It does not have to have political reasons connected to it to report on it - but then too, it does have a political relevance anyway because the topic itself IS a political issue (ie, same sex interaction).
And it does not mean really, either, that they are gay. People can be bi, or even so sexually frustrated that the only sex they are getting is with someone of the same sex (I read a paper a few years back about men who have sex with other men because they felt men were more open to plain old sex and their wives weren't - so there was the taboo factor, the rush of it, etc and so on).
I looked it up while writing this - this is not the paper I remember but it does shed some insight on it:
Straight Men & Gay Sex - Mens Health: Health and Medical ...
Also, a man who says he is straight but is having sex with other men is more likely to be married than a straight man who has sex with women, according to....
Many 'Straight' Men Have Gay Sex
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=64210I am as straight as a guy can get I suppose, but even I have had sex with a man before. I don't think about it, fantasize about it, but it was mainly due to opportunity (and the guy I had sex with is also straight and happily married now) and a few drinks :) Was not in a public place either.
I get that people can be sexually frustrated (or scared, etc) and seek out release in a variety of ways.
I myself have a wonderful and wild relationship with an awesome woman and some of the things we do would shock the RW so bad they would burn us at the stake (BDSM/etc and I am not going into the details).
What I have learned in my 42 years is that when a straight couple does not have a sex life (like my X and I) it can lead to people doing things like mentioned in the article. With my current wife, even after 9+ years together we still have sex for hours a day (unless, like today, she is ill - but we have makeup days) ;)
As a straight man I know how it can be in cases like this. You prefer and want sex with a woman, can't find it, so you seek out someone else (a male) who has the same sex level as you and is not worried about the romantic stuff associated (cause you did all that and are still sexually frustrated).
I would still today though, have sexual contact with a man if it was in a three-some with my wife and it would not bother me (which is why I see folks like my friend who are gay as being more than just some man that desires sex with another man, it is emotional as well as physical - and those who just want physical is, to me, different and not considered gay).
The BIGGEST problem IMHO right now is equating same sex encounters with being gay/lesbian or even being BI. BUT I also see a huge problem in many 'macho men' wanting to punish gay people (who do, generally have same sex relationships - not just sex but relationships) because they have more than just sex - ie, they kiss, live together, hold hands - and GASP love one another - and the men that rail about gays are all too often the same ones that would still have sex with a man and brand that as acceptable since it is private, while bitching about the relationship aspect of it.
To such men gays are bad, but what they do is all ok because they can excuse it as simple sex. It is ok to cheat on your wife, have sex in a public bathroom, but is it not OK to kiss another man and live with them or marry them.
They want to have their cake and eat it too, and that just plain sucks. So now THEY get a taste of their own medicine - people label them gay (because of the sex angle) and they protest 'no, I am not gay just horny, gay is still bad'. And they start to see how it feels to be gay and under a microscope, like my friend James who I still don't think has told his parents he is gay out of the fear of rejection. Now these same bigots are feeling what it is like to have people oppress you over things like this (funny thing is, my best friend is also an independent who votes mainly Republican based on issues...go figure).
So these married men (or priests, etc) who bitch about people being gay, gay marriage, etc, are going into public bathrooms seeking out perhaps the very people they are condemning for pleasure - and that is just plain wrong to me. You bash gay men, then you seek them out (and to be fair, again, maybe neither of them were gay as was the case with me).
The repression of sex, relationships, etc is mainly a RW thing - as a lefty liberal I am all for wild sex and personal choice (gay/straight/bi/trans gender/bdsm/you name it) and all too often I have seen people on the rw fundie side condemn on the one hand while getting off in the other.
If NONE of these guys were like that, then I apologize - but I am sure that some of them were the type to vote R while living D :) And maybe, just maybe, they will stop acting like assholes to us people on the left who embrace sex/relationships and start to understand what it is to live a lifestyle you cannot openly talk about like others (and Lord knows I get that, no way I could even attempt to explain to those we know my wife's and I's wild side. And personally, it is none of their business and we keep it between us).
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