I am a Mother with a Daughter

[tinkerbell41]

Abortion??? No question, it should be a right for any Woman to choose.
I brought my child to Planned Parenthood for Birth Control because her Primary care Physician practices abstinence only. Was it easy, yes and no. I DID NOT want to say go ahead have sex willy-nilly, I also did not want to hide my head in the sand and pretend "it" wasn't happening. I felt by taking her there I empowered her to take control of her body and life. Having a child when you are a teenager would be a prison. I want her to finish College, make something of herself and have independence. Hormones are uncontrollable as we all know, and one bad decision can lead to a lifetime of misery.
Until Men are held to the same standards, morally, socially, ethically, Abortion must be legal.
No matter how many arguments and cases that point to the contrary the burden of having a child ALWAYS falls to the woman. Until the people that scream "Baby Killer" step forward to take care of all those children born to Women ill equipped to handle Motherhood Abortion must be legal. I refuse
to force my Daughter to have a child when they don't have a chance at being financially stable.
Regardless of if she's mature enough to raise one. If her boyfriends parents wish to have a say, then they would unequivically make sure he WOULD be there, financially, emotionally,and physically.
Child Support doesn't even enter into it. Just because you pay someone a fixed amt every week, that doesn't even begin to cover the emotional, mental and physical toll. It is my body, that must house a being for 9 mos. My job that will take a hit, my life on hold. It is I that will be subjected to stares, gossip, if I am single. My education that will be disrupted. It is my choice!!!

[Dogtown]

1. Respect!

You made a loving choice.

[Donnachaidh]

2. Until Men are held to the same standards, morally, socially, ethically, Abortion must be legal.

BRAVA!!!! :thumbsup:

[pnwmom]

3. I never heard of a primary care physician who won't prescribe birth control.

It would make me question his or her judgment. Maybe you should consider changing doctors.

[tinkerbell41]

7. I am sure he would

I don't want to deal with it. We have changed. I felt like saying just shut you fucking trap, take your goddamn religion and stick it.

[Christa]

4. I respect you

1 in 4 teenagers by the age of 15 have had sex already. It's no use denying the truth, teenagers are walking hormonal time bombs and prevention is better than cure. Ask any teenage, single mother.

[Triana]

5. you did the right thing...

...my Mom did the same with me. Didn't take me to PP but to a doctor I suspect she knew would get me on the pill when I became sexually active. She was being realistic, and sensible and not hiding from the facts - or hiding them from me. I took control of my body and my reproductive life from that time forward - she taught me how and why. She also made it clear that it was NOT a blanket permission for me to "do whatever" - after all there were still STDs etc. too to consider.

It was the RIGHT thing for her to do with me. She was not hysterical about it, or shaming, or taunting - just matter-of-fact - "this is what we need to do because..." - her reasons were the same as yours. It made sense.

Bless you and my Mom and all the common-sense Moms out there with daughters who help them through adolescence realistically.

:hug:

[janx]

6. "...because her Primary care Physician practices abstinence only."

I don't understand this. ??

[tinkerbell41]

8. NO sex before Marriage.

Not easy to discuss birth control for teens, when your doctor believes in abstinence only.
You know like PALIN!!!??? Just say no, and I won't have to prescribe birth-control for a girl who is not married. Much easier to go around him and his wack-ass beliefs, didn't need his judgement on the situation.

[tomreedtoon]

9. Ma'am, you are a good mother.

I could critique your writing style, but that's not important. What you did was the right thing, what I would do if I had a daughter.

You handled the situation properly. You undoubtedly have had a good long talk, or a series of talks, with your daughter about sex. The tragedy is that there are a lot of frightened, uneducated women who can't talk to their daughters, wouldn't know what to say, and aren't even sure about their own lives.

But you did the right thing. God bless you, Ma'am, and I don't say that to too many people because it's overused, but you deserve it. God bless you.

[waiting for hope]

10. K&R - I hope to impart the same wisdom

to my daughter when the time is right. She's only 4 right now, but I fear her teenage/early adult years will be different than mine.