Reply #116: It's time for you both to do two things. [View All]

[tjwash]

Number one: Move. Get as far away from that manipulative mother in law as you possibly can. I can tell just in that brief snippet of her neurotic behavior that you described that she will never let you two live your own life as long as you are within controlling distance.

Number two: Tell your husband to grow up and cut the apron strings. If you have resorted to "keeping our method from his Mom because we do not want her to go overboard" that just says he has never stood up to her, and she knows he never will. Keeping secrets from her is a weak compromise. Until he finally puts his foot down and makes your family number one in his life instead of his mother, expect it to only escalate.