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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsJust overheard: "You have no right to hit. You'Re not his mother or
Father. You can't do that."
It was a grandmother to 3 boys under 7 at a state park.
Right before that, I overheard a father nastily telling his 19 yo daughter to get a better attitude and stop sulking, or she can wait in the car.
And we wonder where hateful frump votees come from.
RockRaven
(15,035 posts)Religion, politics, the workplace, family life. It's a toxic, interconnected mess.
Loki Liesmith
(4,602 posts)cyclonefence
(4,483 posts)It doesn't mean that parents should or will hit their children; it means if anyone has a right to hit a child (which no one does) it's a parent. Good way to stop boys from hitting each other--they are probably from families where parents do hit their children, so it was speaking a language they could understand. Smart grandma, I think.
And are you really offended by the father telling the teenager to stop sulking or stay in the car? Have you ever had to spend time with a sulky teenager? Father offered her a choice--it's up to her. If she wants to be with the rest of the family, she has to stop being a shit. If she wants to continue being a shit, she can stay by herself.
I think it's a leap to associate these forms of parenting with the vicious ruthlessness and cruelty of Trumpism.
Drahthaardogs
(6,843 posts)A father told his 19 year old to act like an adult or go sit in the car like a baby.
I hope someone called Social Services...
lindysalsagal
(20,747 posts)MineralMan
(146,338 posts)We have only what you posted over which to ponder. In your OP, you say the daughter was 19. The OP still says she was 19. Which is it? Perhaps when you write up one of these observations, you could take a little more time and provide a little more information. Then, you could read it again before posting to make sure you didnt mistype.Words are free here on DU. You can use as many as you want.
Drahthaardogs
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Tipperary
(6,930 posts)Last edited Fri Jul 6, 2018, 05:09 PM - Edit history (1)
Weird how I never notice family interactions elsewhere. I guess I am just busy minding my own damn business.
But it is a cool story bro.
B2G
(9,766 posts)And you didn't call the authorities?
LMAO.
Petosky Stone
(52 posts)It was probably all mostly well deserved.
And then when you got home, Mom or Dad had already heard about your behavior, so you got it again.
My best friend's Polish grandmother had a piece of hotwheels track over every doorjamb. Because we couldn't understand her, we were never really sure why she was whacking us, but we sure seemed to deserve it often.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)"It was probably all mostly well deserved..."
That's often a justification used by victims of domestic and spousal abuse to better normalize their abnormal lives.
I get it though... hitting children is a way of life for many people and they will attempt to trivialize it, minimize it, excuse it, rationalize it... anything in order to normalize violence.
MineralMan
(146,338 posts)The grandmother may have spoken incorrectly, but if she got the boys to stop hitting, I'm OK with it.
As for the father and the sulky 19 year old daughter, I can't say I see anything wrong there. Not at all. She's an adult, but she's still a member of that family. Staying in the car is an option if she's unhappy with something, rather than whining and sulking in her father's or family's activity.
"If you're going to act that way, you can just wait in the car until we return." I don't see anything there that would lead to someone becoming hateful and Trump-like. Instead, I see a lesson in proper behavior and self-control. That's something a lot of people need, it seems to me.
lindysalsagal
(20,747 posts)The father was enjoying taunting her. There was a nine yo boy with them, off by himself with his face in his hands trying not to cry, wiping his face. Miserable group.
B2G
(9,766 posts)You have no clue what went on before or after.
Threatening to send a surly kid to the car isn't abuse. It's parenting.
MineralMan
(146,338 posts)You said nothing about that. How long did you observe them? Long enough to determine the dynamic of the situation? How did you determine the father's level of enjoyment?
So many questions. So little information.
Tipperary
(6,930 posts)WillowTree
(5,325 posts)And have a great weekend!!
Tipperary
(6,930 posts)MineralMan
(146,338 posts)Are these people you know? You said she was 19 in the first post. Do you not understand our confusion here? Maybe you should start over and tell us the entire story?
Unless you do that, I'm out, and question the entire incident.
Tipperary
(6,930 posts)No one should judge anyone elses family dynamic, especially in a vacation area lol. Many, my family had some epic meltdowns as we moved through our lives. I am so glad someone was not there just judging and staring. I guess your family life is perfect, amirite?
CentralMass
(15,265 posts)attitude bad ?
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)MineralMan
(146,338 posts)I encourage people to use as many as are needed to tell the entire story. And then, it's useful to proofread to make sure you have your facts right. Otherwise, it's very confusing, indeed.
Tipperary
(6,930 posts)How the op knew the ages, the relationship of woman to children etc. is beyond me. Perhaps she quizzed them.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)Are probably on a progressive discussion board today talking about the fascist Republican they ran into.
Tipperary
(6,930 posts)I think not.
Horse with no Name
(33,958 posts)I thought this pejorative was only used on whatever they call their rw cesspool these days??
I used to like Bouncy. Just curious.
Codeine
(25,586 posts)(or teenaged young adult; your story isnt exactly holding together consistently) to knock it off? Kids get selfish and crabby sometimes, especially while traveling, and on those occasions a verbal reality check is proper parenting.
Turbineguy
(37,374 posts)Their cups of shit runneth over.