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[gaspee]

IN this thread is about the only one I've seen actually based in reality.

None of these people (or hardly any) have any clue whatsoever what it's like to be raised with a disabled sibling and *know* you're going to have to care for that sibling for life.

It's not glorious, or some imaginary sky-fairy's plan or any other such nonsense.

It's thankless and horrible and fucks up your life in ways that people who haven't had to do it will never, ever, ever realize.

All that said, this person still your sibling and even though it sucks more than half the time, you take care of them because the thought of putting them into an institution is much, much worse than what you're taking on.

And if the person lives beyond all of their siblings, good luck finding someone in the next generation, who hasn't been raised with the person, who hasn't made the sacrifices because they know and love the person as a person, to take on the burden.

A 50 year sacrifice will be naught because the next generation isn't so personally involved and will probably warehouse the person.