Reply #1: Dunno. Here are some test questions: [View All]

[struggle4progress]

Can your kid argue with you? Is the kid afraid to lose his temper with you? Does the kid talk to you about his life and friends and ideas? Can the kid win a polite and rational debate with you? Do you like the kid and does the kid know it?

It's good if you have clear rules and enforce them, and it's even better if your relationship will enable the kid to begin to understand reasons for the rules and to negotiate them some, since the kid's going to grow up and will need his own internal rules, preferably based on a rational and empathetic respect for other people

Lots of lax parents don't require kids to show appropriate behavior, even when it's important in settings like museums or concerts, for example. Insecure authoritarians, on the other hand, insist on thuggish controlling behavior in settings where it would really be better to let the kids be themselves

But I wasn't there so I don't know