Reply #18: he mentioned talking to a chaplain [View All]

[thinkingwoman]

I don't know how much they have talked but he is working with one so maybe that will help move things along.

He told my hubby last night that if this was 2 years ago, he would be going to war. He wouldn't like it, but he would go because he volunteered to serve and that is his obligation...but in the past few months his life has completely changed and spiraled (as he slid into a depressive cycle) and now that he's been diagnosed he feels shaky and unsure of himself and doesn't think he can adequately do his job, which we feel isn't fair to the guy/gal next to him in a war zone, let alone him.

It's so frustrating because hubby's parents and 2 brothers kept this all to themselves when they are actually the least qualified to do what needed to be done about it. There are 5 brothers in all and we can make quite a racket on his behalf, but hubby and I are coming late to the party when we're the most equipped to research options and carry them out. :eyes: