lumberjack_jeff
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:40 AM
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Poll question: Attitudes toward corporal punishment |
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Edited on Tue Nov-13-07 11:51 AM by lumberjack_jeff
The "Abuse" thread responses seem to imply gender differences in attitudes toward corporal punishment.
For the purposes of this poll, "corporal punishment" is a bare-handed slap on the backside of one's own child who is under 10 years old. "Abuse" is inappropriate misuse of parental authority with long term physical or psychological harm.
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:43 AM
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1. Context and details are pretty important in these sorts of decisions for me. |
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Edited on Tue Nov-13-07 11:43 AM by aikoaiko
But I chose the first chose.
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lumberjack_jeff
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:47 AM
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2. If the definition I've provided is inadequate... |
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... I'd appreciate a suggested alternate.
My first reaction is that if a person feels the context makes the difference then the answer is probably that the person doesn't consider it inherently abusive.
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Tue Nov-13-07 02:39 PM
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15. Yes, you are correct, I do not think normal spanking is inherently abusive. |
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But it could be, for example, if it were done for very minor infractions or things that I wouldn't consider an infraction at all.
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:48 AM
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3. I think you should probably define "abuse" |
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Do you mean abuse to the point where someone's child should be taken away? I think it's abusive as in wrong and a misuse of parental and physical power, but I don't think it should meet the legal definition of abuse because I don't think it's in the best interest of children to be taken out of their homes for that reason.
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:49 AM
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4. A good suggestion. n/t |
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:53 AM
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5. A slap on a child's butt and beating a prisoner are two seperate things but both corporal punishment |
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I don't have an issue with one (as a parent and in only sparing doses) but with the other I won't tolerate.
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:55 AM
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6. For the purposes of this discussion, a definition is provided. n/t |
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:56 AM
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7. People aren't for hitting. |
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Tue Nov-13-07 04:43 PM
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Tue Nov-13-07 08:45 PM
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:loveya: backatcha!
It seems like it should be obvious that people are for hugging, not hitting.
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:56 AM
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I don't know that I'd call what you described "abuse." I don't think I could call it that.
OTOH, I think there are better ways. I've seen people use them.
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Tue Nov-13-07 11:57 AM
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9. because i don't think it is abuse, doesnt mean i think it is effective and good parenting |
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either. i dont think spanking is inherently abusive though it can easily be. i also dont think it is effective adn i dont use it as a parenting tool, nor have i needed it and i dont think it works.
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Tue Nov-13-07 12:01 PM
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10. what exactly does the child get out of being spanked? |
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yes i am a parent, seems to me the only thing that it confirms is that the parent has lost control. flame away.
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Tue Nov-13-07 12:02 PM
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Tue Nov-13-07 12:26 PM
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12. Probably prudent. The poll is hacked. n/t |
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Edited on Tue Nov-13-07 12:27 PM by lumberjack_jeff
Nevermind.
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Tue Nov-13-07 05:28 PM
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19. or the majority do not think it is abuse. n/t |
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Tue Nov-13-07 10:34 PM
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24. It isn't the outcome which leads me to suggest it. n/t |
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Wed Nov-14-07 07:13 AM
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25. ssshhhh, is it a secret? n/t |
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Tue Nov-13-07 12:33 PM
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13. I hear one little bastard threatening his Mom with a call to social services once.... |
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So I explained to him what happens to kids in the foster system. Not TOO graphically, of course, but his eyes got REAL big.
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Tue Nov-13-07 01:00 PM
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14. The first spanking I remember was when I was about 5, and I |
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was caught playing with matches -- actually, I was trying to start a fire outside a neighbor's house. It it had caught it could have burned down the house - an old wood-frame place. I have no idea if the house was occupied, or if I even knew who lived there.
I got a swat on the butt every three steps for a block, all the way home.
And I still played with matches, afterward.
I grew out of my pyromania a few years later without having caused any real damage - but I did successfully hide it through all that time.
Is there a lesson there?
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aikoaiko
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Tue Nov-13-07 04:42 PM
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16. This thread is not turning into the flamefest like so many other similar threads |
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Tue Nov-13-07 04:54 PM
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Certainly lazy and mentally unrefined, a breach of trust. Sounds like a conservative family value.
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Tue Nov-13-07 06:05 PM
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20. I very occasionally swatted my kids' behinds |
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Edited on Tue Nov-13-07 06:05 PM by Blue_In_AK
when they were small, but never very hard or more than one swat, and only to get their attention -- i.e., like when they started to run into the street or something immediately dangerous. I don't think that's abuse, but all-out serious spanking I think is.
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Tue Nov-13-07 06:11 PM
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21. only in extreme cases of willfully defiant behavior.. |
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that puts or could potentially put a child at risk.
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Tue Nov-13-07 09:06 PM
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23. Nothing wrong with it. |
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I have noticed though, that many people here on DU cannot, or refuse to determine a distinction between swatting and real physical abuse.
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