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[Xyzse]

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[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. It's a really beautiful letter...

I think I would send it, if I were you. It says some important things that I believe she should hear. I think she will understand.

Such friendships are rare, but they do happen, and they should be cherished as the rare things they are.

Best of luck.

[Xyzse]

2. Thanks. In truth, I was actually just thinking of using what I wrote as a structure for talking.

Letters make things too official doesn't it?

It is also why I didn't write it in calligraphy.
When I was younger, the letters I write were always like that, fit enough to be framed.

Now that I am older, I just think it could be construed as being pretentious.

[DryHump]

3. If in doubt,

DON'T. Once written, once read, it is done. It is irreversible. Consider everything.

[Xyzse]

4. See, you're probably right.

I'll wait another week perhaps.
Though as mentioned, I tend to write letters to frame my thoughts.

That way, when I talk, I can latch on to key phrases that I have come up with before.

[edgineered]

5. Stop, don't send it.

She feels comfortable being with you. The ease of not having to deal with someone asking her for tomorrow may be what makes today a nice day for her. Take your time.

[Xyzse]

6. Thanks

It is why I think I shouldn't, otherwise was wondering how to change it.

Probably just ask if I did something wrong... Maybe.

It is not as if I want a change... Just don't want to be demoted.

[edgineered]

7. Simple things seem to work well.

Picking up a card and jotting a few words on it is a decent start. Be careful not to over write it. Maybe just say, This card made me think of you! Then see what direction she goes in. Or write, Thanks for making me feel good on a bad day. But whatever you do, don't start off running.

[Xyzse]

8. There are no bad days.

I just... Felt distance, which was not there before and unsure of the reason. It's been two weeks, after a trip with her and her mother...

Which is why, I'm not sure what is going on.

The letter is mostly to organize my thoughts.

It is a means to figure out what to say, given timing.

[edgineered]

9. The idea is to say something that will make her feel good,

make her happy to be with you again, make her want to see you again. At the risk of offending some, what you say or write does not have to be the absolute truth in every detail - it is only meant to serve as a means of showing her that you are able to put her thoughts, feelings, needs, or whatever before your own. Show her that you are not only thinking about yourself. That will go beyond any letter showing your heart on your sleeve.

[Xyzse]

10. Hmm, truth has always been what I go for but I take your point.

Thank you...

I will be deleting my original post.

It was a means for me to organize my thoughts and figure out what I'd be comfortable doing.

It was also a way for me to give voice to things I put down...

Haven't written a letter in a while. I think I just needed to get it out my system.

[edgineered]

11. I am sure things will be just fine.

sometimes getting a different view reinforces one you already had, and sometimes things go in a different direction. Best of luck.

[BlueJazz]

12. I think you're in love with her. I'd tell her how I feel and let the chips fall where they may.

This type of stuff can drag out until you realize your life is slipping away. Just my opinion.

[Xyzse]

13. There is no way that I don't love this person.

I just don't think it's supposed to be anything beyond friendship.
I might actually be confused about that too... I just haven't fully accepted it within myself.
As such, I don't think it fair either, so I can't.

However, I appreciate your opinion.

[Xyzse]

14. Even doing nothing, or trying to act normally it unravelled.

I don't understand anything.
I am told nothing, and so lost a friend without a clue how it happened.