Reply #43: I'M NOT A FEMINIST!!! [View All]

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Topics like this always inspire me to leave lurkdom.

I will tell you what I dislike about most feminists and what I think the word should mean.

I'm so sick of the "go back to the kitchen" or "have some more babies" comments made by people who are truly uninformed and closed minded.

The real problem is the value we place on our choices. Feminism should be the freedom to make our own life choices without judgment from others who make different choices. It shouldn't matter if we choose to be a stay at home mom, or corporate executives as long as we are happy with our choices.

I am a stay at home mom by choice, my sister is a corporate executive by choice, and both are equally valuable.

I am not dominated by my husband, we are equals in our relationship, We have made the decision together that we do not want someone else raising our children, others may not feel like that and that is okay.

I am an educated woman who will be working soon because both of my children are now in school all day, and there is no way that I will be staying home to clean all day. But my job will come second to my primary focus. And that is my choice

After tons of research on the subject I feel that "MOST" (yes there are exceptions to every rule) women are better able to be the primary caregivers to their children and that is not discounting a fathers role in any way.
Many mothers do not want to give up the responsibilities and joys of their children's care to others.

It is the value placed on the job of caring for our children that is whats wrong with the idea of feminism.

If feminists would embrace the value of women who choose to be a stay at home mother it wouldn't be such a dirty word.

There is more than one way to live.

Just so there are no misconceptions about me, I am a democrat, somewhat liberal, born and raised in California newly transplanted in Texas, non religious, college educated (4.0 GPA), White woman with biracial and gay family members, currently a stay at home mother and proud of every inch of it.