Tuesday Afternoon
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Fri Dec-05-08 12:13 AM
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Single People: How soon do you start telling the person |
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Edited on Fri Dec-05-08 12:24 AM by Tuesday Afternoon
you are dating about their faults and why? Are they deal breaking faults or just irritating quirks? Or is it just the plain fact that no one is perfect?
eta: How do you handle the conversation? What about the other way around -- if and when did the person you are dating start pointing out your faults and/or idiosyncrasies?
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Fri Dec-05-08 12:51 AM
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1. Do you really need to tell him/her? |
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Usually people already know. It's more a matter of kindly discussing acceptable behavior when you're together than labeling faults.
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Tuesday Afternoon
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:00 AM
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I am not dating anyone. I have had it happen to me back when I was dating...kind of sucked. Just wondering if it has ever happened to anyone else and how did they handle it?
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Fri Dec-05-08 12:56 AM
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2. If you're interested in someone, and you bring out |
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a list of their faults, that will drive them away. If you're not interested, why bother?
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Tuesday Afternoon
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:01 AM
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5. that was my thought as well. |
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we quit dating soon after the conversation.
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Fri Dec-05-08 12:58 AM
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3. Uh, if you immediately want to change somebody, you probably shouldn't date them. |
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Or at least shouldn't have any expectation that the relationship will go anywhere.
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Tuesday Afternoon
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:01 AM
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6. uh...this happened to me... |
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:02 AM
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7. Probably for the best then. |
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That person either had issues or was just a douche. Sorry, but at least you found out before you were too far into the relationship.
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Tuesday Afternoon
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:08 AM
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9. yes. He was a douchebag of assorted issues. |
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That did it for me. It is the weirdest feeling. I am done with it. I want to be alone, except for family. No more dating for me. It is just not worth it.
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:54 AM
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14. I'm amazed at how may |
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women (I say women because that's the only gender I have experience dating) have the attitude that their role in life is to passive-aggressively change whoever they're dating into what they really want. I've had a few short relationships end quickly when I realized she took that approach to relationships.
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:05 AM
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8. I find that an explanatory limerick is usually the best way to go |
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For instance:
I'm so glad that we happened to meet. You're romantic and clever and sweet, But I'll kick your ass out Without even a shout If you continue to piss on the seat.
Something like that.
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Tuesday Afternoon
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:09 AM
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:10 AM
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Feel free to use that one whenever you need it, even without attribution.
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:12 AM
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12. it was the other way around... |
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I have no need for it but, thanks for offering. I am done.
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Fri Dec-05-08 01:13 AM
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13. Well, next time make sure to lift the lid |
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Just kidding, of course.
From what I've read here, it sounds like you're better off.
:hug:
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