Reply #338: The payment of support to the child is not unfair nor one-sided [View All]

[Tansy_Gold]

The woman is only able to collect child support ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD if she also takes the responsibility to raise it. This is not a one-way street. She contributes her portion -- cash, time, blood sweat and tears, worry, etc. ALL he is required to contribute is cash.

The guys who are so vocal against this seem to be using an argument that they are bound to pay the full price while the mother gets off paying nothing. AU CONTRAIRE.

If she decides against raising the child, either through abortion or adoption, she's off the hook and so is he. Fair and square, even steven.

The only scenario the guys object to is when they don't want the kid but she does, for whatever reason, and she decides he has to live up to his obligation TO THE KID.

That obligation was sealed when they had sex -- obligation to any child that might be born of the union. She is not obligated to carry it, but if she does, he's obligated to help pay for it.

Options? Choices? You think it's all up to the woman? You've got all kinds of choices, ranging from vasectomy to condom to masturbation. You want free and easy naked-penile-tissue-to-naked-vaginal-tissue sex, then you accept the consequences, and part of that is accepting the responsibility that if she gets pregnant and decides to keep it. And you can't possibly suggest at this point that you're uninformed of potential consequences (which is why SOME of us are sooooo insistent on real sex education instead of just "oooh, noooo, don't do that dirty deed!").

You would much prefer that things stay the way they were in the good ol' days, when you had free run of the earthly brothel, to plant your squiggly little seeds wherever you felt like it. To brand any woman who had sex with you a fallen hussy and thus fair game for any future forays by you and/or your friends. Etc. Etc.

What some of us are saying here is no fucking way. You wanna have sex, you accept the responsibilities. Be a MAN about it, instead of a quivering dick. Quit whining.

Sheesh, I'm wondering why any DU-ish woman would want to get into the sack with these guys. I'll bet they're just as insensitive to the sexual pleasure of their partners as they are when it comes to taking care of the results. Ick.