Reply #6: That happened to me with a guy [View All]

[Nikia]

At this academic camp we went to in high school. He took me out for what I thought were dates, especially since he paid. That first Friday, I told him that I really liked him. He said that he was sorry about that because he had a girl friend and that she was visiting him at the camp that weekend. I was hurt and it got worse from there.
When I was in college, I tried to mention that I had a boyfriend. Now I try to mention that I have a husband when I talk to men who are being friendly to me. There have been a couple men though that didn't seem to get it and ended up hurt despite telling them this several times.
I think that attatched people and unattatched people often have different goals when they are being friendly with someone. A single person will generally want to date a person who they find friendly, attractive, and someone who they like. An attatched person might not have a problem with being friends with someone like that and still might be committed to their primary relationship.