Reply #4: Well, I Don't WANT To Be Single [View All]

[Demeter]

It's not part of my culture nor my family tradition.

My great-grandparents celebrated 50 years of marriage. My grandparents celebrated 50 years of marriage. My parents only made it to 43 because my mother died from smoking.

And yet here I am--after 18 years of marriage, it became clear to me that my husband had only been "married" for ten of those years. His financial antics were threatening his children. I cut the knot.

And looking for a new husband while raising children, one seriously disabled, was a total non-starter. I actually found a candidate, but he ran, and then died far too young. Probably because he married a girl who divorced him, and didn't provide the support he needed in his serious health need.

It takes two to make a marriage. Not having a same-sex bent, I'm at a singular disadvantage, if you will pardon the pun.

And while there is life, there is hope, I'm not particularly hopeful.

I've thought of trolling homeless shelters, even.