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http://www.rawstory.com/2015/08/anna-duggar-partly-blames-herself-and-will-never-leave-her-cheating-anti-lgbt-activist-husband-source/Anna Duggar wont likely leave her husband despite his admitted cheating and will instead blame herself, according to a new report.
Josh Duggar, the former reality TV star and anti-LGBT activist, admitted Thursday to an addiction to pornography and infidelity after reports revealed he paid for two accounts on the adultery website Ashley Madison.
This comes three months after revelations that he molested four of his sisters and a family friend as they slept more than a decade ago, when he was a teenager.
A source told People magazine that Anna Duggar, who gave birth last month to the couples fourth child, would likely absorb some of the blame for her husbands cheating.
Anna will not leave him, the source said. As with her in-laws, she is turning more to her faith than ever. She and Josh are probably praying around the clock right now, I would assume.
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I am not anti-religion. I will defend your right to believe whatever you want BUT honestly sometimes with these fundies you have to wonder if their "beliefs" are more dangerous than helpful.
This is the whole Blame the female because she is the sex that created the greatest sin/we need to control dominate and treated like crap!
Stargazer09
(2,132 posts)It will be very difficult for her to escape that horrible, abusive marriage. She has four young children, and unless her family is willing to help her, she probably has nowhere to go.
With that said, if he truly told her before they were married that he molested his sisters, she may be too far into that awful culture to even think about getting out.
Johonny
(20,927 posts)She likely born into a "faith" society that teaches her to accept these things, have lots of kids, and look/act a certain way. Sadly she is turning to that faith for more help. Ugh.
nichomachus
(12,754 posts)If she really cares for those kids, she'd get them as far away from Josh as humanly possible.
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Sunlei
(22,651 posts)Cal Carpenter
(4,959 posts)This guy molested his sisters when he was a teenager. He cheated on his wife. I don't think internet porn is the 'root' of his problem. Another symptom, perhaps, but not the root.
Chiyo-chichi
(3,591 posts)in his "apology" statement yesterday.
Cal Carpenter
(4,959 posts)PJMcK
(22,060 posts)At least that's how I read Sunlei's post. After all, without porn, the Internet wouldn't be much fun, would it? (wink)
Cal Carpenter
(4,959 posts)CanonRay
(14,125 posts)by these evil people.
Beaverhausen
(24,472 posts)I'll wait and see.
waddirum
(980 posts)They are both predators. She is complicit, essentially giving him the green light for his awful behavior.
Bettie
(16,138 posts)and he will, if he hasn't already. Those types do not change.
hamsterjill
(15,224 posts)There's something sick and twisted about Josh. I realize that is the understatement of the year! But it's not only that he's done the horrible things that he's admitted to doing, it's the "I have sinned" confession coming so quickly. He's deeply in need of the spotlight and attention, something he obviously never got growing up in a house with 18 other siblings.
I think he'll molest his daughters down the line, if for no other reason than to be able to have more publicity. Anna Duggar is (indeed) in a difficult situation and I realize it would be difficult for her to leave him, but in my opinion, her duty as the mother of those children should trump anything else and she needs to get the hell away from that creep to protect her children.
Bettie
(16,138 posts)to believe that any "straying" he does, either with hookers, porn, or her children, is all her fault for not being "enough".
Just saw a thing on KOS with the statement: "Sex is like pre-chewed chewing gum ... Is that what you want to present to your husband?"
The thing is, the boys/men are taught that once they've "chewed that gum" it is worthless except as a vehicle for child production.
In the end, she'll never leave him, because doing so would show his family, her family, and everyone she actually knows that she wasn't "good enough" to hold his interest.
I have a very cynical view of extremely religious families I guess.
Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)alcibiades_mystery
(36,437 posts)speculates about the goings-on in the home of former reality show quasi-celebrities?
My, my. How have the mighty fallen.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)But this is tabloid level bullshit.
Rex
(65,616 posts)Fallen from the grate in the sewer into a cesspool is more like it.
catrose
(5,075 posts)It's not your fault.
N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,792 posts)Dear Anna,
No it's not your fault. But you are an enabler.
Get help!
He is to blame but you had a large part in it.
Can't see that?
Get help.
catrose
(5,075 posts)From the birth of her 4th baby.
CBGLuthier
(12,723 posts)I have very good friends who believe in Jesus and all that and they would never believe women are breeding machines that must accept a man's dominance even when he is a fucking idiot tool scumbag not worthy of anyone's respect.
Same way i feel about some Muslims. Not the religion but the cultural misinterpretation.
yardwork
(61,736 posts)Ironically, this is what Jesus preached against.
hunter
(38,339 posts)... masters of their Wild West domains.
It's still like that, and in my wife's family too. Bad men earn Darwin Awards, at best by simple "you are the weakest link" rejection, or at worst by extreme mayhem and call the county sheriff-coroner to clean up the mess.
Genghis Khan may have died like that. Mother Mary and Saint Brigit were very dangerous women too.
From Biblical evidence early Christianity was matriarchal. It took a feckless guy like Paul to reinvent the religion into something acceptable in patriarchal societies, especially Roman society. My Christian-insane-talks-to-God-mom thinks Paul can be a jerk sometimes, and has always said so, making me and my siblings and my supernaturally patient dad frequently uncomfortable in Church. We also had to leave Franco's Spain in the middle of the night once upon a time.
I would never claim such matriarchal religious societies are ideal. Abusive Catholic school teacher and adoption agency and orphanage nuns are not good people.
But the patriarchal Christianity of the Duggar sort seems somehow worse. They live in the same sewers as all the child abusing and other sexually dishonest and closeted freaks.
Anyone who is entirely honest with their enthusiastically consenting "safe sex" adult gay or straight sexual partners is doing no wrong.
It's the cheaters and child molesters who most deserve the scorn of ordinary society.
Josh Duggar is at best a cheater, but more likely worse scum. I wouldn't trust him with children, I'd probably cut off his balls and nail them to the fireplace mantle as a trophy if I was his wife.
yardwork
(61,736 posts)Logical
(22,457 posts)leftyladyfrommo
(18,874 posts)I just saw where they are pitching a new show where they do counseling for sexual abuse.
Lord.
hobbit709
(41,694 posts)Octafish
(55,745 posts)And for a guy who's never worked a day in his adult life, Mr. Duggar has done a lot of it.
logosoco
(3,208 posts)but from what I see, I notice they don't seem to talk much about LOVE and care when they are discussing marriage and raising families. That seems to be a word I use often when I speak of these things.
Kaleva
(36,372 posts)"Her mother-in-law, Michelle Duggar, advises married women to have sex with their husband whenever he wants.
Be available, the 49-year-old said in an interview last year. Anyone can fix him lunch, but only one person can meet that physical need of love that he has. You always need to be available when he calls."
http://www.rawstory.com/2015/08/anna-duggar-partly-blames-herself-and-will-never-leave-her-cheating-anti-lgbt-activist-husband-source/
Initech
(100,117 posts)Anna needs to get out of that relationship and get the kids away from that monster as soon as possible. The Duggars have definitely brainwashed her.
randys1
(16,286 posts)the harm done by white heterosexual males, is so overwhelming there is no way to measure it.
Yes, all men regardless of race are potentially horrible, but white men have all the power.
roscoeroscoe
(1,370 posts)Take Anna and the kids to Big Sur, go get real
Jester Messiah
(4,711 posts)I hope one day she finds the strength to break free.
Gothmog
(145,751 posts)This lady is brainwashed
Rex
(65,616 posts)Stupid morans deserve each other and the shitty tabloid that makes them infamous.
hifiguy
(33,688 posts)Klowns gonna klown.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)Make me even happier that I'm an atheist.
DefenseLawyer
(11,101 posts)VMA131Marine
(4,158 posts)Sooner or later there is going to be a tell-all interview with one or more of the women he cheated with.
City Lights
(25,171 posts)Not really surprising, though, considering the environment in which she lives.