me to ask her apartment number for delivery! I asked him what got him to do this and he said he “just knew it was the right thing to do”. And the other night he suddenly asked if he thought the apartment complex across the street would let him buy a cheap basketball goal for all the kids that live there. These are the same kids he was complaining about being “section 8” and running wild all over the place not too long ago!

He is a good man, I have never had any doubt, even when we were fighting over politics to the point that I wondered if our marriage could make it, I just considered him misguided. But this sudden desire to help people less fortunate is different. He was even telling me about a movie he liked about golfers and when he tried to tell me that the African American character in the movie didn’t have shoes and it was in the segregated south, he burst into tears. This was last week. Now I cry at the drop of a hat, and I have seen him get a Kleenex at a sad part during a movie, but this was still different. He could hardly tell me about the movie for sobbing.

My big fear-mongering side says “well, he’s been under the weather lately, he must be going to die”. My brain always goes there, I am so afraid that "God" will take love from me (maybe a left over from childhood). But my logical mind wonders if he isn’t being affected by this “shift” that is being discussed so much. He could also be coming out of the grief of loosing both his parents in one year last year. He didn’t become outwardly emotional during all that sad time.

I like the change, and he does seem to be finally getting over the nasty virus he had ;-)

[I Have A Dream]

1. What a great story, gtro.

I can only imagine the relief that you're feeling right now to see him "awakening". :)

Please try to enjoy it and not worry. Regardless of the reason, these are really good signs that he's seeing the light. It gives me hope!

:hug:

[northernlights]

2. for him, maybe the loss of his parents

was the trigger he needed to energize the shift.

Sounds like a wonderful change to me. Hey, maybe soon you'll have to change your name. Red's Out, Green is here to stay, who knows?

[Sanity Claws]

3. Great story

He seems to have genuinely changed. Have you thought what this might mean for your marriage? A second honeymoon? Perhaps working together on a volunteer project?
Keep us informed on how things progress.

[get the red out]

4. Interesting you would suggest that

We have been discussing the need to get out of our rut lately. Coming up with various possibilities. He even said he would attend a meditation class with me if we can get our schedules fixed to allow for it. (I almost fell over!)

I am glad for the responses here. I fight my negative fears all the time! :grouphug:

[southerncrone]

5. Parent's passing may finally be hitting him. But , it sounds like he's changing for the better.

Is he by chance a Capricorn? They tend to soften & achieve greatness as they age, plus Pluto is transiting Capricorn now, which will certainly cause him to go through a metamorphosis.

[Why Syzygy]

6. This is so neat, GTRO

Reading about that basketball goal almost made me cry! Have you asked him, what's up?
Has any of his medication changed?