Reply #48: most sex offenders have nothing to do with children [View All]

[amazona]

There are lots of sex offenses that get people put on the registry.

Perhaps an argument could be made for a registry of people PROVEN to have had sex with small children or to have committed violent rape.

But a sex offender could be someone who sold a dirty magazine in the wrong county. Could be a hooker giving the wrong 55 year old a blow job. Could be a "flasher" who actually thought he was alone on a side street and was just relieving himself of a beer. Could be a 17 year old who got caught going down on his 16 year old girlfriend. Could be a 6 year old playing doctor with an 8 year old. True, in the last two cases (which I read about in the press), children were involved. But are these really offenses that would scar their victims for life? Do the young people involved actually need to be labeled as sex offenders and be unable to find jobs and housing for life.

You know, I played doctor with other kids when I was a child. Some of those kids were younger than I was. Does that make me a sexual predator? Do two healthy teen-agers doing what God and nature intended them to do...are they sexual predators? Or is it only the boy that is a sexual predator? What if the girl is the one who is 17? You know, we are really making it tough for today's teens to have decent relationships. If one of them is the wrong age in the wrong state with the wrong parents, even if it's consensual and they care about each other, they can be ripped apart and one or both labeled as sex offenders.

These lists are filled with names of people that should not be on them.

To assume that all sex offenders have molested or "damaged" a child is completely wrong.

And, as a former victim, I am completely offended by the idea that I am damaged for life. I don't accept that. No one is going to put the idea in my head that I am somehow "less" because of rape. I refuse.