Reply #31: it's so hard on girls [View All]

[cassandra uprising]

i'm not a mom, but i've lived through a rocky adolescence. both mother and daughter survived. you have to trust the foundation that you've given her, she may loose track, but she will come back.

i hit puberty too early. i f-ing hate saying it that way, like it's my fault that my body runs on a different time scale then the one that society has ordained for me. so it's my problem if i don't know how to adjust from being a tomboy to having guys tens years older wanting to sex with me.

but that's what happens. and while society imposes a whole other bag of gender role baggage on boys, boys are allowed to be stupid and irresponsible through their adolescence, but girls don't have that luxury. especially, if they're intelligent.

the thinking goes like this: 'oh well, she acts older than she is, and is more mature for her age -so i should treat her like she's older.'

there doesn't seem to be any room for girls to be smart and beautiful and still be girls.

sorry for the rant, but this topic is hits close to home.

just trust yourself that you've instilled in her the tools she needs to separate the good from the bs. let her make her mistakes, but don't let her go. you have all my best. and a hearty second on the therapy.