Reply #24: It's a crappy sentiment, but this is where it comes from [View All]

[EstimatedProphet]

Unfortunately there are some women who are from dysfunctional backgrounds like you said, and they confuse attention with validation. They want attention from men, because it means to them they are worthwhile. With someone like this, the worse you treat them, the better they try to treat you, in the hopes that you will give them the validation they need. If you however start by giving them the attention they are looking for, then they have it already and see no need to give it back. It happens with men too, but in different ways. And unfortunately there are men who generalize this sentiment into all women, which it decidedly is not all woman by any stretch. It's a case of a few who have very low self-esteem.