My dog is dying...crappy night...

[JFN1]

Cassie, my 11 year old Lhasa Apso. Sweetest damn dog you've ever seen, always happy to meet people, never even growled at anyone - not exaggerating - nothing but fun and play and cuddles and giving. She is one of the finest people I have ever known.

My wife and I rescued her from a pupppy mill. We hadn't planned on it, but a woman my wife worked with had visited the mill, not knowing it was a mill, and described the terrible conditions. That day my wife insited we visit the place - she wanted to see this, she could not believe such places existed.

It was worse than either of us imagined. The smell was horrific, the dogs were all in little cages, and none of them even whined - they just looked at us.

My wife locked eyes with Cassie, and that was it - minutes later we walked out with her. I had to give the lady $250 - a good portion of our rent, which we ended up being late on - whole other story.

It was the right decision. We called Oregon animal protection the next morning, and the lady was on the news that night - and in jail. All of the dogs except two were saved - two died from some kind of nerve thing - they were blind and couldn't walk from being kept in cages for months on end.

When we got Cassie, we already had a one year old male Lhasa (also a rescue, also another story) named Bandit - he's still in great health - he's 12 years old now and fiesty as his name suggests.

About a month ago, Cassie stopped walking. No fuss - just could not stand up. We thought she might have had a stroke or something, because she could not even move her left front paw, and kept leaning to the left.

The vet said no - she had somehow slipped a disk in her freaking neck. She never once cried out in pain, never indicated there was a problem. Hell, if it had been me, I'd have been screaming my head off! But Cassie never uttered a peep.

The vet told us it was a good thing she had stopped walking, because despite her checkup 6 months earlier and excellent blood tests, her heart had fluid all around it and a serious murmer had developed. He sent us home with 6 different meds - heart pill , fluid remover pill, pain pill, muscle relaxer, and two other ones I never did figure out what they were for - but apparently she had to have. The vet said at her age, it would take 2-3 weeks before she was better.

There has been no real improvement in the last month.

We must carry her everywhere, help her use the bathroom, hold her head so she can drink and eat, etc. We have been doing our best to nurse her back to health - she's old, she'd hurt herself, and her heart was in some distress.

We could not just give up on her - she and Bandit are our kids - never had the human kind - not our choice, also another story. There is no possible way we could have "put her down" - not while she had a chance for recovery.

Cassie has refused food all day. She takes a bit of water, and I tricked her into having a bit of beef broth earlier - but I am pretty sure she is done now.

I guess she has decided things for herself...

You know what keeps bugging me, though? And it fucking pisses me off that THIS is where my thoughts continue to stray...It keeps running round and round and round in my head, and though I don't have any "friends" here, I also have no other place I can vent this sort of thing, so pardon my rambling, and my making use of you in this way - if anyone is actually reading this anyway...

But I can't understand religious people. They talk endlessly about their god as being a "compassionate" being. They preach the concept of "original sin" and how man suffers because he fucked up, and thus we deserve a life of pain and sickness and uncertainty.

But an innocent little dog, who never even - literally - hurt a fly in her entire existence? She should suffer, at the end of her life, injury and pain and indignity and endless suffering...how could a "compassionate" god allow such a thing? What "original sin" did dogs commit to deserve our punishment? I might actually believe in original sin if puppies didn't suffer right alongside us. But they do. Where is the compassion in the suffering of innocent minds? Because I just don't see it, and I just don't think turning our whole country into a religious state for the sake of such a god, who defines compassion in this way, is in any way a smart or noble thing.

Rambling, sorry.

My puppy lies dying, slowly. Painfully? Fuck, I don't know. It ain't peaceful, though, I can tell that much...and we are powerless to do anything constructive other than fuss over her now and then, let her know we're here...Bandit is doing better than we are at it...he just lies at her side, has all day - also hasn't eaten today. He licks her now and then, noses food towards her, won't go outside without her...tell me he's not hurting, too...damn, this sucks so bad...

[Jmaxfie1]

1. I'm so sorry :( n/t

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. Ramble all you want...you need to, and I've got your back.

It's so tough when our babies die, and they always do before they should, before we do...

You've given her a much better life than she would ever have had before, in that puppy mill. She would have died there...

Maybe your vet will come by so she can be released?

Some vets will. I sure hope she's not suffering. They rely on us to take care of them at the end...

Safe passage to her.

Hugs for you...It's tough, I know. I've been there...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[OneGrassRoot]

90. I am so sorry....

I empathize, and I hear everything you said. It is hard to understand how a "compassionate God" would allow innocents to suffer.

I have no answers or words of wisdom, just many, many hugs of compassion for you all...and send good vibes that Cassie's suffering, and yours, is alleviated very, very soon. Bless that baby.

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[calimary]

91. I'm with CaliforniaPeggy. Ramble all you want. We're here to listen and offer virtual shoulders.

I'm so sorry to hear about this, JFN1.

Our cat Ernie went down slow and hard too. And we had a cat named Dub whose suffering we finally had to end. DAMN I tried so hard to nurse that cat back to health. Even wound up hand-feeding baby food (strained chicken) for a few days just to keep his strength up - giving him little dabs at the tip of my finger. It's terrible watching our critters suffer. They're our friends and family, they give love unconditionally and they're just glad to see you. Despite what Catholic school taught me (yeah, there's yer religious lovelies too), I believe they DO have souls and DO go to some sort of next-plane reward when they die.

I'm so sorry. I know it's not as comforting as holding or playing with or hanging around with your happy healthy Cassie, or just even knowing she's comfortable. But we're here.

:grouphug:

[Raine]

3. I'm so sorry

:hug: I lost my little guy four months ago, he died of a brain tumor. It was a long drawn out thing too, he had seizures etc. I understand how you feel about why is it that those so sweet and innocent have to suffer that way, I don't know. I still cry when I think about my dog, what he went thru and how I miss him. You and you wife and your special little ones will be in my thoughts. :hug:

[EFerrari]

4. I'm sorry your family is going through this.

:grouphug:

[Snoutport]

5. i lost my girl last new years.

sweetest dog ever. So I know how you feel and I'm really sorry. :0(

If I can suggest...my girl got so sick at the end and needed our help. We found a vet online who came to the house. A nice lady. She took care of things right here in our living room Both our cats were curled up right on top of their dog friend keeping her warm and we all got to be with her when she went. It was horrible but being home made it much easier. And our other animals understood what had happened. One of the cats wouldn't leave the dog bed for days.

I'm sorry for your pain but happy your dog had good owners.

[sabrina 1]

6. So sorry.

Ramble away, I've wondered the same thing also.

It's so hard to lose an animal friend, they are the best and yours sounds like a gem.

:hug:

[Suich]

7. I'm really sorry, JFN1.

Peace to all.

:hug:

[Zorra]

8. So very very sorry. I've lost too many awesome dog family members, and it always

hurts the same.

I wish you as fast a recovery as possible from your loss.
:hug:

[Maraya1969]

9. I am so sorry. I've been there too many times. I know what it is like.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Maybe there is a reason but you and I just don't know what it is yet. Maybe there is something we don't know that would make us feel at peace about it but we just don't know yet.

[Rhiannon12866]

10. Oh, I am so very sorry. I have been there more than once...

I took two of my senior dogs, one who could no longer walk and the other who had cancer, for acupuncture. I had it, myself, in an effort to avoid surgery, so I knew it could help, and it's non-invasive. And I had seen others of my vet's patients who had improved dramatically. It did not cure my 12-year-old dog with cancer, but it did help her become more comfortable, but my 17-year-old cocker spaniel did walk again after a few weeks of treatment, and walked just fine for the rest of his life. My vet offers both traditional and Eastern medicine, don't know if there's a vet in your area who does, but my vet gets the hopeless cases and often manages to turn them around.

I feel your pain and I have been where you are and you have all my sympathy and good wishes. It never gets any easier, I know, but where there's life, there's hope. And consider how very fortunate that your Cassie was to have found you. :hug:

[Hawkowl]

11. I am so sorry

Remember that you do have friends here. Here and everywhere that people love their animals as much as you. We all share your heartache with you.

[Liberty Belle]

12. There are pet chiropractors....perhaps one could help if not too late...

They can fix disks in people...maybe in puppies?

[Rhiannon12866]

21. I took my 17-year-old cocker to a veterinary chiropractor

She was actually an equine vet, but treated dogs who needed chiropractic two days a week. It did help, but she was awfully far away, but then my cat was referred to a vet who also offered alternative medicine, including acupuncture. My dog's issue was that he could not walk. I had to carry him outside, as well. But the acupuncture worked wonders and he walked just fine for the rest of his life. I suggested it to the OP, but I realize how fortunate I was to find a vet in my area who offered this. He does offer his services online, but acupuncture requires hands-on. :(

[bettyellen]

my old chirpractor would do the occasional dog. it;s worth a shot

[katanalori]

13. heartbreaking.....

Cassie is your special girl - we understand. Thank you for rescuing her - she knew what you did for her, and never complained.
And thank you for reporting the horror at the puppy mill.

What a gift of love Cassie gave to you and yours. And what a gift of love you gave to her.

[Name removed]

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[kristopher]

15. There is nothing to make this easier.

But you are not alone; we all share some measure of your grief.

[MiniMe]

16. I'm sorry for what you are going through

But she had a much better life with you than she would have had otherwise. And it sounds like you gave her a great life.

[joshcryer]

17. Family has a shitzu, he's 12, so I'm getting there. Hope you are OK.

Poor guy walks so slow these days, though he seems to like the cold, then he runs a bit.

[Angry Dragon]

18. ..............

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

[Piperay]

19. It always hurts so bad to lose them

I know just how you feel. :hug:

[Cleita]

20. Here's hoping Cassie has a peaceful crossing and my

heartfelt sympathy for what you are going through. It's very hard to lose a loved family member even if they walk on four feet and have fur.

[highplainsdem]

22. I'm so sorry. Our pets are family, and it hurts so much to lose them.

:hug:

[me b zola]

23. In tears for you and Cassie

I've had dogs that have been by best friends, quite literally. I know the pain of watching them suffer and not being able to help.


Off topic a bit, but your OP reminded me of my plight as an adopted person. Zealots demanded that I be born, yet I was left in a mill, if you will. Oh well,just rambling as I often do as it approaches my bday. Just say no to baby mills.

[JFN1]

26. Me too

Dad left when I was three, mom fostered me out shortly after that, never saw either of them again, so I understand - perhaps why I hate puppy mills and such so very much...

Happy B'Day to be, by the way...

[ohheckyeah]

24. All I can say

is I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your sweet pup.

[Whisp]

25. I am so sorry, JFN! :(

We had to go through something similar last summer and I feel your pain.

hugs and comfort to you and Cassie and family.

[Name removed]

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[murielm99]

28. I am so sorry.

Ramble all you want. You have a right to be angry. You love your dog.

I wish I could offer more comfort.

[JFN1]

29. Thank you, everyone. It means more than I can express.

My wife thanks you, as well, as I know Cassie and Bandit do, too.

Signing off - not up for more fencing with Classy Warrior...going to sit with my dog now.

[hlthe2b]

30. I am heart-broken for you... & in bed with my own doggie on borrowed time...

So, I truly know how painful this is. Dying surrounded by love is really all any of us can hope for. I will continue to send my wishes that Cassie's passing might be as gentle as possible and that you can find peace in that. :hug: I'm so sorry.

[trueblue2007]

31. so sorry your darling dog will be going to DOGGIE HEAVEN soon

we lost our 2 cats last year. SOPHIE WAS 15 AND SNICKERS WAS 5

God bless you.... i know it is hard. wish there was something i could do to help you!!

pat

[obxhead]

32. I didn't read your post.

I just couldn't from the title.

Last year I sat with my mothers cat on my lap petting her as she took her last breath. It was not peaceful for her, but I did the only damn thing I could for her, show her love and cry for the entire family.

I understand your pain (without reading even) and hope you can find the courage to find a new life mate to cherish.

[urgk]

33. You have my deepest sympathies. And congratulations.

Sympathy for the pain you're going through right now. And congratulations for caring about another living creature from end to end. I can't imagine any greater gift than to be loved and taken care of for an entire lifetime.

[Vinnie From Indy]

34. Cheers!

There are hardly any things that make life so sweet as the companionship of a good dog!

Cheers!

[kimi]

35. I'm sorry for your pain, and your family's pain

Truly. And of course for Cassie. She has been so very fortunate to have had you and your wife to care for her, and you will make the right decision, when the time comes, because of that concern and care.

Yes, it sucks, and you will grieve. And it is hard and painful, and so many of us have been through it. I'm going through it now. No words to express it, really, except this - you love her and that love is never going to change no matter her life circumstances.

My heart goes out to you and your wife and Bandit. Peace.

[Demonaut]

36. so very sorry to hear....it's painful but if you didn't feel the pain then

I wouldn't know what kind of owner you could be, if she's not whining then she may not be in much pain (I hope)

damn I know it's tough!

[housewolf]

37. My heart is SO with you - I too went through something similar

There's nothing anyone can say that will alleviate the either your pain and suffering, nor hers, so please just know that there are many of us here who know what you're going through. We're your companions - you're not alone in this. We're right here with you.

I lost my almost 16yr old best friend/companion Great Pyr mix in December of last year. The last 10 months or so of his life were extremely difficult. We struggled to keep him going until it reached the point where he really couldn't get up any longer. His world has been reduced down to a small area where he slept virtually all the time and I struggled trying to get some nutrition into him. Finally I had to make the decision to have the vet put him to sleep though, I gotta tell you, it was about the hardest decision I ever made and it took me a very long time to make it.

It's been 16 months now, and I still cry over losing him.

It turned out that the process of him going to sleep was very easy for him. The vet gave him a shot, and within a couple of minutes he was gone, very peacefully, very simply. He didn't fight or resist the drug in the least, it was completely non-violent, gentle, quick, no suffering involved. It helped me know that the time was right and he was ready to leave. But I had to make the decision to let him go and help him go, because he didn't was to leave me alone either, regardless of his suffering. I tried holding off until his spirit took him - but finally I realized that I had to be the strong one and take the action because he was holding on for my sake, and I had to be strong and brave enough to let him go. We had a long time to say goodbye to each other and when it was time, it was time.

I'm so sorry what what you are going through. My heart aches along with you.

Do you know the legend of the Rainbow Bridge? Look it up on the internet if you don't know it. It was make you cry but will provide comfort along with the tears.

Blessings and peace to you, Cassie, Bandit, your wife, and all whose life Cassie has touched.



:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Ken Burch]

38. Been there with several pets...damn it hurts...

I'm so sorry for your pain. If it's any help, it sounds like you gave Cassie a great life though. You did the right thing turning in that sadist who ran the puppy stalag.

You're in my thoughts tonight.

:cry: :grouphug:

[aquart]

39. She has been loved every day she has known you.

And she will give you a look to tell you when it's time.

But if she can't bear to leave all of you, let her know you'll be okay, and she's free to be out of pain and at peace.

You always knew her time was shorter than yours. And she has no regrets she made the journey in your company.

[backwoodsbob]

40. you are a dog lover

you have a friend here :hug:

been there..done that.i'm so sorry :cry: I'm crying reading that.

I've been through it and I know that doesn't make it better for you.It sucks..there is no easy way..I'm so sorry

[rasputin1952]

41. We lost Genja at a little over 3 years of age...

she stopped eating, took little sips of water, vomited...took her to the vet, said it was a massive vaginal infection.

When I took her back after a terrible turn of events, I held her head while they worked on her and watched her eyes dilate, I knew she was soon to be gone. I pleaded, I cried, and she looked at me as if to say..."it's OK, I could not have had a better friend." I still weep, but it gets better.

I like to think of her with the other dog spirits, playing, tail wagging, and telling them..."you guys have no idea how lucky I was...so much mutual love...it was the best of times."

Think of how the good times...and thank you for rescuing Cassie, and putting a monster in jail...:hug:

[renate]

102. what a beautiful thought... "...so much mutual love... it was the best of times"

I know that Cassie and Genja were both very lucky pups.

What a joy it is to know that those lives were full of nothing but love.

[lamp_shade]

42. What a beautiful tribute you've written to your Cassie. I'm so sorry.

[joeybee12]

43. So sorry to hear this...losing part of yourfamily is alway tough

:grouphug:

[barbtries]

44. i'm so sorry

you're going through this. peace to Cassie and her loved ones.

[Mnemosyne]

45. I pray Cassie goes quickly without suffering any more.

I am so damn sorry, JFN. :hug: She sounds like an amazing little gal. You saved her from a horrible situation and gave her a loving home for many years; you done good! :hug:

[michaz]

46. I am so sorry for what you are going through. We lost our 11 year old Lizzy in January.

We still miss her terribly. Know that you have given her love and care and made her life wonderful.

[xchrom]

47. so very sorry to hear of this difficult time for you.

it's very hard to lose our fur babies. very sorry.

[Stinky The Clown]

48. You bet! someone is listening.

Dogs define "unconditional love". I must say that ten times a week. I feel it a hundred times a day as I interact with our dogs and watch them interact with each other.

Cassie will have much fun and forever happiness Across Rainbow Bridge.

Take care of everyone as I know they'll be taking care of you. :hug:

And keep us updated. Rest assured. You're not alone.

[blueamy66]

49. I'm so sorry.

My thoughts are with you.

This is why I won't get another dog....

[democrank]

50. I`m so sorry, JFN1.

[dixiegrrrrl]

51. Worse part is feeling so helpless to do anything when our fur children are in trouble like that.

It just does not seem fair, does it?

[Fuddnik]

52. My heart goes out to you.

I lost two over an 18 month period about a year ago. I had both for almost 13 years each.

If she's suffering, it's time for a trip to the vet. Both of mine went peacefully lying in our arms. Then we went to the rescue about 10 days later and found a sweetie pie 9 week old Lab-Springer mix, and a year later, a Lab- Golden mix.

And we're leaving for the park as soon as I post this.

Here's what happens when Labs run across a flooded park a week ago.

[backwoodsbob]

55. yep

lost my baby bear not that long ago.It broke my heart...then

I found buddy

[calimary]

92. Damn! Look at that sheer joy! Love that last picture with the white dog just galloping along

wearing the big smile!

They're wonderful creatures. Just wonderful.

We have many of our loved ones on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge. Ernie, Rao, Bear, Tugger, Stripe, Mousetrap, Dub, Tasha, and even itty bitty Lucy the Hamster. When Goldie goes we're all gonna be a mess. She's the band's mascot.

It's hard to read through this thread without crying.

:cry:

[Possumpoint]

53. Understand Fully

As I sit here with tears running down my face. I wish you and your dog the best. A 65 year old man shouldn't cry over a dog but I do. We've had three, all buried out in the back yard along with a cat. You grow so attached to the furry children. The two we have now are great to us but won't tolerate other people or dogs.

[eowyn_of_rohan]

54. I'm so sorry...........

HAving been through a very similar thing 2 years ago this week.... my heart goes out to you and your beloved Cassie.
:cry:

[Vinca]

56. I'm so sorry.

[lapislzi]

57. I will keep you and Cassie in my thoughts today

And every day. There is little I can add to the comments others have made. I wish your baby peace on the journey, and peace for you once her suffering has passed.

As I learned this week with my own Kitty Krisis, your DU family is here for you.

Namaste. :hug:

[CrispyQ]

58. Regarding Cassie, you said, "She is one of the finest people I have ever known."

Love that. :hug:

Living with dogs & cats has made me a better person on so many levels. Losing them hurts so much, but the richness they bring while they are here -- I cannot imagine my life without even one of the wonderful creatures I've shared my journey with.

Peace to you & your family & Bandit & Cassie.

[mod mom]

59. So sorry, I went through losing a dog just before Christmas.

I still tear up over our loss. She survive in your happy memories of her. :(

[northernlights]

60. I am so sorry

for what you, your wife, Cassie and Bandit are suffering. :grouphug:

There is one thing you can do to ease her suffering, but only your and your wife and Cassie can determine if it is the right thing to do. We have a saying in the horse world: The greatest gift off love you can give is to take on their suffering for them. When a horse is in deep trouble, we ask ourselves constantly, am I keeping him going for his sake, or for my own? We have to be brutally honest on the chances of recovery, the quality of life after recovery, the quality of life in the moment.

If the answer is honestly, "for me," then we remember: the greatest gift of love I can give is to take on his suffering for him.

I promise you that Cassie will let you know the right answer if you discuss it with her. I have had to have numerous birds euthanized -- sometimes, frankly, I have done so with my own hands to save them the long and likely painful trip to the avian vet and all that entailed. In every case, I held them in my hands, told them how much I loved them and explained that there was nothing I could do to help them get better. I would let them know what I was going to do. If they had older flock-mates who had passed, I told them to look for them. They were very peaceful and passed very quickly. Except one bird, my canary Lady Di, who did not remain peaceful. As soon as I explained, she began struggling and resisted. So I put her back in her hospital cage and searched my house and brain for ways to help her live. And she did for another year, before dying quietly in her nest one night.

[meow mix]

61. sorry to hear it JF

not much family or friends here either, and my line of work makes me reclusive to say the least.
glad to have the dogs around id be crushed if anything happened to one

[Puglover]

62. I am sorry.

When a fur pal dies it just sucks. And the dying process is always hard. :hug:

[Evolve_Already]

63. ((((Cassie))))

:hugs:

[Pool Hall Ace]

64. Your rambling is justified.

We are here for you. :grouphug:

{{Cassie}}

[Ferretherder]

65. I am so sorry you are having to go through this.

I have had to watch SO many of my little furry playmates go - some in terrible pain - and I know EXACTLY how you feel about the 'compassionate god' thing.

I am sending as many good thoughts your way as I can.....hang in there, friend.

(....and as many good vibes as I can to Cassie.)

[Kadie]

66. I am so sorry : ( n/t

[OnyxCollie]

67. I'm sorry to hear about your dog.

As for the religious people, all the talk about a compassionate god is to allay their own fears and anxieties. They're afraid to be alone, on their own, without Daddy to protect them. Of course, the suffering continues, but God works in mysterious ways.:eyes:

It's also why some people here defend Obama so strongly, despite being continually shat upon.

[a la izquierda]

68. I'm so sorry. :(

This may sound harsh, and trust me I don't intend it to...but you really should have a chat with your vet about letting Cassie go. You will never forgive yourself if she's suffering. I know this from very personal, recent experience.
My sweet baby Knuckles, whom my husband and I found in California, crossed over last May (so I'm coming up on a year). He had doggie dementia. Blood work fine, ate normally, never seemed in pain. He was, however, blind and with dementia, had no real idea what was going on. This dog never let me out of his sight, and when I'd step out for a few minutes, the whole world knew because he'd howl bloody murder. I left for Mexico for 8 months and when I returned, nary a sniff in my direction- then I knew something was wrong. This dog that followed me into the bathroom got to the point where it would take a half hour for him to realize we were home, and even then he didn't care. But we couldn't put him to sleep, because he wasn't in pain and we thought that wasn't fair.
What wasn't fair was letting this dog suffer so. Suffer in miserable silence in a world he no longer recognized. My other dogs trotted around him to make sure he wouldn't get lost in the yard, and he repaid them with snaps and snarls.
I love that dog to pieces, but we finally had to let him go. My husband and our vet bawled their eyes out. Knuckles was one of my vet's first patients. He loved that dog like one of his own.

Your dog may never get better...but you have the right to end her pain, as miserable a decision as that is.
(PS, I've had to do this for two other dogs, one of whom I'd had for 15 years-more than half my life at the time he died).



ETA: Hopefully your little monkey is doing a bit better this morning.

[Zax2me]

69. I am religious and have lost 2 loved pets

I don't question my faith because of it. And I don't believe God is not compassionate because of it.
It's nature.
Death is not pleasant. I only hope your pet is not suffering.
You said - I guess she has decided things for herself...
I've seen that before with two of my dogs. It's as if they know it is time to check out. Held one in my arms as the vet euthanized him. His liver was almost completely gone. It was time. He too had refused to eat or drink at the end.
It hurt losing him. But I found real comfort in my faith.
Hopefully you can find it somewhere, because losing a pet SUCKS.
I have a new dog now, she is a pure pleasure in my life. I know one day she too will be gone. Circle of life. But for now she is a grace from God for me. Spoiled beyond belief but a true companion.
Sorry you are losing a friend - it's painful and words are little help but hope the pain eases soon for both of you.

[LiberalEsto]

70. Wishing Cassiie a peaceful crossing

to a better place, with no pain or suffering. Bless you both.

I'm looking at my pretty Penny, half Cavalier spaniel, half American Eskimo, not yet two years old, and thinking how hard it's going to be when her time comes.

[madmom]

71. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I too lost my furry friend a couple years

ago. I still miss him terribly. :cry: :hug:

[YvonneCa]

72. ...

... :hug: for you. :hug: for your wife and :hug: for Cassie.

[hfojvt]

73. try milk or bologna

I've given all of my dogs cow's milk, although a couple of vets have told me its not a good idea. They always lap it right up though, and I never see any problems. Towards the end of my Mitzi's life, it was all she could eat.

As for bologna, we had a terrier who was in love with my mom. When I was 18, the family went on vacations without me and left Rusty with me. With mom gone, he would sorta go on a hunger strike. But when I had bologna sandwiches for lunch, he would make an exception for that.

Although I have heard that starving to death is not painful. It was how Scott Nearing ended his life at age 100.

[Search4Justice]

74. Dogs are better than people...

... double that for rescued dogs. I don't think I could carry on if it weren't our noble canine friends and their selfless love. They ask so little, but give so much. I hope Cassie has a peaceful, pain free passing into her long sleep.

[Evolve_Already]

103. Here Here!

The truth in your words could not be more germane.

[dana_b]

75. my thoughts are with you guys

Cassie is lucky to have you all in her life. You are a great doggy dad.

[Thumper79]

76. Cassie

I was in tears reading your post. I wanted to pass something along that made me feel better when I lost one of my dogs. I've got the cremains of 6 dogs here that I want to join when I'm gone.
The Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

Here is one link where you can find this http://www.petloss.com/rainbowbridge.htm

[glinda]

77. I am truly sorry . I understand your sadness and anger.

[Mojorabbit]

78. I am so very sorry. It never

gets easier when it is time to say goodbye to a beloved companion. Holding you both in my thoughts.

[Shagbark Hickory]

79. I read it all. I don't have an answer though. Very sorry for the suffering that the both of you are

going through.

[Pharaoh]

80. Sorry.

they are all special little angels.

[alsame]

81. Hugs for all of you. I'm sorry you are going through this.

:grouphug:

[stuntcat]

82. she's been lucky to have you, that's all that matters

(((Cassie)))

It is so hard at the end. The most affectionate, smart, beautiful cat I ever had died in my arms one night. He'd been getting sicker and we had him on some medicines but then one night he faded so fast and I ended up laying on the couch with him in my arms while he died, it seemed just terrible...
It does suck so bad. I am sorry.

[LWolf]

83. :(

I'm so sorry.

I have been lucky; most of the dogs I've lived with over the course of my life died in their sleep when the time came, without having to go through something like that. I did, though, choose to put a beloved family member down about 15 years ago. He was declining; no longer digesting his food properly, and losing weight rapidly. The morning he couldn't get up, it was time.

I had my vet do a ranch call; he was lying in his bed, with his head in my lap, without fear or stress. He drifted off peacefully.

I was inconsolable for weeks.

[G_j]

84. hugs

I am approaching a similar situation.


loving thoughts your way..

[JFN1]

85. Thanks eveyone, it is such a comfort having your warm thoughts and support

Cassie is still hanging in there, as of 7pm central Sunday.

Peggy - thanks for your support & behind the scenes efforts - you are the best, Callie girl.

hfojvt - the milk worked. She took about 1/2 cup, then we were able to get her to accept some mashed potatos and au jus - all nicely pulverized into orphanrium-grade mush. Gave her the milk again this morning, and was able to get more food into after - big, big thanks.

And everyone else:

I don't care if it is corny - your words of support, just the fact you care enough to check in, is what defines us as Americans. Its not the politics or the money or the glamm/bling/flash or the celebrities or gadgets or fantastic natural beauty and wonders. No.

It is simply this.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

We are humbled. Thank you so very, very much.

[inna]

88. no words, just hugs

[calimary]

95. Don't forget the strained chicken baby food - it might help!

I gotta say one thing for sure, JFN1:

The night my mom died, I posted a brief message about it in my total numbness after her long long long suffering finally ended.

The posts came quickly and soon there were hundreds of them. There were the sweetest PMs that I never got to thanking people for. I was overwhelmed. The comfort and sympathy and love and support from that thread was just STUNNING. I was so brain-dead around then I just went through the motions about pretty much everything. And being here in the DU community was INCREDIBLY healing and sustaining and comforting.

For everyone who was there for me, I can't say enough thank-yous. They were there for me, and they're here for YOU now, JFN1. There are some truly sweet and wonderful and loving and compassionate and generous souls here on DU. They must surely have been dogs and cats in another life. And they will buoy you up.

:hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug:

[TuxedoKat]

113. I was just going to post the same thing!

Alot of people use this to tempt the appetites of sick kitties but it probably works with dogs too. Hope Cassie pulls through. (((HUGS)))

[Duer 157099]

86. No words, just tears n/t

[Terra Alta]

87. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[catrose]

89. Very sorry.

[sasha031]

93. I am so sorry for your pain and what little Cassie is going through

she is so lucky to have such a loving family. You are doing exactly what you are supposed to do, giving her love and care.
:grouphug:

[lunatica]

94. It's so heartbreaking

((((((((((JFN1 & family)))))))))))

[RamboLiberal]

96. I'm so sorry :( - I know how tough this is

I wish peace to you, Cassie and your family.

I don't know what else to say except we're here for you.

[Lefta Dissenter]

97. Thank you

thank you for giving her a life full of love. And I know she has returned the gift. :hug:

[DearAbby]

98. I'll cry with you,

safe journey Cassie. Rainbow bridge awaits you.

[DainBramaged]

99. You HAVE friends here, never forget.

:hug:

[1620rock]

100. My heart goes out to you..at 65 yrs. I have lost so many...

they were all rescues...cats mostly. A little bit of me has died with each one, but each one built a little house in my heart and lives there forever. If my animals don't go to heaven, I want to go where they went.

[Jack Sprat]

101. My heart goes out to you

I lost my miniature dachshund (best friend and constant companion of over 15 years) 2 weeks and 2 days ago. I can't put into words the loss I feel. I sure feel for you and your pup and wish you peace.

[Bettie]

104. So sorry about your pup

Saw in a later post you got her to eat something which is good.

On a positive note, my mother has a rescue dog (well, she has 10, but that's another story) who slipped a disc in his back and she was sure he was dying. They did what you are and nursed him for about a month and then, he got a little movement back and then a bit more.

Yesterday, he was running around with only a little stiffness in one back leg.

So, I am hopeful that your Cassie still can pull through this.

If not, she knows you love her and you've given her a good life, none of us can ask for more than that....love and a safe home.

[snappyturtle]

105. I've been staring at the keyboard for at least ten minutes trying to

find the right words. There are none any better than what's already been expressed.

But, here's another :grouphug: I hope all these hugs you've been sent help all of you....peace.

[JFN1]

106. Just an update - Cassie passed today, very peacefully.

Thank you to all, for your support.

:hug:

[Liberal_in_LA]

107. Sorry about your loss

[fizzgig]

109. rest easy, cassie

i'm just seeing this thread, jfn1, and i am so very sorry for your loss. :hug:

[Curmudgeoness]

110. I am so sorry. Your story made me cry. It was time to go.

I am grateful that she went peacefully. She is no longer in pain. RIP Cassie.

[EFerrari]

115. Thoughts and wishes to the JFN1 family.

:grouphug:

[bettyellen]

116. .

[Dappleganger]

117. Sorry to hear this.

:hug:

[Evolve_Already]

123. Thank YOU (((((Cassie)))))

:hug: :hug:

[ddeclue]

108. Sorry about your poor doggy!

:grouphug:

[Odin2005]

111. I'm so sorry!

:(

[blondeatlast]

112. I'm so very sorry, friend. Thank you for giving her a wonderful, loved life.

:hug:

[ebbie15644]

114. I'm so sorry, my thoughts are with your family!

[Liberal In Texas]

118. I'm terribly sorry to hear about Cassie. We lost Zelda on the last day of Sept.

after a month of her fighting cancer. We tried everything to save her: neurosurgery, MRI's, blood transfusions. She was scheduled to start chemo-therapy, but disease in dogs spreads so quickly, she never had a chance. In the end she stopped eating, the vets were giving her IVs to keep her going. The final straw was she had to be in an oxygen tent to breathe as fluid started to build up around her lungs.

I wanted to bring her home so she could die in her bed, but the vet said she wouldn't make the 30 min. drive from the hospital. Knowing we had to put the best dog I have ever known to sleep was the hardest thing I have ever done, I nearly collapsed going into the hospital on that last day.

Also, I don't know how much good the wellness exams are. She religiously had them, and two weeks after she passed the last one with flying colors, she started to have stress symptoms which were caused by what we later found to be a brain tumor.

I know what you are going through, there is nothing I can say that will make it better. I also feel your rage of why monsters like Cheney still walk the earth and a little 10 year old lamb like my Zelda suddenly dies.

Peace to Cassie and to you and yours.

L

[RebelOne]

119. So sorry. It is hard to watch a beloved pet in pain

and you feel so helpless. I feel your pain. My Rottweiler was just 2 weeks short of her 13th birthday when I had to take her to the final visit to the vet. It broke my heart, but she had liver and bone cancer and could barely walk. Her meds just were not working any more. And she was slowly dying, so I knew I could not let her suffer any longer. Know that when you finally have to let your dear doggy go that she is out of pain, and if she could talk would probably thank you. I know how much you are also suffering, as I am still grieving for my dog.

I am an atheist and would like to believe in a Rainbow Bridge where all my deceased pets will be there to greet me when I pass, but I seriously doubt there is such a place.

Just take comfort in knowing that you gave your baby a happy life while she was here with you.

[sixmile]

120. I'll tell you a story that has helped me through several great dogs:

When God separated Man from the Beasts a great chasm opened in the Earth. Dog jumped the chasm and sat next to Man.

That's an old Indian legend, but it feels just right. Be strong. This too shall pass.

[JFN1]

122. Never heard that before.

Made us both start crying again...feels so true...thank you for this...

[TuxedoKat]

121. I just read your update

and I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved Cassie. (((HUGS)))