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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:10 PM
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I am a gay alcoholic
I was a very heavy drinker. In my final year of drinking I would drink a gallon of vodka about every 3 days. I am also definately gay. I have never, and would never dream of, abusing a child. I don't care if Foley drank a distillery worth of booze. He is responsible for what he did. The pages aren't, the priest who abused him isn't, Jim Bean isn't, Mark Foley is.

I am tired of having this creatin and his posse blaming everyone but himself for what he did. There are literally thousands of gay addicts in this country who don't abuse kids. We shouldn't have to shoulder his blame.
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KyndCulture Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:12 PM
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1. Hear hear!!!
Edited on Tue Oct-03-06 06:13 PM by KyndCulture
I am a bisexual female who was abused and molested, I'm a recovering alcoholic and I AM NOT A PEDOPHILE...never was, never will be.


some very bad bad messages were passed along at that press conference.
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StClone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:13 PM
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2. No !
You are a Republican Pedophile that claims the devil drink and abusive clergy got to you.
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tridim Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:13 PM
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3. No you shouldn't have to shoulder the blame
Get mad, and speak out!
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LSparkle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:13 PM
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4. I agree with you completely -- I'm worried the Rethugs will use this
as an another excuse for bashing gays in the upcoming election (as if they NEED another excuse -- they seem to do this every 2 years anyway). I really, really think that admitting he's gay is just an easy reason for Rethugs to say, "See, he REALLY wasn't one of us -- we didn't know about his sexual orientation." NOTHING is beneath these people ...
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tridim Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:14 PM
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5. Scarborough has already said, "We all suspected he was gay"
That kind of kills that strategy.
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:10 PM
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28. I also read joe scar said he never
saw a drink in foley's hand, either.
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sandnsea Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:18 PM
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32. Of course they will
No doubt in my mind about it. I sort of suspect the turning on Hastert will be used to show that Repubs clean up the corruption, no matter what the political cost. I can just see them crowing about how "good and holy" they all are, rousting out the nasty homo. It may satisfy the base, but I don't think it will get them out to vote. And it'll just nauseate everybody else. Shrum did a great job, told Pat Buchanan that he was just spouting his typical hatred and that he just hated everybody. I think as long as Dems are strong like that (and it surprises me that Shrum was), we'll be okay.
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annabanana Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:15 PM
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6. Homophobes find it
impossible to think rationally about sex. . ANY kind of sex. I think repression is a serious disease in this country. It twists the psyche into horrible knots.
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im10ashus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:19 PM
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9. I agree, annabanana.
Having been in the closet until my early 20s, I can certainly attest to the strides I've made as a person. Both personally, professionally and spiritually. Honest behavior reaps its own rewards.

:hi:
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ItsTheMediaStupid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-04-06 08:17 AM
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50. I was trying to explain this last night to my girlfriend
She's concerned about gay couples adopting and abusing children.

I said it isn't about being gay or straight, it's about being able to express your sexuality in a healthy manner. A lot of repervicans are unable to do this; hence the gay bashing hypocrisy of the Log Closet Republicans.

Will Pitt and Randi Rhodes were discussing the sexual abuse of pages and how it was like the weird torture methods at Ab Gharib (sp), with the piles of naked men etc. It seems we have a government and an admistration that's into some twisted combination of homosexuality and sadism.
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Bucky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:16 PM
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7. k&r
:dem: double
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guinivere Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:17 PM
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8. You don't have to shoulder his blame.
In the end, karma will kick his ass good. He can deny, play the victim, and blame everything under the stars. He knows deep down he's wrong. It'll eat him up.




Peace.
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madokie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:22 PM
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10. Thanks for this post, I am not gay but I used to drink and never
once did drinking make me do anything I didn't want to do anyway, it only brought out the worst in me and that is the main reason I quit the bottle. Today cnn was trying to make it sound like it is an email thing or something, nothing that it really is though by the way. its been spin all day and and nothing but spin. The only thing the repukes are apologizing for is the fact this info with foley got out in the first place. Totally unacceptable if you ask me.
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rzemanfl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:27 PM
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13. If the girls didn't get prettier at closing time, you weren't drinking
like I did. However, guys and kids never got prettier no matter how much I drank.
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:29 PM
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14. No women or children ever got prettier to me either
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rzemanfl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:31 PM
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15. More interested in what you think about #12. eom
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driver8 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:02 PM
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38. "A 2 at 10 was a 10 at 2..." as a friend of mine used to say.
We've all had the beer goggles on from time to time...but not once did I ever say, "Wow, I think I'd like to hook up with a young boy."

The idea that Foley is trying to blame his troubles on alcohol is disgraceful.
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cally Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:22 PM
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11. Thank you and remember that most in your life know the difference
Jon Stewarts skit was hillarious last night because he hit upon the truth. When we equate pedophile with homosexuality then we are insane. I expest too many pundits will do so, even some of our own, but I hope you know that your friends would never do so. I imagine a future where we're beyond these stereotypes and I know we'll get there. Probably after you and I are too far gone to care but we have tried to move us forward. :hug:
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:16 PM
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31. Here is the clip from Jon's show..
Jon shows how stupid it is to equate being Gay to preying on children.
Only Jon can make this tragic mess seem funny at times..and Colbert.

http://americablog.blogspot.com/2006/10/jon-stewart-on-foleygop-child-sex.html

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rzemanfl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:25 PM
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12. I am a straight alcoholic. I have never heard any alcoholic say:
"I strongly believe I suffer from alcoholism." Have you? I think Foley is in the Church of Scientology's treatment program in Clearwater. I cannot imagine a reputable treatment program that operates under the medical model taking this joker and especially not LETTING HIM LOG ON TO HIS INTERNET ACCOUNT ON HIS FIRST DAY IN TREATMENT! I can't remember how many days I was in treatment 21 years ago before I was even allowed to use a telephone.
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:40 PM
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17. It is fishy
I had to ask to use the phone. No computers, no cells, no nothing.
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rzemanfl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 07:33 PM
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22. Look down this thread and follow the link:
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elehhhhna Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 07:00 PM
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21. I think he's LYING & not in rehab at all.
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NMDemDist2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:36 PM
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16. exactly!
and from one sober alcoholic to another, he's so full of shit a program might do him good, but if his friends didn't know he drank then he's no alky IMHO

so he's blaming alkies, gays and anyone or anything he can to avoid taking responsibility for his deranged crap

:hi:
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texpatriot2004 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:41 PM
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18. well said and thanks for this post nm
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gully Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:43 PM
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19. Thank you! Straight drunks are not excused for preying on children
either.
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elehhhhna Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 06:59 PM
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20. Rec'd. Thank you.
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Tierra_y_Libertad Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 07:57 PM
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23. There are gay, straight, drunk, sober, male, female, child abusers.
I'm a straight recovering alkie. Kids were never my thing under any circumstances. I spent 10 years as a counselor for a huge organization and dealt with all kinds of people with all kinds of problems. Many had been sexually/physically/mentally abused as children, some admitted to being abusers. The abusers come from all walks of life, all kinds of backgrounds, all races, and both sexes.

Focusing on a single group as more inclined to child abuse is as repugnant as focusing on a specific race as more inclined to bank robbery or forgery.
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ItsTheMediaStupid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-04-06 08:18 AM
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51. Thanks for sharing.
I'm also a straight, recovering alky. Drinking never made me want sex with kids.

Foley's a pedophile. Whether he's an alky or not doesn't matter.
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niallmac Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 07:57 PM
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24. I think it's pretty cool that you have the courage
to discuss this to make a most excellent point.
Nice to know I belong to a group that sports
people like yourself. Good on ya.
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:00 PM
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25. Thanks
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Straight Shooter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:02 PM
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26. Foley ENJOYED what he was doing. He could have sought help.
Just think of all the people who know they need help and can't afford it.

Foley had the benefit of insurance, paid for with U.S. tax dollars, but he chose not to use it to get some counseling and therapy. That's like a 52-year-old with dental insurance letting their teeth rot to pieces and then blaming their mother for feeding them too much sugar as a kid.

Right on the heels of the tragedy in Lancaster, Foley's excuse just really makes me want to throw a brick at him.
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:08 PM
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27. THank you for this, dsc..
Edited on Tue Oct-03-06 08:08 PM by zidzi
But there is no proof that mark foley was molested by a priest. Only a lying repuke's word for it..excuse me if I don't believe it.
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:11 PM
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29. True enough
His word is hardly worth much.
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sandnsea Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:12 PM
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30. Dual diagnosis
Alcoholism may make it more difficult to recognize other disorders, but the other disorders are there whether the alcoholism is or not.

I really hope gay people do not upset themselves with this idiocy, most people know it's stupid to mix homosexuality with child molestation.
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ronnykmarshall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:19 PM
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33. You rock baby!
:hug:
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neilepi Donating Member (140 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:37 PM
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34. Wait till it emerges that he was really a closet democrat...NT
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Carni Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:39 PM
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35. Gay+booze does not equal- CHILD MOLESTER
Gay people everywhere should bitch like hell about this because it is mixing apples with oranges and it is reprehensible...Foley is a PERV PERIOD
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QuestionAll... Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:44 PM
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36. I like my libations as well.
Edited on Tue Oct-03-06 08:44 PM by QuestionAll...
and if I was marinated and sotted, soaked and relished in booze... pickled to a crisp. this side of formaldyhided.

the last bloody thing in my foggy mind would be to a pederasst. (did I spell that right?)
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Solly Mack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 08:53 PM
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37. I'm sorry, dsc
I'm sorry for the pain and suffering our society causes those seen as different. I'm sorry that our society lets hate determine social mores and thinking.

I'll fight it until the end.
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IndianaGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:04 PM
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39. Foley is not gay. He is just another conservative creep!
And I don't believe for a minute that Foley has a drinking problem of any kind. Foley is trying to save his ass from the slammer.
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:20 PM
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40. I do find it hard to believe his is an alcoholic
given that apparently no one seems to have known he had a problem.
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janx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:25 PM
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41. dsc, I wonder whether alcoholism isn't a symptom rather than
a disease.
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:29 PM
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42. It might depend on the meaning of disease
Edited on Tue Oct-03-06 09:45 PM by dsc
Drinking is just the symptom but I do think alcoholism is a disease. editted for dumb mistake
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janx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:42 PM
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46. Not system...SYMPTOM.
And alcoholism adds its own diseased world to the underlying problems, making them much worse. For instance, many people with clinical depression get sick of their meds and choose to self-medicate with booze...or else they reject the ever experimental meds altogether and just medicate with booze or other dope.

In any case, I appreciate your post. Foley has lots of problems, no doubt, but he chose to become part of the political elite and deny them. Such a travesty that other people in Congress chose not to help him.
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Beausoir Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:31 PM
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43. You are brave and decent and I thank you.
I can't pretend to know your struggles....but you have hit THE most important point.

Foley is copping out and hiding behind is life in order to justify his pedophilia.

Thank you for being a brave soul and posting this.

Best of luck to you.
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mike_c Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:40 PM
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44. very well said....
Thank you!
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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:42 PM
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45. You're also a grouch
but I love ya anyway :loveya:

:hi:
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:44 PM
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47. true enough
and one who has to wake up at 4am so off to bed I go.
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janx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 09:46 PM
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48. Good night, dsc...
I know the feeling when the alarm goes off at that hour. ;-)
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troubleinwinter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Oct-03-06 10:39 PM
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49. GayStraight
WhiteBlackBondeBrunetteRichPoorRepublicanDemocratEatsOatmealInventorEatsCheeriosFord
ToyotaVegetarianBudhistCatholicAstronomerHippyChineseMexicanSmokerQueerBooksellerArtist
ConservativeMotherIndianTeacherBurgerFlipperMuslimStripper....

...I don't give a shit.

Sexual Preditation on Adolescents is NOT acceptable. EVERY person is tasked with protecting children from predators. No excuses, "I was abused", "I used alcohol". NO EXCUSES accepted for preying on the small and weak and dependent.

No goddamned excuses. No covering anymore. No covering or excusing family members or clergy or teachers or politicians. No more turning a blind eye.
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GeorgeGist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-04-06 08:23 AM
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52. Who, but you, may I ask...
is claiming responsiblity for shouldering his blame? And your excuses sound lame.
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