What Mom Really Wants this Mother's Day

[Donnachaidh]

http://www.commondreams.org/view/2011/05/06-1

Instead of a bouquet or greeting card, she'd really appreciate a new respect for the value of care, in all its forms, and a new vision for what we deserve as Americans when it comes to giving and receiving care.

This Sunday, American families will celebrate Mother's Day. For centuries, we have venerated mothers for the selflessness and the tender caregiving that allows us to feel safe and to thrive. Beyond the vases of roses, the boxes of chocolate, even the spa gift certificates, we can do more for the caregivers in our families.

There are many forms caregiving relationships that are full of tenderness and intimacy — not just between mother and child, but between a son and his and aging father, or between the home health aide and the Alzheimer’s patient, or between the working woman with a disability and the attendant who helps her get ready in the morning. Comedian Amy Poehler commented on the indispensable role of caregivers at the Time 100 event last week:

"I have thought very hard and long about what has influenced me over the past couple of years, and…it was the women who helped me take care of my children…who come to my house and help me raise my children. And for you working women who are out there tonight who get to do what you get to do because there are wonderful people who help you at home, I would like to take a moment to thank those people, some of whom are watching their children right now, while you’re at this event. Those are people who love your children as much as you do, and who inspire them and influence them and on behalf of every sister and mother and person who stands in your kitchen and helps you love your child, I say thank you and I celebrate you tonight."


More at the link --

[seabeyond]

1. i like my chocolate. leave my chocolate alone.... nt

[MineralMan]

2. On Mother's Day, I'm not celebrating all moms. I'm celebrating

my Mom. I do so in a way that expressed my appreciation for who she is, and not anything else. I don't lump her into any category of any kind.

It's a great idea, but we can do that on some other day. I suggest something like "Caregivers' Day," where we recognize the value of all who provide care. There are a helluva lot of men doing that, too, you know. It's not a gender-based thing.

[frazzled]

3. That's really kind of weird

Mother's Day should be about nannies?

Well, maybe for Amy Poehler (and I don't blame her for having nannies). But the vast preponderance of American women do not have nannies. And while mother's certainly celebrate the workers who tend to their children at day care while they are at work, why choose Mother's Day to celebrate them? At this point, it means that there is no meaning to the word "mother."

On another level, if you watched Modern Family this week, it had a hysterical (and righteous) segment on Cam being incensed at being treated as the "mother" in his gay parenting relationship.

Maybe we should just drop Mother's Day (and Father's Day). Me, I'd like some perfume.

[Donnachaidh]

5. did you READ the article? Or even the few paragraphs posted here?

This is NOT about *nannies*.

:eyes:

[marions ghost]

4. maybe she'd like

no cuts in medicare.

[Honeycombe8]

6. Mom would also like reassurance that her Social Security and Medicare will be there...

when she needs it.