Reply #97: That is sad for your friend. [View All]

[Jen72]

How ever when most women decides to have a child, unplanned or not, they will understand that they are responsible. They know that for the time they are pregnant, the cannot drink alcohol, be around smokers, drink coffee, they have to be careful about flying, lifting things,they stay awake at night when the baby kicks or they can't get comfortable. They have that time to realise that their life, for the next 18 years, with revolve around somebody else. They also realise that for all the pain and discomfort that is the baby, they don't even know should die, it would hurt like nothing on earth.
Some women do abandon their children and society will vilify them.
But the majority of mothers, feel the responsibilities and burdens of having a child, from the moment they decide to have the baby until well after they leave home. Many of them do this with nothing more that a minimum contribution and occasional contact from, a man that has lived a free life.
Those mothers also understand that for all of the heartache and struggles, her life alone with her child is richer, then the life of the man without the courage to rise to the challenge of fatherhood.