Reply #24: Sort of "been there"...I feel for your Sis. [View All]

[BiggJawn]

Wasn't married for 30 years, but my last wife threw me out in the street and moved a girl 1/2 her age in to replace me.

Your sister is in Hell right now. What she needs is somebody to cry to/vent to, just be there. it's gonna be rough.

You can't fight it. When your spouse runs off with somebody who's plumbed like you, you can go through all the feelings of inadequacy and stuff,and shake it off. But when they dump you for a same-sex "new thing" what can you do? You can't rationalize it. You get the feelings of not being "all that", and it really hits you where you live.

Me. I climbed inside a bottle for about a year and a half. Had therapy, which didn't work until I went through about 3 therapist (the first 2 wanted to "address my anger")the third guy just let me come unglued then helped me to pick myself back up.

Don't be alarmed if your sister jumps the bones of the first male who looks her way,. After getting the ultimate rejection from her husband, she needs a validation, no matter how "inappropiate" of her own sexuality. let her have a fling, don't judge.

She will heal, but it's gonna take some time. Please don't be alarmed or judge her if she goes through a "homophobic phase",where she's really "down" on Gays. It's a coping mechanism to deal with her anger. and believe me, even if you don't see it right now, she's gonna get angry, very angry...

Just be there for her!