Reply #14: that's exactly how he should act. Don't force him out, don't bother him [View All]

[jobycom]

Give him his own food and water. He will get used to the place, and the other animals, on his own time, even if he's not in community with them. He's scared, he's just got to figure it out. I've had many cats do exactly that, and I've had some cats do that every time I moved to a new place. They have to adjust, and forcing them only scares them. Let him be, check in on him now and then to let him know he's wanted and that he's safe where he is. Let him get used to your face and the smell and sounds. He's also still freaked out about the car ride.

Also, let Paul sit outside the cabinet and talk to him. Prop the door open, and just let him talk softly. Toe-by (I love that!) has already bonded a little with Paul, so Paul is a familiar face. Tell Paul not to reach in for him, but he can try to coax him. If Toe-by comes, Paul can let him sniff, and pet him, but don't try to force Toe-by into anything. This will help Toe-by adjust, and will teach Paul a few things about cats, too.

Takes anywhere from three days to two weeks. You did NOT make a mistake, because Toe-by would act that way anywhere, and if you bring him back, he may not find a home. So even sputtering and spitting in a closet, Toe-by is better off with you. Eventually Toe-by will become the same motorboat you first saw. He's just got to get used to his home, so he can become himself.

Plus, the other pets will get used to his smell, and his presence.