Reply #3: I would think every family has had to make this decision at some [View All]

[beyurslf]

point. Maybe not a feeding tube, but surely machines of some sort. We had to decide whether to use sucking to keep pulling fluid from my grandma's lungs. It was the worst decision we ever had to make because she clearly told us to let her go before she lost consciousness. And make no mistake, she said do not suction my lungs. She had had to make that choice with her father a few years earlier and saw the suction prolong his life a month and cause nothing but pain. So we didn't suction her lungs at all. But hearing her literally drowning in fluid.... I can't tell you it is not something that makes me pause to reconsider--even absolutley knowing it is what she wanted.
No family should have to publicly declare these decisions for all to judge.