Reply #19: Several suggestions to get started. All worked on me :) [View All]

[greatauntoftriplets]

Strike up an innocent conversation in a thread -- make certain your friend learns something of the "victim's" interest and he/she should post something that the target will notice -- it worked on me. :)

Then your friend should do a search on the target and learn his/her interests, approximately age, where the person lives, etc. -- and start repeated threds guaranteed to catch the target's interest -- it worked on me. :)

After collecting as much information as possible, your friend should mention having some information that the target will be extremely interested in learning. But your friend cannot have the information with him/her at that very moment. It is something that will be revealed a bit later -- it worked FOR me (notice how this is different from above). :)

In my case, it was the name of a book that was of interest to the other person. And I sent it to him via PM. Thus began a long history of PMs and now talk for hours on end (we live in different cities and haven't been able to meet IRL yet for several excellent reasons -- jobs, care of elderly parents and lack of mobility as a result of both). One day... :D

It isn't easy, but it can work. Hope this isn't too damn confusing. Make certain your friend reads everything that the target writes...it helps. My response to the thread that got us started was totally innocent -- I had been intimidated by the poster's depth of knowledge for a while, thought he was interesting, and was happy to take the plunge.