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hulklogan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:35 AM Original message |
Are gay people who marry or date straight people predators? |
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Merlot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:41 AM Response to Original message |
1. Well, if someone knows they're gay and deceives a straight person |
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ayeshahaqqiqa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 01:25 PM Response to Reply #1 |
23. I think decades ago you'd be more likely to find this |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 03:37 PM Response to Reply #23 |
31. True, but it happens now more than you would think, especially in small towns |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:41 AM Response to Original message |
2. That's why I tell people "I'm bi" upfront. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 02:10 PM Response to Reply #2 |
25. eh nevermind. |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 05:27 PM Response to Reply #25 |
37. There's really no point. |
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Jamastiene (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 05:32 PM Response to Reply #25 |
39. I know how that feels. |
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Recursion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:42 AM Response to Original message |
3. I'm sure some of them are |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:43 AM Response to Reply #3 |
4. Exactly. |
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ayeshahaqqiqa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 01:30 PM Response to Reply #3 |
24. exactly so |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:43 AM Response to Original message |
5. No, of course not |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:37 PM Response to Reply #5 |
16. It is possible for the straight partner to be devastated -- as anyone can be |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:58 PM Response to Reply #16 |
21. "Unknowing?" |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 03:28 PM Response to Reply #21 |
28. I have an acquaintance who personally knows the ex-wife. |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 03:49 PM Response to Reply #28 |
32. Weren't the threesomes kind of a tip-off? |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 07:50 PM Response to Reply #32 |
42. dying here laughing (n/t) |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 01:35 AM Response to Reply #32 |
47. I don't have any particular reason to believe that person's story. |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 01:54 AM Response to Reply #47 |
51. Two of the three remember being in threesomes together. |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 02:06 AM Response to Reply #51 |
55. So? I think the other guy said what McGreevey wanted him to say |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 07:50 AM Response to Reply #51 |
58. Just an FYI |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 12:22 PM Response to Reply #58 |
66. What is this, junior high? n/t |
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Warpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:43 AM Response to Original message |
6. I don't think so. |
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carpe diem (769 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:46 AM Response to Original message |
7. I wouldn't necessarily use the word predator... |
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hlthe2b (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:48 AM Response to Original message |
8. I know of many straight-gay couples, who mututally decided |
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Berry Cool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:16 PM Response to Reply #8 |
13. This is one unpleasant reality the gay person in the relationship must face. |
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hlthe2b (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:26 PM Response to Reply #13 |
14. Yes... agree |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:40 PM Response to Reply #13 |
18. I agree. n/t |
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PDJane (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:49 AM Response to Original message |
9. Not predators, no. |
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sundog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:56 AM Response to Original message |
10. uh |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:00 PM Response to Original message |
11. I don't think they are predators. |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:47 PM Response to Reply #11 |
20. If the gay person is an adult fully conscious of his or her identity |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 04:16 PM Response to Reply #20 |
36. Eh. I'm not convinced. |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 01:43 AM Response to Reply #36 |
49. I think we mostly agree, since I was talking about about a person who's "fully conscious" |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 02:09 AM Response to Reply #49 |
56. if they marry with the intent |
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CoffeeCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:05 PM Response to Original message |
12. Society makes it very difficult for gay people... |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:32 PM Response to Original message |
15. I think they are both victims. But it is wrong for a gay adult to be dishonest |
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keepCAblue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 12:02 PM Response to Reply #15 |
62. It is just as wrong for a straight adult to be dishonest -- and THAT happens.... |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 12:17 PM Response to Reply #62 |
65. Of course. No one, straight or gay, should be dishonest with their spouse, |
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keepCAblue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 02:18 PM Response to Reply #65 |
67. Not implied by words, but by omission |
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Heidi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:38 PM Response to Original message |
17. No. There aren't any promises until we make them. |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 03:30 PM Response to Reply #17 |
29. The OP also asked about marrying, and that IS a promise. |
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Heidi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 01:40 AM Response to Reply #29 |
48. The OP asked about dating, too. That's the part I addressed. (nt) |
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theoldman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 12:45 PM Response to Original message |
19. This discussion again brings up my theory that there is no |
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ayeshahaqqiqa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 01:21 PM Response to Original message |
22. I've known gay people who married straights |
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NYC_SKP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 03:17 PM Response to Original message |
26. No. Predators prey with intent to harm and deceit is a tool used to get there. |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 03:32 PM Response to Reply #26 |
30. The OP also addressed the issue of gay people who marry unknowing straights, |
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NYC_SKP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 04:11 PM Response to Reply #30 |
35. true... |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 01:45 AM Response to Reply #35 |
50. I don't agree with the 50% thing, except as an average. In certain situations, |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 03:19 PM Response to Original message |
27. Doesn't it depend on who those two people are in the first place? |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 03:56 PM Response to Original message |
33. There are predatory people of all orientations |
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NMMNG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 04:06 PM Response to Original message |
34. They're not predators |
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Jamastiene (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 05:31 PM Response to Original message |
38. It's only a survival mechanism. |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 01:57 AM Response to Reply #38 |
52. As the daughter of a gay man who was married in the 50's - 70's, I think there |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 03:33 PM Response to Reply #52 |
69. all children from unhappy marriages suffer. not just the ones from gay ones |
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HillbillyBob (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 07:21 PM Response to Original message |
40. Gay people get coerced into those relationships. |
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keepCAblue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 07:29 PM Response to Original message |
41. I've known far more "straight" (& usually married) men and women who date gays/lesbians |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 01:59 AM Response to Reply #41 |
53. No one is a predator who is open and honest about his or her orientation. n/t |
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keepCAblue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 12:06 PM Response to Reply #53 |
63. Yes, but many of the straights that are married are not open and honest. |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 12:14 PM Response to Reply #63 |
64. A "straight man" who repeatedly seeks out gay men for sex, |
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mitchtv (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:41 PM Response to Original message |
43. they are both victims, but that doesn't excuse dishonesty |
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Toasterlad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-28-08 11:56 PM Response to Original message |
44. You USED Her. I Wouldn't Say You "Preyed" on Her. |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 02:00 AM Response to Reply #44 |
54. I agree. n/t |
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Marrah_G (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 01:31 AM Response to Original message |
45. My birth mother was married to a gay man |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 01:33 AM Response to Original message |
46. i was very populer with lots of straight boys who weren't |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 03:19 PM Response to Reply #46 |
68. i love you xchrom. your posts make me smile and remind me why i love my queer community so much |
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lightningandsnow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 07:01 AM Response to Original message |
57. I had a "straight" girlfriend once. |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 09:17 AM Response to Original message |
59. Dude, you were doing the best you could under the circumstances. |
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TechBear_Seattle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 09:27 AM Response to Original message |
60. "Predator" is a bit strong |
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sui generis (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-29-08 10:24 AM Response to Original message |
61. I've never been "in" the closet |
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