Reply #157: I had this conversation with my guy.. [View All]

[Dastard Stepchild]

When we first started dating. He said that he never went out much because the girls never paid him attention. I said that sometimes girls can't push past the throng of aggressive guys to get to the sweet ones standing on the periphery - the quiet ones looking at the girls from a distance. Shyness does have a lot to do with this. However, if I may defend some gals for just a moment: if you are being lambasted on all sides from the guys that will approach you, it is difficult to disentangle yourself from that mass of humanity to find the quiet guys on the sidelines. I've found this to be true for some women - myself included. And since I am a bit shy, and since I really liked the shy sideline guys, I have a string of near misses and "almost there" love stories in my history. That's why I love the internets... it's like stumbling into the house of a shy guy and saying "hello."
Some women love the attention from chest-beating loudmouths. It would even appear that many women seem to love this depending on the environment you are in. But, not all women do. If you haven't met the girl that can appreciate that, chances are, she's shy, too. :)