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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:14 AM Original message |
Saying NO to a toddler v. "That behavior is unacceptable" |
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YOY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:17 AM Response to Original message |
1. I know you're trying to make a greater point but even if you do the aforementioned for a child.q |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:18 AM Response to Original message |
2. It's bullshit. Sort of. |
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Kansas Wyatt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:23 AM Response to Reply #2 |
4. I agree |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:28 AM Original message |
Yes, the explaining is important. It can come later. |
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Atman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:51 AM Response to Reply #2 |
10. NO has a clear, distinct meaning to a toddler. A five-syllable word doesn't. |
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JuniperLea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 12:50 PM Response to Reply #2 |
40. Maybe I was just a stuttering mom... |
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ikojo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:19 AM Response to Original message |
3. Wow, do the expert think hearing no will hurrt their widdle |
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Happyhippychick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:36 AM Response to Reply #3 |
8. It has nothing to do with self-esteem, it has to do with effectiveness. |
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Atman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:53 AM Response to Reply #8 |
11. They won't tune it out if they're sure of what it means. |
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Happyhippychick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:03 AM Response to Reply #11 |
19. I'm not saying they don't know what it means, I'm saying it's ineffective. |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:55 AM Response to Reply #8 |
12. If you keep saying anything, even "that behavior is unacceptable", they tune it out. |
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Happyhippychick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:57 AM Response to Reply #12 |
16. I agree, that's why I prefer "hot" or "ouch". |
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surrealAmerican (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:24 AM Response to Reply #8 |
25. That is the point. |
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Caliman73 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 01:48 PM Response to Reply #8 |
43. words in general are ineffective |
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Rebubula (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:28 AM Response to Original message |
5. No |
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alcibiades_mystery (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 07:43 PM Response to Reply #5 |
51. You shouldn't hit kids...ever |
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blogslut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:30 AM Response to Original message |
6. Negative reinforcement |
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Atman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:56 AM Response to Reply #6 |
14. What you are saying is fine...and should be preceeded by a firm NO... |
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blogslut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:18 AM Response to Reply #14 |
23. Okay |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 02:07 PM Response to Reply #14 |
47. my 2 year old gets ownership |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 12:48 PM Response to Reply #6 |
39. The reality is that both positive and negative reinforcement are necessary. |
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blogslut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 01:59 PM Response to Reply #39 |
44. Don't get me wrong |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 07:37 PM Response to Reply #44 |
50. Between |
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Bigmack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:32 AM Response to Original message |
7. Another country heard from.... |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 12:44 PM Response to Reply #7 |
38. I have that same sound for my dog, and she responds. |
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hlthe2b (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:46 AM Response to Original message |
9. Oh, please..... |
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BanzaiBonnie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:56 AM Response to Reply #9 |
15. Treat your children like dogs |
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RobinA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:11 AM Response to Reply #9 |
21. My Favorite |
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DS1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 10:56 AM Response to Original message |
13. that's way too long to tattoo on my knuckles |
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gollygee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:01 AM Response to Original message |
17. What I've read is to replace "no" with what the child *should* do |
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Happyhippychick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:04 AM Response to Reply #17 |
20. Yes. My daughter used to bang on the glass door with a spoon, I gave her a rubber spatula and let |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:57 AM Response to Reply #20 |
31. It's kind of funny what kids will view as toys.... |
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Recursion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:12 AM Response to Reply #17 |
22. When possible make the kid feel like he/she is choosing what to do |
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Frances (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:36 AM Response to Reply #17 |
26. Excellent suggestion |
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mod mom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:03 AM Response to Original message |
18. For what it's worth, I found the "1,2,3 Magic" method to be very effective. |
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madokie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:21 AM Response to Original message |
24. Funny you should ask that |
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ensho (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:37 AM Response to Original message |
27. when a teen, 'that's not acceptable', will get you nowhere |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:41 AM Response to Original message |
28. The Problem Isn't the Word, "Negro" |
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Bill McBlueState (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 12:42 PM Response to Reply #28 |
37. wait, you mean this thread isn't really about raising children? |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 01:32 PM Response to Reply #37 |
42. The *Thread* Might Very Well Be |
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moc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:43 AM Response to Original message |
29. At that age (11 months) the most effective strategy is distract/redirect. |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:46 AM Response to Original message |
30. Not all parenting books |
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JitterbugPerfume (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 11:59 AM Response to Original message |
32. the word NO |
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TlalocW (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 12:15 PM Response to Original message |
33. No is fine |
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Igel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 09:18 PM Response to Reply #33 |
53. I've done that. |
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undeterred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 12:35 PM Response to Original message |
34. I tried saying "That behavior is unacceptable" |
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Gwendolyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 12:40 PM Response to Original message |
35. You're right. The way language develops is an odd thing. |
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FedUpWithIt All (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 12:40 PM Response to Original message |
36. My fourth child is 11 months. I say a simple and understandable "No!" |
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Eric Cartman (36 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 12:53 PM Response to Original message |
41. It helps with language development. |
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Ioo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 02:02 PM Response to Original message |
45. Beat them!!!! shake them like a British Nanny!!!! That'll learn 'em |
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indie_voter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 02:04 PM Response to Original message |
46. I said "no" to my toddlers then redirected. They're older, and now I explain why, |
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mnhtnbb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 02:14 PM Response to Original message |
48. I always found that "no" accompanied with an explanation, then redirected worked the best |
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GreenPartyVoter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 02:16 PM Response to Original message |
49. "No" was part of my younger kid's name for years. "Branny-no-no" because we had to say it to him so |
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NeedleCast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-30-08 07:51 PM Response to Original message |
52. Oooooooo! Parenting Thread |
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