Reply #61: She's out there somewhere [View All]

[populistmom]

I've always been a big fan of the perpetually "nice" guy. I seemed to have to seek them out because it always seemed like the loud mouthed idiots were attracted to me (unfortunately on occasion, I find they still are). My husband was always one of those sweet guys that was the rebound guy for his female friends. He'd listen to their problems, be there for them and in the end, they'd go back to there sleezy, jerk boyfriends.
Then he got to be friends with this young college girl who moved into his building. She was tired of the way guys her age treated her and was in a different place that most people her age. They had lots in common- books, politics, bizzare family backgrounds. She loved his protectiveness and how he listened. She made her move because he never would have. They had awesome sex and were best friends.
And 13 years later, we still do (when the kids don't interupt us that is) and still are. Life's not perfect and we've been through a lot, but over all, we both pretty happy folks.
Things do work eventually for men who treat women decently. I just don't understand some women. They have a decent man in their life and they throw it away. I always think that those who need it(including myself at times) should get some help for their problems and move on. We all have past shit that hits us at times and hurts us, but don't make the people who care about us and haven't hurt us pay for someone else's mistakes.